A strange emotion overcame me this morning: I actually felt sorry for Meghan Markle.
As I have made clear, perhaps too often, I am not a huge fan of my one-time friend after she coarse ghosted me since she met Prince Harry.
But when I read the cruel reaction to the photos of her bothering her new baby son Archie at a polematch, I got a surprising feeling of compassion.
She has only been a mother for a few weeks.
It takes time, and lots of trial and error, to become familiar with how you can comfortably care for a baby.
Backlash: Meghan Markle is embarrassed by the mother for the way she held her newborn son Archie during the baby's first public outing on Wednesday
Critics claimed they & # 39; uncomfortable & # 39; looked and looked like she was going to drop the newborn & # 39; because of the way he was uncomfortable in her arms
I am sure there are many similar pictures of me in the family archives that have similar problems with my firstborn son.
But by the time my daughter arrived, 20 years later, I could wear her as with the business elegance of Mary Poppins.
So I did not share the cheerful assault given to Meghan because I had not behaved Archie in a perfect way.
I even thought the attacks on her were mean and terrible.
& # 39; That's yours! & # 39; I hear you cry.
And yes, I think it is a bit, given how critical I have been of herself.
But one of the reasons Meghan becomes such a lightning rod for wild criticism is because she has made so many bad mistakes since joining the royal family, and has irritated so many people in the process.
It is not easy to marry in the royal family, as we saw with Fergie, Duchess of York and Princess Diana.
It is not easy to marry into the royal family as Meghan, considering introducing baby Archie to Prince Philip and the Queen to Prince Harry and mother Doria, sorting out
Your life changes drastically and the attention for every movement becomes incredibly intense.
But in return you get the palaces, the servants, the glamorous parties, the endless freebies and the potential admiration of millions of people around the world.
Meghan Markle clearly needs help in making this transition, and who better to offer it than someone like me who once visited them ironically for advice on how to deal with the media?
The royal couple's house, Frogmore Cottage, is located on the grounds of Windsor Castle, which is open to the public
So here's my 10-point guide for Meghan on how to be a popular princess:
1) Stop bleating about privacy
If you are public, with the public, you are a public person. Your ridiculous behavior at Wimbledon this week has shown me that you have not understood that being royal is very different from being a celebrity. To have royal protectors paying British taxpayers, recommending people not to take pictures while you watch the tennis in your free VIP seats with your friends, was shameful and shameful – not least because none of the two photos taken of you!
Meghan came under fire for demanding privacy at Wimbledon – a public event – and recommending people not to take photos of her
2) Do not share, do not suppress, basic information about your life
It was completely absurd for you and Harry to refuse to reveal details of where your son Archie was born, or to confirm the names of his godparents. It was also completely pointless – the media will always find out in the end. Nobody likes a double-faced control freak who wants to turn the publicity tap on and off when it suits them, especially when they pay for a large part of your lush lifestyle.
3) Stop showing off
We all know that royals live lives of unimaginable wealth and luxury, but we don't want you to push it through our throats. That $ 500,000 baby shower was utterly obscene, just like your inexorable habit of hauling in private jets from your celebrity partners like the Clooneys and parading around in seemingly limitless high-end, very expensive fashion items. You are not a Kardashian, so cool the flashy rays.
4) Do not take the p * ss
You may not be familiar with this British colloquial language, but it means that you don't have to push your painfully clear sense of justice. It was bad enough that you and Harry, both multi-millionaires, paid the public for the renovation of your sprawling Frogmore Cottage (which the Queen had already donated to you!) But how the hell did you spend $ 3 million on the? Simply excessive extravagance, which got exactly the negative heads it deserved.
5) Avoid being a hypocrite
On the same day you did it with your baby shower in New York, your Twitter account at Kensington Palace placed us to do more for poor people. I mean come on ?! And if you continue to save the planet on your Instagram page, then maybe Harry will stop taking helicopters for hours of car journeys hours of hours after he delivered a speech about the vital need to help the environment?
While Meghan was enjoying an excessive baby shower in New York, the Kensington Palace Twitter account pleaded to do more for poor people
6) Put your wokeness back to sleep
The reason why the queen, like her mother for her, is so loved is that she never teaches us how to live our lives justly. Nobody wants to hear your ultra-liberal pleas, believe me. When it comes to public expressions by the royals, less is certainly more. As the Queen Mother once said about the secret of a popular prince: & # 39; Never complain, never explain, and rarely hear public speaking & # 39 ;.
7) Pack your ongoing PR campaign in the US media
There is nothing that will fascinate British media more than you constantly grant access allowances to friends such as Gayle King on CBS, or let your American friends know how great you are with magazines like People – especially when you're popping privacy back in Britain. Harry can hate the British media for obvious reasons, but you have to build bridges with it and not burn them down. They will determine whether you will receive positive or negative reporting in the press.
8) Refraining from stupid tokenism
We do not want our royals to write & # 39; empowerment & # 39; messages about bananas for sex workers. It is patronizing, irritating and has only made the women involved laugh. All you have to do to help charities is show up, shake hands, smile, empathize and listen. That is it. You don't have to try that hard & # 39; people please & # 39 ;. The queen never does stupid stunts because she knows she doesn't have to.
9) Make peace with the Cambridges
Everyone knows you don't understand – the tense body language on yesterday's polo patch said it all – but you have to try. William and Harry have a very special place in the heart of the audience because of what happened to their mother. We don't like the idea of the boys, or their wives, feuding. So stop some of your seemingly insatiable energy to improve everyone's well-being by solving this painful place in your own backyard.
Royal fans continued to have doubts about the relationship between the Sussexes and Cambridges after sharing a picture of Archie's baptism. From left to right, the Duchess of Cornwall, the Prince of Wales, Mrs. Doria Ragland, Lady Jane Fellowes, Lady Sarah McCorquodale, The Duke of Cambridge and The Duchess of Cambridge are depicted. The duke and duchess of Sussex sit at Archie Center
10) Plant trees and do your duty
The queen showed this week how the best form of royal duty is often the simplest. By shunning help, taking a shovel and planting trees for a few seconds, she showed the world that she is one of us in heart and soul. It doesn't cost much for a royal to win hearts and minds. Her mother was honored for the next 60 years after she went and stood in the ruins of the East End in London during the Nazi Luftwaffe Blitz during the Second World War. Oh, and the next time a world leader detests you, like Donald Trump, comes to town, hold your nose, and come up to greet them. That is also part of it.
So to summarize, Meghan: keep it simple, keep it humble, keep it sincere, keep it public, keep your mouth shut – and respect will come.
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