A confidence coach has revealed the four phrases to say if someone is rude to you in public – and how exactly to gain the upper hand.
Gina Hatzis swears by putting bullies and rude relatives in their place, and believes that sweeping insults under the rug leads to long-term resentment.
She recently provided several phrases to keep in your pocket for the next time you’re faced with a shocking situation.
Gina revealed that for her tactic to work, you need to act like the rude comment doesn’t affect you.
The first step is to breathe and stay calm, letting your composure, body language and tone reflect nonchalance.
Gina Hatzis swears by putting bullies and rude relatives in their place, and believes sweeping insults under the rug leads to long-term resentment
Phrases to use when someone is rude to you in public
Before responding, make sure you are calm and collected. These tactics won’t work if you are physically distressed or upset.
* What a strange thing to say out loud.
*I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that.
*Did you want to share this with the group?
*Could you repeat that?
She shared her advice in a video.
“Here’s how to react if someone says something rude to you – for example at a meeting or at a family event.
“You should calmly say, ‘What a strange thing to say out loud,’ or ‘I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that.’ »
Gina also provided two other possible answers depending on the circumstances.
“You can ask, ‘Did you want to share this with the group?’ or ‘Would you like to repeat that?’, she added.
Asking the person to repeat their rudeness works doubly, because either they “repeat it and sound like a complete a**, or they don’t say anything.”
“Either way, you win,” Gina said.
Hundreds of people thanked her for her advice and vowed to remember it the next time a sticky situation arose.
‘I love this! I freeze up when people are mean to me. Then I get angry later when I don’t say anything,” one said.
“As a teacher, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have no idea what we have to deal with from parents. I still love teaching, but the rudeness and criticism is what makes me reconsider my job,” another wrote.
“I love having them practice it because they no longer have to reflexively spew nonsense and have a chance to listen to themselves,” one woman shared.