Parenting expert and father of six reveals his watertight five-step process for dealing with children who have lied to you
- Dr. Justin Coulson is an educationalist and father of six
- The Australian father shared his five-step process for dealing with lying children
- Dr. Coulson said it's important to remember that lying is a normal part of growing up
- By the age of four, 80 percent of children will lie easily to prevent punishment
Almost all children tell lies, but hearing a fib for the first time can be a disturbing and confusing experience.
The Australian parenting expert Dr. Justin Coulson has his & # 39; foolproof & # 39; shared five step process for dealing with children who lied to you.
Dr. Coulson, himself a father of six, said the most important thing to remember is that lying is a normal part of growing up.
He explained that lying is logical and a sign of intelligence, but also indicates that children are afraid of us. So what should you do?
While hearing your child lying can be frustrating and confusing, Dr. Said said. Justin Coulson that it's a normal part of growing up (stock image)
1. Don't panic
Dr. Coulson said it can be frustrating to catch your child in a lie, it is completely normal.
Keep calm and remember that the motivation of children to lie is usually to prevent punishment.
Australian parenting expert and father of six. Justin Coulson (photo) said it is important to be honest when your child comes clean
2. Do not ask obvious questions
Although it can be tempting, Dr. Coulson said that you should never ask questions to which you already know the answer.
& # 39; If your son is smeared in chocolate cake, don't say: & # 39; Did you eat the chocolate cake? & # 39; Of course he will lie! & # 39; he said.
& # 39; Say instead: & # 39; I see you ate chocolate cake. You must have been hungry! & # 39;
& # 39; Then pause and ask: & # 39; Do you think I'm happy or upset? Why? What should we do next time? & # 39;
3. Celebrate honesty
Dr. Coulson said it is essential to acknowledge and celebrate honesty, even if your child has done something wrong.
Reward honesty by saying, "I really appreciate that you told me what went wrong" and discuss how you can resolve this and how you can better deal with difficult situations in the future.
WHY ARE CHILDREN?
– To hide something to prevent problems
– To see how you react
– To make a story more exciting
– Experimenting by pretending that something happened in a story was real
– To get attention or make yourself sound better
– To get something they want
– To prevent hurting someone's feelings (a & # 39; little white lie & # 39;)
4. Get a promise
According to Dr. Coulson studies show that children are less likely to lie once they have promised to tell the truth.
Make an appointment that they will be open and honest.
It is also important not to punish children too severely, because this prevents them from coming clean about an error.
Try to elicit a promise that they will tell the truth in the future (stock image)
5. Be a role model
Children observe everything we say and do, which means that it is vital to behave as we would like.
& # 39; Tell a friend that you have an appointment while you just don't want to go to their meeting, & # 39; he said.
& # 39; Our children look to us to learn how to behave, and small white lies show that it is good to bend the truth. & # 39;
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