People who regularly attended religious services have opened up about why they quit and will never go back.
Reddit user u / seventeen cans began the thought-provoking discussion about religion earlier this week with a simple question, “When did you stop going to church?”
Christians, Jews, Muslims, and Mormons were among the respondents, and their responses ranged from broad to specific, with one person admitting that the ‘brunch’ just got in the way.
About it: Reddit users have revealed why they have stopped attending religious services and will never go back (stock image)
Includes: Christians, Jews, Muslims and Mormons were among the respondents who spoke about their decision to stop attending religious services
A number of lapsed Christians cited the child sexual abuse scandals that have turned the Roman Catholic Church upside down in recent decades.
“My husband was raised a Catholic, she would go to church at least once or twice a month and feel guilty if we didn’t go for more than a month,” explained one Reddit user. Then the pedo scandal happened and she had no interest whatsoever. She still has faith in God and Jesus, but has no faith in religion as an institution. That’s pretty much where I’ve always been. ‘
Another commented, “After the pedo scandal, I started questioning myself and my relationship with the Church and just opened my eyes to all the problems behind that institution …”
“ The priest to whom I confessed my sins was a kiddie diddler and fled the country, ” wrote another, adding, “ I could not be associated in good conscience with a religion that refused to protect its own children . ‘
Hypocrisy was frequently mentioned in the commentaries, with some noting that only ‘certain’ people are welcome in most religious communities.
“I began to realize that the teachings of the church were not Biblical,” shared one person. Every Sunday the pastor spoke about righteousness which was real nationalism, and being free from those who are filled with sin, but very specific sin.
Frank: Their responses ranged from broad to specific, with many Catholics citing the sexual abuse scandals that have turned the church upside down over the decades
“We had church divorces and outright racists, but no gays or ex-convicts. There were teachings about love, but it was very clear that love was only for certain people. ‘
“My dad lost his job and all he could do was travel, which meant he couldn’t make it to Sunday,” someone else recalls. Even though my parents gave monthly to the Church, all we got was ‘prayers for him to find a job closer to home.’
“As a teenager, I was also asked by church elders why [my]Father thought earning money was more important to his family than going to church. ‘
Many Reddit users objected to the way members of the LGBTQ community are treated by some religious sects.
‘I was introduced to the first gay person I’d ever met and he was … great? As a good, kind, caring person who lived a good life, ‘one person explained.
And I started to think about how the church I was a part of for the first 17 years of my life always taught me that homosexuality is a choice, and a mortal sin, and it just seemed … wrong. So I decided that the institution of Catholicism was not for me and I have never explored other religions. ‘
Difficult to handle: some realized they were in a ‘cult’ while others noted that only ‘certain’ people are welcome in most religious communities
“Raised in a Christian sect, the kind that avoided family that stopped believing and thought the only possible way to be saved from the apocalypse was to be an active member of their particular religion,” said another.
‘The thing that woke me up was just getting to know a little bit of people. I got to know gay / trans / atheist / pagan people I worked with, and they were just as compassionate, intelligent and honest as the people in my church. ‘
The term ‘cult’ came up in more than a few posts in the thread.
“I moved to a new city to study and did some church hopping with a religious roommate to see if we could find a church that we liked. At one of the churches I had a “once you see it, you can’t make it invisible” moment when I suddenly thought … this is a cult, “one person recalled.
“The church we went to was a really noisy hallelujah-type place and it was very overwhelming, so I had gone to the bathroom to try and avoid a full-blown panic attack. When I was in there, a few ladies crowded in and told me to take the panic as a sign that the Lord was pouring through me.
Like … no, this is fear, it’s a physiological thing. They really sincerely believed that I was being touched by Jesus and I couldn’t help but feel like they had been brainwashed. It was so uncomfortable and unpleasant that I lost my faith and haven’t really gone back since. ‘
Furious: Few admitted they stopped attending church due to laxity of their places of worship about wearing masks during the pandemic
Many people reported that they stopped attending religious services as soon as they were old enough to make their own decisions.
“I grew up in a casual Jewish family (go to synagogue only on high holidays, not kosher, etc.). My dad (who was the driving force behind the religious side of our family) knew my brothers and I didn’t enjoy it and told us to stick to it until we were 18. I didn’t hold on to it, ” admitted one person. .
‘The Nail in the Coffin was a service where we had to read a passage that said something along the lines of’ we are dust and ashes to God ‘, and I couldn’t figure out to think I was nothing (especially compared to a entity I’d never met or heard of in person), while already had a fair share of bullies in school trying to convince me of the same. ‘
A few admitted that they recently gave up going to church during the COVID-19 pandemic and will not return because their places of worship were so lax about wearing masks.
“I literally left my church. We haven’t been in months because of the pandemic, but there was something for kids that I wanted to do. I can drop them off outside, but for security reasons I have to go in to pick them up, ”one parent wailed.
“None of the staff or other parents wore masks, they didn’t need it from the kids, and no one distanced themselves completely. It was as if 600,000 had not died from a contagious virus in the past year. I tend to be liberal anyway, but this was it. How arrogant and hypocritical are you to spread the message that you care about others when you can’t be bothered to protect them from yourself? ‘