A young couple don’t have children, so they can be “selfish”, take naps and go on vacation whenever they want, and are so sure they don’t want children that they use extreme contraception.
Indi, 25, and her husband Heraldo Uribe, 34, are intentionally childless and consider themselves DINKS, which stands for ‘double income without children.’
The couple, who live in Sydney, have been together for five years, enjoy working out together, traveling, spontaneous dining out and taking naps.
Indi and Heraldo say they always knew they never wanted to have children because they are ‘expensive’.
Also, they both want to be ‘selfish’ and ‘spontaneous’ in their lifestyle.
Indi and her husband Heraldo are so sure of their decision that two weeks after they got married he had a vasectomy so she could stop taking birth control pills.
The couple love their lifestyle, as it allows them to go on vacation whenever they want or plan a trip to see friends with no strings attached.
The couple’s relatives are disappointed that they will not have children, but Heraldo and Indi say they would rather regret not having children than regret having them.
Heraldo, a car salesman, had a vasectomy in June 2023 because they see no children in their future, and Indi supported him 100%.
Indi, a makeup artist and business coach, said: “I’m selfish and I choose not to have children because of that.”
I’d rather be selfish without kids than have them and still be selfish. I want to take a nap whenever I want. I want to go to dinner whenever I want.
Indi adds: ‘I don’t think I can afford to have children.
‘My husband was snipped so we can live forever in our DINK era. The DINK lifestyle is a bit selfish, in the best of ways.’
Heraldo said: ‘I can focus on what I want: my career, my commitment as a husband and helping others.
‘The DINK lifestyle allows me to almost recapture my childhood and enjoy a stress-free life.
Your life is yours. Everyone else has already lived their life according to their design, so don’t let them dictate what you do with your opportunity. Life is a gift, so use it to write your own story.’
The couple met when Indi was working at a bank and Heraldo had taken a break from serving in the Chilean military in 2018 and moved to Australia as a cleaner in April 2018, so he could learn English.
The couple spent lunch together communicating via Google Translate while Indi helped teach him.
Indi said: ‘He was in the army and he came to Australia to learn English. She ended up not coming back.
“We talked about children in the first few months of dating, so we knew we were on the same page.”
Heraldo proposed to her in November 2020 and the couple married in August 2022.
Heraldo, the eldest of four siblings, grew up taking care of his younger siblings, which made him realize that having children was not what he wanted for himself.
He explained: ‘As an adult, I finally feel like I can now choose not to have children and say goodbye to the responsibilities that were burdened on me as a child.
It’s my chance to enjoy a carefree life.
A typical day for the couple sees them sleeping and then going to the gym together before going to work.
And instead of having to pick up a family from school or worry about extracurricular activities, the couple can enjoy a night together walking their dogs and having dinner.
On a weekend, Heraldo often comes to work with Indi, before they come back and take an afternoon nap.
They make sure to go on vacation at least once a year and love the freedom they have to take a trip to see friends on other trips whenever they want.
Indi said: ‘It’s the ability to be spontaneous. If we want a lie, we can. If we want to visit friends, we can.
‘I want peace and quiet and the children are noisy. I don’t see how a child would fit into our life.
The couple have been together for five years and discussed having children early on, so they were both on the same page from the start.
Heraldo and Indi love nothing more than coming home from work, having dinner without interruptions and walking their dogs.
After getting married, the couple decided that Heraldo would get a vasectomy because Indi wanted to come off the pill after struggling with birth control symptoms.
Indi said: ‘Two weeks after we got married, we got questions saying ‘when will you have children?’
“We said we weren’t going to do it and they thought we were joking or we’d change our minds.
Now they’ve realized we mean it after Herlado got his vasectomy. Some people say they are disappointed with our decision.
‘I made my decision not to have children. I would rather regret not having children than regret having them.
