A bridesmaid was shocked and hurt when the bride, her best friend of nearly 30 years old, made her an unsolicited weight loss plan so she would drop 30 pounds. for the wedding.
The 33-year-old woman from Orlando, Florida assumed reddit on Tuesday to vent her frustration and seek some advice on how to deal with the painful behavior of the bride.
She said that because the bride and her fiancé – both of whom are personal trainers – offered her a diet and fitness plan and said they expected her to lose a little heavier weight for their marriage, she is not even sure if she would want to attend the wedding.
Rude! A bridesmaid says that personal trainer bride and groom made her a workout and meal plan so she would lose 30 pounds. for their big day (stock image)
The Redditor and her boyfriend have known each other since they were five years old, but the insensitive remarks of the bride have confused their friendship.
& # 39; My friend is a personal trainer and has just been engaged to another personal trainer. All their friends were met at the gym where they both work, & the Redditor explained.
& # 39; I am not a personal trainer … I am an American size 10. So I am not obese, but I am certainly fatter (side). & # 39;
But she insists that she is healthy and that her appearance is good.
I never asked for help, I never said I wanted to lose weight … They both kind of took on the task of "helping me"
& # 39; I feel very comfortable with who I am and my doctor too, & # 39; she said.
However, it seems that her best friend of nearly three decades is not good at what she looks like – and expects her to change her lifestyle and transform her body in time for her marriage.
Even worse, she presented the plan as if she were giving the maid a generous favor.
& # 39; Tonight she called me with the & # 39; best & # 39; news. She and her fiancé put together a great workout and meal plan for me, & wrote the Redditor.
& # 39; They think that if I drop 20-30 pounds, the wedding photo & # 39; s will be more "symmetrical". She was so happy and excited, like she was doing me a favor, & she said.
& # 39; I didn't even know what to say, so I just hung up and didn't respond. I was completely stunned … This is not a situation where I constantly sing about my weight and then get angry when someone offers to help.
& # 39; I have never asked for help, I have never said that I wanted to lose weight … They both took on the task of doing something to & # 39; help me & # 39;. & # 39;
She said she & # 39; clearly & # 39; chose not to become a bridesmaid now, and added that & # 39; I am not even sure at the moment if I want to go & # 39 ;.
& # 39; Why would anyone think this was right? I really have no idea how to discuss this with her. I feel that it is much more the fiancé than she is, & she concluded. It even turns out that even the bride's mother is confused by the bride's behavior.
& # 39; She has become a bride. This is very out of character. Her mother emailed me last night saying that she wasn't at all, and her daughters will regret it for the rest of her life if I'm not her bridesmaid, & she said,
She tried to say she really thought I was just too embarrassed to ask for help and this was the time to do it
Other Redditors were sympathetic and disgusted with the bride's behavior, and in the end the maid said on honor that she decided to skip the wedding all together.
Shortly after she posted to Reddit, she told the bride not to bother sending her an invitation.
& # 39; I talked to her and it all came from viewing wedding ideas on Pinterest. She has some great ideas for photos of weddings and "was afraid that I would see the photos afterwards and be ashamed."
& # 39; She tried to say she really thought I was just too embarrassed to ask for help and this was the time to do it.
& # 39; I told her I'm never ashamed of my mate, why would I do that now? She just didn't have an answer. & # 39;
Instead, the Redditor and her husband are going to spend the money that they would have used to go to the wedding to go on a cruise with their children.
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