A man has sparked a massive debate online after laying bare his bitter battle with his wife over their baby’s name, claiming she has a “unique” nickname while he isn’t here for her “weird hippie” suggestions.
The man, 30, spoke about the discussion on Reddit this week under the subreddit Am I the Asshole?
In his post, the father-to-be revealed that he and his wife, 28, are expecting a baby girl in March.
But he explained that they were having a hard time finding a name they both liked and admitted that he is starting to worry that they will never “come to an agreement.”
A man has sparked massive debate online after exposing his bitter battle with his wife over their baby’s name (file image)
The man, 30, spoke about the discussion on Reddit this week under the subreddit Am I the Asshole? and asked the Internet for help
He said they had “very different ideas” about what they wanted to name their daughter, and it has caused a huge divide between them.
According to the man, his wife is against anything that is “too classic or normal” and prefers names that he considers “much more modern and unique.”
He said he suggested nicknames such as Elizabeth, Emily, Natasha, Hannah, Katherine, Francesca, Matilda, Annabelle, Isabelle, Vivienne and Sadie, but they have all been vetoed.
As for his wife, he has recommended names like Skye, Indie, River, Ocean, Seraphina, Atlas, Clove, Dove, Asteria, Lennox, Ember and Wynter.
“We have ruled out hundreds, if not thousands, of names,” the exasperated husband wrote.
‘Every time I ask him why he doesn’t like some of the more well-known/common classic names, he says… either he finds them boring or old and he doesn’t like that.
‘I told him it would be better for our son to grow up with a normal-sounding name rather than one made up to be unique.
‘She told me she would never accept a name like Elizabeth or Amelia (another name I suggested).
The man’s post quickly went viral, receiving almost 4,000 responses and generating mixed reactions from users.
“And I told him I wouldn’t accept a unique or strange hippie name for our daughter.”
The man wrote that his wife said she won’t let him “force her to change her tastes” and described his “description of their names” as “unfair.”
She asked the Internet for advice on the topic and concluded, “I can see that she is bothered by my choice of words, but I can see that she is also frustrated and feels like our daughter’s due date is looming over us as well.” Am I the idiot?’
The man’s post quickly went viral, receiving almost 4,000 responses and generating mixed reactions from users.
“You’re an idiot for simply dismissing the names Asteria and Seraphina/Serafina as “hip” and “hippie” names when they’re hundreds, if not thousands, of years old,” one person responded. “Go pick other reasons to say you don’t like those names.”
“You’re the asshole,” another agreed. You are so against any of his ideas that you have no spirit of compromise.
And, frankly, if you can’t agree, shouldn’t she choose the one who risks her life to bring the baby into the world?
“She’s doing all the heavy lifting with all the fun hormones…let the woman name the baby.”
Someone else wrote: “You’re an idiot, you could have explained your choices without being rude and insulting.”
A fourth comment read: ‘You’re absolutely fine with having name preferences, but it sounds like you’ve just decided that EVERYTHING your wife suggests is “hip and hippie” even when it clearly isn’t.
Others, however, took his side. A fifth said: “No, idiot, and please show this to your wife. I’m a middle-aged woman whose parents wanted to give me a ‘unique’ name in the Seventies, something no one in England had ever done.” I’ve heard about.
“I spent most of my childhood telling people my name and making them laugh in my face, mess up the pronunciation, and one teacher even refused to call me by such a ‘dumb name.'”
“Not only are you giving a cute name to a baby, you’re naming an adult, a person who will have to introduce themselves by whatever name you give them now.”
‘Not the idiot. We’re expecting it in May and the only thing we’re 100 percent in agreement on is giving the bubble a name that’s appropriate for a baby, a toddler, an eight-year-old, a 16-year-old, etc. ‘, added another user.
“One that sounds good for yelling on the playground but also good for applying for a job in 20 years.”
Some people said they were both wrong and gave them some advice on how they could reach an agreement peacefully.
“You both should be able to come to an agreement,” one person urged. Someone else commented: “It’s okay to have different preferences but you two are insulting each other.” You will have to reach an agreement.
“It feels like at this point they’re both rejecting names for the sake of rejecting them and refusing to let the other ‘win,'” another commenter theorized.
“I recommend that you both drop the issue for at least a week, then get together and work it out because if you can’t work together to pick a damn name for your kid, then you’re not going to work as parents.”
Check old names, there might be one you both can accept (like Elvina),’ another user suggested.
Another said: ‘What’s up with floral names? They are worn historically, but they are also ruffled and reminiscent of that hippie trend your wife likes.