My sister and her family live in the house that we inherited. Can I ask you to leave?
A woman has sparked a discussion online after revealing that she and her sister inherited a house together, and have different thoughts about selling it.
The anonymous poster, believed to be based in the UK, led to the parenting forum. momsnet to share your story and ask others for advice.
In the post, he revealed that the sister and her family have been living in the house and covering upkeep.
While the cartel wants to sell the house, her sister doesn’t, saying she can’t afford the purchase.
The poster explained: ‘So, my brother and I inherited a house from our parents that they have been living in for the last few years.
An anonymous woman has revealed that managing her inheritance has put her in a difficult financial position and she is unsure how to resolve it (file image)
“With the cost of living crisis, money is obviously tight for both of our families, and now I’m desperate to sell, to be honest, as it would be a life-changing amount of money right now.
“Obviously my brother has no intention of leaving but he says he can’t buy me right now due to lack of funding but this is really taking a toll on my family of 4 while they only have themselves to think about and ( His couple”. , since (her) son is significantly older and (is) in college now.
“They pay all the bills and upkeep of the house and I never wanted to demand anything more, but now I feel like I’m being played for a fool.
‘AIBU (am I being unreasonable) to be really frustrated? I don’t want to upset them as they are the only family I have right now, but I really need to figure out how to move this issue forward.”
Several Mumsnetters felt it would be fine if the brother continued to live in the house, assuming they started paying the cartel a fair rent.
One said: ‘Are you getting rent? They should be paying half the market prices.
Another agreed, adding: ‘Yeah, so they should pay you rent if they want to stay in it. They can’t just live there in half of his house as if it were all theirs. They should pay you rent until they can afford to buy you or until they have to sell.
A third suggested that the sister might be aware that she is making huge profits from the current setup, writing: ‘They should pay her around 40% of market rent (or find out what maintenance equates to). No wonder they’re happy about that arrangement!!’
The poster opened up about the situation on Mumsnet, asking people what they should do about their situation.
And a fourth suggested: “Another option is to calculate a commercial rental price and ask you to pay half of that each month.”
Meanwhile, a fifth chimed in to suggest another option, writing: ‘Is it big enough to tell them you’re moving too?
‘Okay, they’re paying the bills, but since it’s half your share, they should be paying you something too, right?’
Others felt that more serious action was required and that the cartel needed to sell the house to ensure it received its rightful inheritance, even if it meant involving the courts.
One said: ‘Unfortunately, you have to be aggressive or they will live there forever.’ A court can order the sale, hopefully it won’t go that far.
Some commentators thought the brother should start paying rent on the 50 percent home owned by the cartel.
‘Talk to her properly and tell her that unfortunately you need the money and cannot subsidize her any longer. Explain that if the house is not put up for sale you will have to go to court.
Another agreed, writing: ‘Tell them that if they don’t agree to sell the house (now on the market, with a view to completing the sale in the next few months) or pay half the market rent, then they will have to force a sale. sale.
Presumably, with half the earnings from a family home, they will be able to buy a smaller house or flat outright or with a small mortgage, so affordable for them?
A third respondent who also felt that formal advice was necessary wrote: ‘You need legal advice. I would consult a lawyer. Do it and try to talk it over with your sister to resolve it amicably too, at the same time.’
And a fourth agreed, adding: ‘Your sister is being grossly unreasonable and deep down she must know it. She is trusting in your good character not to get hard on her and strip you of your rights, it is a form of emotional blackmail.
Numerous commentators felt that the cartel should take the situation very seriously, even going so far as to obtain legal advice.
‘I wouldn’t bother getting her to pay the rent, I’d like your 50% as soon as possible. Either she buys you or agrees to sell you. Go see a lawyer for proper advice, not one of the so-called experts here!
Meanwhile, a fifth commenter was even stronger in his advice, writing: ‘You need to get legal advice on this. Who did what for your mother in the past is totally irrelevant to the estate/will situation.
‘If the property was left to you 50/50, then your sister would have to pay half the rent to live there, and you are equally responsible for any repair bills.
‘Get legal advice, then ask to sell it or get a leasing agent to appraise it for monthly rent, make sure the property meets rental requirements, and have LA draw up a lease.
‘This situation will never change unless you do something about it. But she can’t go on living there rent-free while you fight.