Nelly Furtado has recalled the “abusive qualities” she endured in a past relationship, one that left her “feeling helpless.”
The 45-year-old did not reveal the identity of the other person involved, but bared her soul about their “toxic” dynamic.
He said that “fear” and “love” can deter someone from leaving a problematic relationship, as well as the fact that “you isolate yourself” and “don’t tell your friends the truth about what’s going on in your life.” .
Furtado also maintained that ‘as women I think sometimes we tend to sacrifice our happiness’ after ‘falling in love’ with someone.
“I went through a very difficult time where I think I accepted some things that I would never accept now, in terms of the way you are treated,” he said in calls his daddy.
Nelly Furtado has recalled the “abusive qualities” she endured in a past relationship, one that left her “feeling helpless.”
“You can’t see it at all when you’re in it, and sometimes we just love so much, and we love,” the I’m Like A Bird hitmaker added.
“And I’m sure there are women out there too, you know, when we become mothers; we are quite vulnerable when we become mothers, because we want the best for our children and we want to protect them,” she added.
Furtado is a mother of three: she shares daughter Nevis, 21, with her ex-boyfriend Jasper Gahunia, as well as two other children, a son and a daughter whose names she has not revealed, with rapper Jerry, also known as Gerard Damien. Long.
Among her relationships with her children’s parents, she was married to sound engineer Demacio Castellón from 2008 to 2016.
“And I guess overall I’ll say it really can happen to anyone, feeling helpless, you know what I mean?” Furtado said in Call Her Daddy.
“You could have all the money in the world and all the resources, but in your mind, that’s really your only wealth that’s in your mind.”
She argued that someone who “can’t feel strong and clear enough” might have a hard time getting out of “a situation that might be toxic for you and not the best for you, and also abusive in any way.”
Furtado noted that “it’s difficult when you’re in a relationship that has that imbalance, I would say, and abusive qualities. It’s hard to see outside of it because you isolate yourself. You stop talking to your friends. You don’t tell your friends the truth about what’s going on in your life. You live in a bubble.
The 45-year-old did not reveal the identity of the other person involved, but bared her soul about their “toxic” dynamic; photographed on stage in Nova Scotia this March
She explained: ‘And it’s hard to admit that you’ve chosen not to say anything, right? It’s hard to admit it to yourself, right? And then, on top of that, love, right? Love keeps you there because, oh, you want to… and I’ll say that too.’
Furtado argued that “as women I think sometimes we tend to sacrifice our happiness, once we are in it. We have fallen in love once, right? Sometimes we tend to sacrifice and think we are doing the right thing.’
He noted, “Fear is also huge, because when you’re afraid, when you’re scared, it can be a very powerful emotion.”
Furtado added: “You can be afraid, but you can do it, like you believe it in your mind.” You can have fear like, “Oh, what is the person going to do or say to me about me, or how do you know, etc.?” I don’t know.’
She continued: “You’re just afraid of it, and again it intensifies, you know, when you have kids and there are other things to think about.”
The Canadian singer, photographed in Nova Scotia in March, also spoke candidly about the process of finally separating from the relationship.
The Canadian singer also spoke candidly about the process of eventually breaking free from the relationship.
“I think there were moments where I almost had strength, but again something was keeping me there, where I thought, ‘Oh, this is the moment,'” the British Columbia-born musician said.
‘So I guess… I’ll say I have extraordinary friends. As if I were very lucky. I have some really amazing friends, really pivotal friends, like childhood friends, who have been there for me my whole life. And they just knew what to tell me and they knew what was too much or too little.”
Furtado’s advice “for women” is that “the people who tell you what you don’t want to hear are the ones you should keep close.” Hopefully they know you well enough to not repel you with judgment or anything like that.
She clarified: ‘And it’s not a judgment if you can feel when it’s love.’ And I think everyone has someone, you know, maybe a person or a voice in their life that maybe kind of reminds you when things aren’t right and what your value is and what behavior is unacceptable if you can’t see it for yourself. thyself.’