& # 39; Dad & # 39 ;, Meghan Markle once wrote a card to her father Thomas on Valentine's Day: "I do not pronounce myself as often as I would like, how much you mean to me. Everything you do for me has changed me into who I am and I am so grateful. The only thing I want to do is make you proud and I promise, no matter what happens, I'll do it. Thanks for everything, Dad, I love you with all my heart, now and forever. & # 39;
Meghan drew the moving handwritten message 'Bean & # 39 ;, his nickname for her.
She sent him a card every Valentine's Day.
She also sent him a card every Christmas.
For her second marriage, Meghan would send her father a sincere card every Christmas and every Valentine's Day. Here he is at her first wedding
On a Valentine's Day, Meghan writes: "Papa, everything you do for me has changed me into who I am and I am so grateful. The only thing I want to do is make you proud … and I promise, no matter what happens, I'll do it. Thanks for everything dad. I love you with all my heart, now and forever. Love Bean & # 39;
And in a Christmas card she writes: & # 39; Because you've always been so generous with me … it brings me so much joy to give you this Christmas. I absolutely do not love you. Meg. & # 39; Inside was a $ 2000 gift for a vacation
In one of them she wrote: "Papa, because you have always been so generous with me and have had the best care for me, it brings me so much joy to be able to give you this Christmas. I love you till the end, Meg. & # 39;
She included a $ 2000 gift for a vacation, as a small sign of her appreciation for the small fortune he had spent on her private education over the years.
But that was then, and this is it now.
This is the first Christmas that Thomas Markle has not received a card from his little girl and it is breaking his heart.
I interviewed him today at Good Morning Britain and found a sad, bewildered father in a state of grief for the daughter he fears he has lost forever.
Thomas Markle is not a bad man.
I interviewed Thomas Markle on Monday morning and found a decent man who mourns his relationship with his beloved daughter
He is a 74-year-old boy who quietly retired in Mexico when his daughter suddenly started with a prince – and not just a prince, but one of the two most famous princes in the world, the youngest son of Princess Diana.
At that time, the life of Markle Senior changed irrevocably.
The media of the world came together and he struggled to fix it.
For reasons that keep me amazed, Prince Harry waved this poor man in the wind. No one from the great palace staff was sent to see him, to advise him or simply to hold his hand as the paparazzi descended.
Thomas Markle was forced to do what he liked best, and he made some awful mistakes of judgment, in which he especially conspired with a photographer to make himself look good in the press.
I understand why Harry would hate that, he still blames the media for his mother's death and has a visceral hatred of paparazzi that is perfectly understandable.
Thomas Markle made horrible mistakes for the wedding, in which he especially conspired with a photographer. I understand why Harry would hate that, he blames the media for the death of his mother and has a hatred of paparazzi. But Harry and the palace left this poor fellow to wave in the wind
I also understand why Meghan will feel hurt and let down by his actions.
And why she was furious and angry when he retired to come to London for the wedding and walked her down the aisle.
But I think Thomas, when he said that the whole thing caused him heart problems (the Daily Mail has seen his hospital archives) and I also believe that it was just too much for him.
The consequences of that fateful week are enormous.
He told me today that Meghan did not speak to him within 8 months, and refused to respond to his daily sms messages and regular letters in which he begs her to forgive him.
Furthermore Prince Harry has never met his father-in-law, which seems extraordinary extraordinary.
And Thomas Markle wonders what the hell happened to his life.
When I asked him today what message he had for Meghan, he replied: "I love you very much. I would love to hear from you. Whatever difficulties we have had, I hope we can process them. We are family. & # 39;
He was not angry or bitter.
He was just sad, very sad.
In a few months the world will see Meghan's baby, but the man who welcomes HER into the world will not do that.
In a few months the world will see Meghan's baby, but unless things change, the man who welcomes HER into the world will not see his grandchild.
Meanwhile, he continues to be haunted by the media and he still struggles with the best way to deal with the attention.
When Meghan's pregnancy was announced, Thomas had seven paparazzi for the following week.
But nobody seems to have a lot of sympathy. He is positioned as a bad father who has betrayed his perfect daughter, and as a result he is viciously attacked on social media and the subject of endless criticism in the media.
I think the extent of the abuse that he gets is grotesquely unfair.
As to why he speaks in interviews, he quite rightly states that he has no other way to respond to the countless stories about him, many of which are untrue and cruel.
And I believe he hopes that Meghan will see them and feel guilt for the way she cut him out of her lie.
Thomas was not paid today for his interview with Good Morning Britain, so money was not his motivation.
He just wants to get his daughter back.
And I hope he is successful.
But for every rapprochement that takes place, Meghan will have to swallow her pride and anger.
& # 39; She has always been a very controlling person, & # 39; Thomas said today. & # 39; She has always been in charge. & # 39;
Well, at this moment she has complete control over this miserable situation and she does not show any signs ever to talk to her father.
When I met Meghan in my local pub, I thought she was a warm, open and very radiant woman. She also spoke very affectionately about her family.
As I wrote last week, I find the way they ghost & # 39; ghostde & # 39; from the moment she met Harry (that same night), coarse and unnecessary, and indicative of a ruthless social climber.
But cutting me off, a nonchalant friend, is an unimportant thing without any repercussions for her other than that it irritated me and I have several platforms to whine about.
Cutting off her father is on a whole different scale of emotional hell, as she must now discover.
If I still had contact with Meghan, I would do what a friend of hers should do now, and look her in the eye to say this: & # 39; You have everything you've ever dreamed of, but please do not as if for me that the father you loved so much is dead to you or that this break makes you happy. Do the right thing and take the phone as long as possible. As your husband knows better than most of what happened to his mother, life can be cruelly shortened. & # 39;
Just a few weeks before I saw Meghan, in the summer of 2016 she placed a photo on Thomas's Instagram that hugged her like a baby.
& # 39; Happy Father's Day, Dad, & # 39; she wrote, "I am still your bear, and to this day your hugs are still the best in the whole world."
From her own words, in so many similar notes and maps, Meghan's very sincere love for her father is indisputable.
Just a few weeks before Meghan met Harry in 2016, she posted it on Thomas's Instagram that hugged her like a baby. & # 39; Happy Father's Day, Dad, & # 39; she wrote, "I'm still your bear booby, and to this day your hugs are still the best in the whole world." She has now thrown away this real love
That it would all be thrown away in this cruel way seems so useless.
I'm sure Meghan still feels broken about how her father behaved towards her in the run-up to the wedding.
For a good reason.
I also know for sure that Thomas feels broken about the way she has behaved against him ever since.
Again, for a good reason.
Princess Diana was known as the Queen of Hearts.
Meghan, do not let yourself be known as the Queen of Broken Hearts.
Call your father, make peace and hug him again – before it's too late.