An eye-opening thread has provided insight into what it is like to be bullied in your younger years for what you look like, but to be treated differently when your appearance changes to adulthood.
Users have placed their personal accounts on the Q&A platform Quora, detailing how people use them in both periods of extreme & # 39; awkwardness & # 39; and see beauty in their lives.
A woman who has since been modeled for Victoria & # 39; s Secret, summed up her & # 39; shocking experience & # 39; together where she saw how people treated her differently when she was a & # 39; super clumsy nerd & # 39; was in high school versus when she & # 39; handsome & # 39; was in college.
Occasionally: Model Lyndsey Scott, pictured left during high school and right in 2019, is one of the people who has revealed the emotional effects of a physical transformation
& # 39; Late bloomer & # 39 ;: Lyndsey, pictured left in her youth and right at the age of 35, said that witnessing how people treated her at both ages was a & # 39; shocking experience & # 39; used to be
& # 39; It was strange that people were looking at me in such extremes for about 15 years. I was a late bloomer. I only really looked like a model until after my study, & # 39; Lyndsey Scott, now 35, posted on the site.
& # 39; So it was quite a shocking experience to show people and treat me as they suddenly do. & # 39;
Lyndsey remembered that he was 5 & 9, and only 89 pounds in high school.
& # 39; I was bullied and often friendless during puberty because people automatically rated me as someone I wasn't. Okay, of course, I'll admit I've always been a nerd, but I like being a pretty cool nerd, & she said.
Because they have a self-proclaimed & # 39; late bloomer & # 39; is, the woman has insight into how superficial the world is.
& # 39; No one deserves to be treated differently solely based on their appearance, & # 39; she said.
Modeling: the stately model and the web developer went from & # 39; supergeeky & # 39; to hiking at the Victoria & # 39; s Secret show in 2009, pictured
She added that she now definitely has the & # 39; benefits of good looking & # 39; picks.
& # 39; People offer me a lot more freebies, I earn money from my looks through modeling, strangers talk to me more often, more people listen to me and laugh at my jokes, and I even have a suitor every now and then: all good things , & # 39; she said.
The actress, once Calvin Klein and Gucci model and web developer, said that there is a downside to her new found attractiveness.
& # 39; On the other hand, potential cat callers sometimes skip compliments and just call me ab ** ch when I walk by, some women (although very few) are very catty to me from the start, and many people are shocked to to discover that I am something other than an airhead, that I was a (computer) major and that I program iOS apps, for example. & # 39;
& # 39; Having beauty and intelligence is super useful on occasions where I have to apply a little more authority. If I have to feel the most powerful, I put my hair on, I put on a nice outfit, I put on some makeup and it helps a disgusting amount. In general I feel very happy that I have received this new super power.
& # 39; I have to wonder, why didn't they like me if I am still the same person now? Why do they like me now? How do I know they like me now? Does anyone really like me? Some things don't leave you, & she concluded.
& # 39; Never lose yourself & # 39 ;: Herman Sartaj Singh Raina, pictured left as a teenager and right in 2017, said he now has more confidence than in his younger years
A & # 39; proud & # 39; male Kashmiri user, who also went further in model, humbly said: & # 39; I don't know if I even qualify as attractive, but in my case the transformation has been huge. & # 39;
To illustrate, Herman Sartaj Singh Raina, who is a Sikh, shared a photo of his primary school in 2008, as well as images of his progression over the years.
& # 39; For me more than the physical aspect, it has been more of a spiritual and mental transformation. I then had confidence and I am still confident. & # 39;
Beauty and appearance come and go but honor and dignity remain forever
Herman Sartaj Singh Raina
& # 39; There are many young Sikhs nowadays who accidentally cut their hair and throw away their turbans, just to fit in with the crowd. I did not want it, mainly because I am proud of who I am and what I stand for. & # 39;
& # 39; Never lose your true self because it is your true identity. Beauty and appearance come and go but honor and dignity remain forever. & # 39;
He kept saying that now & # 39; people are more open & # 39; for him.
& # 39; I sometimes get compliments for how I look, but this eventually resulted in a fake superiority complex that developed in me, that I have finally overcome, & he added.
Fight: Sumitra Narayanan, pictured at the age of 12, had a complicated relationship with her body that led her to starve herself and train excessively
The American-Indian user Sumitra Narayanan has posted that she knows she looks & # 39; tidy – but (she) wasn't always like that & # 39 ;.
She recalls that she had developed anorexia because of how gloomy she was about her appearance during puberty and dropping half her body weight.
Reasonable: Now 24, Sumitra said she now never knows & # 39; reasonable limits & # 39; to exceed when it comes to the pursuit of body confidence
& # 39; I did something today that I deeply regret. I have starved myself regularly, and when I ate, I had very strict rules about what kind of food I could eat. I combined this with obsessive exercise at home.
& # 39; This diet / training routine at the rental soldier level lasted at least six months. My close family and friends have made every effort to ensure that I ate and was healthy, but I was convinced that only this drastic thing would ever help me lose enough weight and look good. Borderline anorexia, I went from nearly 135 pounds to a shocking 72 pounds on my 5 & 5 frame. & # 39;
Now 24 years old, she says & # 39; looks fleeting, and it's your personality that stays with you forever & # 39 ;.
She wisely said: “The essence of why it actually feels good is because I'm in control and doing my best to take care of my appearance.
& # 39; Admittedly, appearance isn't the most important thing, but it's an important part of who you are and how people perceive you.
& # 39; If you have it, there is nothing wrong with the & # 39; & # 39; but it is important to understand that you should never go beyond reasonable limits to change / obsess your appearance. & # 39;
Weight Loss: A man who said he was obese for 21 years of his life left, experienced an & # 39; incredible journey & # 39; when he decided to dump the weight on the right
A male user who said he was obese for 21 years & # 39; In the past seven months, he dropped nearly 90 pounds in what he had an & # 39; incredible journey of inspiration, hard work, pain and ultimately success & # 39; calls.
In the process, he said he met & # 39; the real I & # 39 ;.
& # 39; I started to understand that if I do this to please someone, I will certainly fail, "he said. & # 39; IK began to believe that something else could happen. & # 39;
& # 39; I am no longer afraid of challenges, result-oriented and have a positive aspect in every area, & # 39; he said about his transformation.
Ridicule: Nikkole Stehl, pictured left at the university and right in 2019, said that although she is now & # 39; beautiful & # 39; feels, the cruel & # 39; ridicule & # 39; she still plays in her head
Female user Nikkole Stehl remembered the terrible moment that she had the nickname & # 39; crack wh ** e & # 39; received during her student days because of her very thin frame and crooked teeth.
She stated that her high school years & # 39; insidious & # 39; and that her university experience was even worse.
& # 39; I was teased and mocked because I could never afford braces. I was only 100 pounds and the hard water made my hair dry and brittle. People placed on an anonymous app that I looked like a bastard, that girl with the teeth together.
Nikkole started resistance training and got 30 pounds of muscle mass and eventually got braces and colored her fine hair blond.
"I have a rockin body, washboard abs, blue-eyed blondie with 25 credits away from a double bachelor in chemistry and biology," she said. & # 39; I have a house. I'm engaged. I have bought a brand new car. I now have everything in front of me. & # 39;
I despise both as fuel and to be called beautiful
& # 39; I don't think I'm ugly. But the remains of all the hard things that are being said are still constantly taking place in my head. I am regularly called beautiful, reminded that my appearance somehow makes me a target, & she continued.
Nikkole said that now boys from her university are sending her messages, she & # 39; sick & # 39; is.
& # 39; I know that if I didn't & # 39; Fix & # 39; what was wrong with me, I would never be treated the way I am. Men are genuinely shocked and intimidated to discover that I am more intelligent than they are, & she said.
& # 39; Still, the remarks and ridicule I endured are still in my head. I have deep-rooted insecurity problems that I cannot overcome. I nitpick with every mistake or misplaced hair. I am overly sensitive and compliments make me uncomfortable.
& # 39; I despise both as fuel to be called beautiful. It both gives me the feeling that I have conquered all those who have made fun of me, but also that they have won thousands (because I spent) on brackets, gym memberships, makeup, beautiful clothing, new cars & # 39 ;.
Outcast: Nicolas Cole regretted how he was never accepted as a teenager, left, until he transformed his body, in 2015
Nicolas Cole, a writer, recalled only seven years ago that children at school would tease him because he looked like a & # 39; Holocaust survivor & # 39 ;.
Because he had celiac disease, he struggled with arriving.
& # 39; I lacked confidence and did not have a peer group to call mine – my group of friends lived on the Internet in the World of Warcraft, & # 39; he said.
& # 39; I never participated in a dance or high school event until my final year prom, and I took a girl from another school – a girl that I tried very hard to prevent from realizing that my social capital was virtually nothing wax, & # 39; he remembered.
Nicolas said poignantly that it & # 39; sad & # 39; is that people think his physical appearance now defines him & # 39;
I'd like to be that voice for all the outcasts and outsiders out there … because I was one of them
& # 39; They talk about my biceps as if they are coming away from my body, someone else – an entity that we can objectively discuss. They taunt me to take off my shirt and entertain the crowd. They ask me why I am gone now, if I am not in the gym, I am not obsessed, … They make fun of my work ethic and at the same time ask for my help. & # 39;
He continued: & # 39; I can't stand the rewards I have received with such a radical transformation, but I also want it to be known that I think it is absurd what we really appreciate in life.
& # 39; But if it is necessary to pound 170 and & # 39; to be shredded for people to hear what you have to say, I would like to be that voice for all the outcasts and outsiders out there, calm and shy, in love with their own unique crafts, thin or fat, to for whatever reason ridiculed.
& # 39; Instead of putting them down, I would like to give them a high-five. Because I was one of them, & he ended up.
Sophomore: Siri as a self-proclaimed & # 39; theater geek & # 39; in high school, pictured left and right in 2014
An adult film producer named Siri said her transformation & # 39; extreme & # 39; used to be.
& # 39; I have been literally invisible to men from most of my life, to receiving comments from men all over the world who told me that I am beautiful. I'm somewhat in the public eye, so I get a lot of attention and comments about my appearance, & she said.
& # 39; I now have much more confidence, but that is not a result of my appearance. My appearance is the result of slowly building up my own confidence. Over the course of a few years I changed my appearance in small steps, but I decided to make every change because I felt confident enough to say so.
& # 39; In other words, I haven't done a 10-hour wonder makeover and I look totally different. I actually don't look so different from my high school itself, I just found a more accurate way to express myself. & # 39;
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