Plus-size woman hits back at nasty trolls who say her toned husband should be with someone thinner
A curvier woman has hit back at nasty internet trolls who said her muscular man should be with someone thinner than her.
Alicia McCarvell, a body positive influencer from Canada, recently posted a video to: TikTok which showed that she was on good terms with her husband, Scott McCarvell, to whom she has been married for 15 years.
However, she soon received a slew of negative comments from social media users on the video — which has been viewed more than 24 million times — saying their relationship wasn’t right.
Some people accused him of only being with her for money, wondered if he was secretly gay, and said she wasn’t “fat” when he first fell in love with her.
She has now responded to the reaction in a new video — denouncing “society’s beauty standards” and those who believe that someone who is physically fit “can never be in love with or be compatible with a fat woman.”
A curvier woman has hit back at vicious internet trolls who said her muscular man should be with someone thinner than her
Alicia McCarvell, a body positive influencer from Canada, recently posted a video on TikTok showing her socializing with her husband, Scott McCarvell
However, she soon received a slew of negative comments from social media users about the video, saying their relationship was off.
Some people accused him of being with her only for money, wondered if he was secretly gay and said she wasn’t “fat” when he first fell in love with her
“I posted a simple transition video of me and my husband going from towels to dressing up together. This is no different from what all kinds of different couples are doing on this app,” she began in her reaction video, which received more than 15 million views.
The video showed her and Scott in their towels before transforming into them all dressed up for a night out
“My video went viral and I know we all know why. It’s because by beauty standards we don’t make sense.”
Alicia said that when people look at them, they often “value Scott more than her.”
She continued, “Because we don’t add up, people try to add things to my side of the equation to make sense, saying things like, ‘Oh, she must not have been fat when they met,’ or, “Oh, she must be rich.”
Or they try to diminish his side of the equation by saying things like, “He must be gay,” or “He has a fetish for fat women.”
“We were made to believe that someone as physically fit as Scott could never be in love or compatible with a fat woman in a million years.
“And that’s only because the world has literally taught us to value our worth” [based] on our body.’
Alicia admitted to telling herself for “the majority of their relationship” that she wasn’t worthy of “his love” because of her body.
The video – which has been viewed more than 24 million times – received a slew of nasty comments from online users
She has now responded to the reaction in a new video – denouncing the ‘society’s trash beauty standards’
She also said that “thin” women often slip into his DMs and attack her husband, with one recently telling him, “You should be with someone who looks like me.”
Alicia said that when people look at them, they often “immediately value Scott as more than her,” because she is taught to “value their worth according to their bodies.”
“I underestimate myself and she overestimates herself. We’ve both been made to believe that our value lies in our bodies,” she added.
Alicia explained what matters to her husband: “How well her body fits into society’s beauty standards is not at the top of his list.”
“He appreciates my humor and my dedication and my love and my caring heart,” she explained.
“None of these things that he appreciates about me changes as my body changes. So when someone slides into his DMs, putting his body first, he asks, “But what else?”
“Because, like me, he knows that people’s values don’t lie in how well their bodies fit into society’s beauty standards.
“And I get it, if this is the way you think, it’s the way you learned it. However, it is your responsibility to unlearn it.’
She also explained that when it comes to what her husband values, “how well her body fits into society’s beauty standards is not at the top of his list.”
She also said that “thin” women often slip into his DMs, adding: “I underestimate myself and” [they are] overestimated himself. We are both forced to believe that our worth is in our bodies
Alicia admitted she told herself for ‘the majority of their relationship’ she wasn’t worthy of ‘his love’ because of her body
Despite getting a lot of negative comments, Alicia sometimes gets supportive messages from her followers too
Despite getting a lot of negative comments, Alicia sometimes gets supportive messages from her followers as well.
“I see two beautiful people in love with each other and with themselves and I live for it,” one person wrote on a recent video of her.
“I’m so sorry for the amount of hate you’re dealing with. Really unbelievable,” added someone else.
Another person said: ‘The people who are crazy project their own insecurities.
“I really can’t believe how many jealous and hateful people are in these comments,” a fourth comment read, while a fifth said, “You have to be really unhappy in life to comment on someone else’s relationship. She’s beautiful inside and out.’
Being muscular/fit doesn’t make him a better person than she is. I think he’s the lucky one,” agrees another user. “She obviously brings so much joy/happiness to their relationship.”
“It’s not these comments,” said someone else, referring to the hatred she got. “You are beautiful and deserve to be treated like a queen.”