A woman has revealed how her partner has decided to leave everything to his children in his will, leaving her out.
Speaking on British parenting platform Mumsnet, the 50-year-old said discovering that her partner of 14 years had left her out of his will worried her greatly.
She added that they are not married and that he is 10 years older than her, so she wondered what would happen to her if he died first.
Describing the discovery as a “red flag”, he asked others what they thought about his situation.
Many were quick to comment, with some saying he is being “totally unreasonable” and the situation is “bizarre.”
A woman revealed on a British platform for parents that her partner decided to leave everything to her children in his will, without anything for her (file image)
He read post: ‘(Am I being unreasonable) to be upset because I’m not in partners?? We have been together for almost 14 years. We have children. Not married. We have lived in his house. He is 60 years old, I am 50.
‘Am I being unreasonable to be upset now that he is doing his bidding and his intention is to leave everything to the children?
‘We have a decade age difference and I can’t help but wonder what would happen to me if he died before me? He sees it as his thing so he leaves it to whoever he wants, but I think that’s a big red flag along with the fact that he obviously hasn’t asked the question either.
‘Does it seem to me that he doesn’t really see us as America? What do you think?’
One person said: ‘It’s strange. How does he expect you to live? Not being married, I’m afraid you won’t have many rights unless he dies while the children depend on you. You need a serious talk and then start planning your future.’
Another added: “You both need to see a lawyer, together and separately.” If you dropped dead tomorrow, the children would “own” your house, but presumably you would have to live there as parent and legal guardian.
‘More seriously, however, you need to discuss with him why he would be happy to see you homeless after his death (if it happened after the children became adults). That’s a pretty insensitive way to think about your partner and the mother of your children.
Another commenter wrote: ‘I saw clients in exactly this scenario last week create a trust so that she could use and enjoy her home for the rest of her life / until she enters a nursing home and then, upon her death, the house goes to his Dd. That’s what normal, decent, single people do.
On the British parenting platform, the 50-year-old woman explained that her partner of 14 years left her out of his will, which worried her greatly.
Many suggested that the woman should leave her partner because he is being “cold” towards her.
One said: ‘Yes, that would be it for me. You have to leave it. At least then you could receive adequate child support while you arrange your own accommodation. Has been a supplier of offspring/appliances. Now you know for sure that you need to escape.’
Another said: ‘If I were you, I would buy an apartment or a small house and rent it out so that when he dies you have a place to move to.’ Maybe now is a good time to reevaluate your relationship. He obviously doesn’t think highly of you.
Meanwhile, someone else wrote: ‘Go away. This tells you everything you need to know about how he feels about you.
And a fourth said: ‘You could really end up homeless because he doesn’t consider you.’ Go away and set up your own house, this man has no respect for you.’
The woman revealed that her partner makes her feel like she is being ‘held down’ when he mentions her will.
She said, ‘You’re absolutely right.’ I really sleepwalked into this, but they make me feel like I’m being really greedy and mercenary every time I bring it up.
Many were quick to comment, with some saying the partner is being “totally unreasonable” and the situation is “bizarre.”
‘There’s an expression on her face as if to say “ah, this is the real reason she’s with me.” It makes me feel like I shouldn’t even mention it.’
One person said: ‘Please note that while none of us know exactly what will happen in the future, you are substantially younger than him and could spend a good part of your later years caring for him, possibly preventing you from accumulating funds. /pension. own.
“I care for my husband full-time, but everything we have belongs to both of us (and he brought more to the marriage in material terms). I’m not sure I would make that sacrifice for someone as indifferent to my safety and well-being as he seems to be.” your partner, especially after 2 children and years together.
Another said: ‘This is ridiculous and no way to conduct an adult relationship. I’m surprised they have kids but still haven’t come to an agreement on important financial issues.
“Go now to a lawyer, preferably together, so he can hear everything too.”
Someone else added: “You know where you stand and you can see what kind of man he is and what he thinks of you.”
“If you don’t want to move out (with or without the kids), then you have to stay in the relationship, knowing what you know, and start thinking about your financial future. You can’t force him to give up anything for you, or provide you with any security. Everything What you can do is start saving and investing like crazy for yourself.
“Work full time and then change jobs every 2-3 years to get promotions and pay rises. If you’re doing more than half of the housework, etc., stop right now and focus on your career.”
