A woman has revealed that her partner wants to leave his share of the house to his children from a previous relationship if he dies, meaning she would be left homeless.
On British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman explained that she and her partner have children from previous marriages.
The anonymous poster revealed that she and her partner are currently buying a house together, but in his will he requested that his share of the house pass to his children “immediately” in the event of his death.
She said she was ‘upset’ and hoped he would leave her his share of the house.
People were quick to comment with advice, with some saying she shouldn’t buy a house with her partner and others suggesting she should even leave the relationship.
A woman has revealed that her partner wants to leave his share of the house to their children if he dies, meaning she would be left homeless (file image)
The post Read: ‘Am I being unreasonable by expecting my partner to leave us our house in his will? My partner and I are buying a house together and we need to write our wills.
‘We have both been married before and have children with our ex-spouses. In the event of his death, my partner wants his share of the house to pass to his children immediately, meaning he would have to sell the house.
“I was thinking that if I died first, he could stay in the house until I passed away. Am I being irrational for being angry?”
Opinions were mixed in the comments, with some saying the terms are standard, while others said they would “rethink the relationship.”
One said: ‘You’re buying a house together. It’s to keep a roof over both of your heads, not to be taken away if one of you dies. The kids aren’t buying it, you are, so if it ever has to be sold to pay for childcare, so be it. It’s not your house.’
“I wouldn’t buy from him because he could change his will at any time without you knowing. He’s showing you how much he cares about your future security.”
Another said: “Just don’t buy a house with him. I would also reconsider a relationship with someone who wants you to move out of their house when he dies. Yanbu.”
She revealed that the couple are currently buying a house together, but in her will she requested that her share of the house pass to her children “immediately” in the event of her death.
People were quick to comment to give her some advice, with some saying she shouldn’t buy a house with her partner if those are the conditions.
Woman is buying a house with her partner, but some people have told her to leave him (file image)
Others said: “I wouldn’t buy anything from him. Tell him you’ll buy your own investment property and rent it out and he can go ahead and buy the house he intends to leave to his children, who are by then grown and fit to live in, leaving you homeless so they can make a windfall. He most likely can’t because he needs your salary and deposit to do so, but who cares.”
“I don’t think you should buy this house together. You don’t agree. This isn’t a minor difference of opinion. It’s a deal breaker.
‘You would be homeless unless he agrees to let you live in the house for as long as you want. His children do not have to receive their inheritance immediately. In your position, I would continue to rent with this person and save until you can afford to buy your own house.
“Most men wouldn’t want their partner thrown out with a slap on the wrist. That means if he dies, instead of being able to grieve in peace, you’ll find yourself homeless too. He’s telling you that it shows how much he cares about you, hear me out.”
However, some thought the man was doing the right thing and said this arrangement was standard practice.
Meanwhile, others thought the man was doing the right thing and some said this arrangement was standard practice.
They wrote: “Are you protecting your assets for your children? That is normal. Otherwise, if I left it to you, your children would get everything.”
“The will is fine. You just put the property in a trust so that it can stay there if he does and the children inherit after you die. It’s a pretty standard clause.”
“I think you’re right. Why should your children wait for their inheritance while an unrelated person lives in their half-house for decades?”
‘It depends a lot on the circumstances, the ages and the length of the relationship. I assume you’ll be happy for him to live in your half-property for as long as he wants after you die, right?’
“I’ve seen a lot of people upset their kids by prioritizing their last partner. For me, kids come first.”
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