A British woman was dismayed when she learned her partner had been invited to a friend’s wedding and she had not been.
The unidentified woman was revealed on a parenting forum mumsent She was upset to find out that she had not received an invitation to the wedding as her partner plus one.
She explained that she had been with her partner for nine years, and would not invite one half of a couple to a wedding, without inviting the other person.
According to the poster, her partner was not happy with the news either, and told her that he would discuss the issue with the soon-to-be-married couple.
While some forum users were sympathetic, and agreed that it was rude to invite someone to a wedding who was not their partner, others argued that couples are not “joined at the hip” and that women are not entitled to receive an invitation.
A British woman was upset when she learned that her partner had been invited to a friend’s wedding and she had not been (photo stock)
In her post, the woman explained that she had known the bride and groom for years, and was shocked to discover that the wedding invitation was only intended for her partner.
She explained that the only reason she thought of not inviting her was because the groom had an affair with her cousin and cheated on her.
She added, “I would never imagine a part of a couple being invited to a wedding.”
In another post, she revealed that her partner wasn’t happy with the fact that she wasn’t invited, and said he would talk to the couple about it.
While some Mumsnetters agreed with the poster that it was rude, many respondents believed that a woman should not feel entitled to an invitation simply because she is a man’s partner.
One wrote: ‘My husband was invited to his school friend’s wedding. I was not. I also thought it was very strange but it makes sense that maybe they both have a ‘school friends’ table and the list must end somewhere? ”
Another added: “Weddings are expensive and you don’t owe an invitation.”
A third said: “Their wedding, their choice.”
The woman, who has been with her partner of nine years, said she couldn’t imagine inviting one half of a couple
“It’s their wedding.” Someone wrote: “They get to choose who goes.”
Another agreed, writing: “You don’t owe an invitation.”
Some people have shared examples of times when they or their partners went to an event alone, and were okay with it.
Someone wrote: ‘I was invited to a wedding without a DP. He doesn’t know them because they are a close work friend. Just to say hello. The friend throws a small wedding at this cost. The other work friend is single, so we are each other’s plus one. Dear partner, do not get upset because he does not know them. So glad not to go and be my own cab.
Another added: ‘I’ve been invited to several weddings without DH. This was where I had a relationship with the bride or groom but he wasn’t (school friends/work friends, etc). As mentioned above, weddings are expensive and not everyone can afford to double the cost of a “friends’ table” by including OHs they don’t know or know each other.
I’m going to a wedding, my DH is not invited, partners are only invited if they are friends of the bride and groom. I’m happy with the situation because my DH wouldn’t know anyone if he went, someone said.
Some people said that the soon-to-be-married couple did not owe women an invitation, and some added that they and their partners went to too many weddings without each other.
“You’re not joined at the hip because you’re a couple, it’s totally okay to treat people as individuals!” Someone said, but I can agree that it hurts.
Some people took the side of the woman and agreed that it was rude not to invite her.
It’s very rude. ‘I doubt my dear husband will go alone,’ said one.
‘I hate this. Another added: If you can’t afford to have both at the wedding, don’t invite just one.
Others agreed that it is rude to call a person, not his partner, and this indicates immorality
They added: ‘At the end of the day it’s their choice, but I’d be furious if DH even considered going without me (unless I knew the person or something, or maybe when the Covid number rules were on).
It has happened to us before and the DH said he wouldn’t go. An invitation magically appeared to me.
Another person said: “People have no morals.”
‘too crude.’ Better not to invite both. ‘You should ask your partner or if there is a typo,’ said another.
Someone suggested, “People who say it’s their wedding is their choice, maybe they’ve never been brushed off in this way.”
It is rude and shows no manners. No wonder the OP is confused. Respectable people don’t do this. And they added that it would never occur to me to invite a person and not his other half.