A bride has been labeled “selfish” and “rude” after asking her sister to “tone down” her bright red hair and dye it a more “natural” color before being a bridesmaid at the wedding.
On British parenting platform Mumsnet, the bride’s brother explained how his sister had demanded he change the color of his locks before the big day, even though they had been dyed for 10 years.
The woman explained that she is self-conscious but loves her red hair, saying she went through an ‘identity crisis’ the last time she dyed it, so she doesn’t feel comfortable changing the color again.
Asked if she is being “selfish” by refusing to dye her hair, many were quick to comment with their own thoughts.
Many said her sister sounds like a ‘Bridezilla’ and it’s ‘rude’ to ask her to change her hair for the wedding day.
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that her sister demanded she change her hair color for her wedding (file image)
The post said: ‘Being upset because my sister wants me to change my hair for her wedding.
‘I have bright red hair. I love the color. It makes me feel good about myself. I even feel pretty some days, which is huge for me since I’m a pretty big girl and I hate my body. (That’s another topic). I’ve had my hair like this for the better part of 10 years.
‘My sister is getting married in April and insists that I be a bridesmaid. She asked me to “tone down the color.” Initially she wanted me to dye it blonde because she insists that she would look good on me. But I have no intention of doing so. She said she would be fine if she went back to my natural color (Auburn)
‘My other sister got married last year and I went through an identity crisis. I cut my long hair into a bob and dyed it plum… in case she didn’t approve of my normal color. She didn’t say anything but I wasn’t her maid of honor. I hated it, so I went back to bright red.
‘AIBU to think that my hair color shouldn’t matter since everyone will look at her and not me? Or am I being selfish?
‘I no longer feel good in my bridesmaid dress because of my body type, so without having my hair to support me, I fear it will be a miserable day for me. (Selfish?)’
Many rushed to the comments to say that her sister sounds like a ‘Bridezilla’ and is ‘rude’ by asking her to change her hair for her wedding day.
On the British parenting platform, the woman explained that she has “bright red hair” and will be a bridesmaid at her brothers’ upcoming wedding.
One person said: ‘You’re not her accessory, you don’t have to color match.’ She is being selfish.
Another wrote: “I usually take the bride’s side in wedding dramas because I completely understand why people’s wedding days are important to them, but this is completely horrible.”
‘The color of your hair has nothing to do with her. You are not a prop for her wedding photos.
Someone else agreed saying: ‘It’s your hair and your body.’ It’s not her place to tell you what color it should be or how to style it.
A fourth said: “She can tell you what color dress to wear.” She absolutely can’t tell you what color your hair should be.
“She is wildly irrational to dictate your entire appearance by her preferences in her wedding photos.”
Meanwhile, others understood where the bride was coming from and said that red hair stands out too much in wedding photos.
Many rushed to the comments to say that her sister sounds like a ‘Bridezilla’ and is ‘rude’ by asking her to change her hair for her wedding day.
One person said: “I wouldn’t want someone with bright red hair in my wedding photos so I wouldn’t ask them to be the maid of honor.” Not my vibe at all.’
Someone else said: ‘Same thing happening here. You would stand out and not in a good way to me. But that’s my problem and I wouldn’t expect you to change, so I wouldn’t ask you to be the maid of honor. Tell her and let her decide.
Another said: ‘I understand where you’re coming from. I am also ‘bigger’ and for years my hair was my ‘shield’. Unfortunately menopause and illnesses have destroyed it. I feel quite lost now.
“However, I’m all for it, but red will stand out hugely in all wedding photos. Like those black and white photos where they inject a color.
‘How would you feel if the photos were ‘fixed’ so that you had a natural color? I think it’s a compromise I could live with from both points of view.’
Meanwhile, others understood where the bride was coming from and said that red hair stands out too much in wedding photos.
Someone else added: ‘I get it from both sides. It is absolutely justified that you have your hair the way you want. But I’ve also seen wedding photos where someone has bright red hair. I guess the red color of the fire truck, yeah? Or bright blue peacock hair.
—And honestly? The focus in each group photo is on the hair. It can not be helped. She just screams so loudly that the bride and groom in their neutral tones don’t appear as the main point of attention. Your eyes go straight to the touch of color. And someone’s wedding is the only time when it’s all about them.
‘It’s not just about loving someone as they are. It’s about wanting to keep beautiful wedding photos forever where the bride and groom stand out and not everyone is always looking directly at the fire truck’s red hair.
‘Could you use a temporary color conditioner that just dulls the vibrancy?’
