A “grumpy” mum who kicked her husband out of bed eight years ago because of his annoying snoring has admitted it has saved their relationship and improved their sex life too.
Alexis Scott, 41, went through a “sleep divorce” with her husband, Brian, right after the lovebirds tied the knot in August 2015, after she spent many restless nights struggling to fall asleep due to his loud snoring.
The mother, who lives in Idaho, confessed to having been in a bad mood with her husband before kicking him out and sending him to another room, adding that she even wanted to “strangle” him.
And although the pair now fall asleep separately, Alex revealed that their love life has since improved, noting that they now have “more energy” to tangle in the sheets.
And although Brian had initially felt slighted by the elimination, he was now even okay with it because he could snore, fart, and roll around without it bothering her.
A “grumpy” mother who kicked her husband out of bed eight years ago for his annoying snoring has admitted it saved their relationship
Alexis was so angry about her spouse’s sleeping habits that she even took to TikTok to rant about them.
“He snored like a freight train, it was horrible. I was mad at him, he was the reason I couldn’t sleep. I felt bad for being mad at him because he can’t really control it, but at the same time it was his fault,” she said.
“I was lucky if I could fall asleep before him, but even then, I would sometimes wake up in the middle of the night because his snoring was so loud. And if I couldn’t fall asleep before him, I was lucky if I ever fell asleep at all.
‘I slept for about four hours straight, it was like a baby waking up at various times during the night.
“When I don’t sleep, I get very emotional and moody. I was always in a bad mood. That would lead to arguments between us, at which point nobody won.”
The mother-of-two said she initially moved into a separate room “out of frustration” before kicking Brian out to the spare bedroom permanently.
Despite not sleeping in the same room, Alexis claimed it had improved their love life as it had given them ‘more energy’ to enjoy sex.
“People’s concern is that they’re not going to find time to be intimate with their spouse, we certainly find time for that,” Alexis said.
Alexis Scott, 41, filed for a “sleep divorce” from her husband, Brian, just after the lovebirds tied the knot in August 2015, after she spent many restless nights struggling to sleep.
The mother, who lives in Idaho, confessed to having been in a bad mood with her husband before kicking him out and sending him to another room, adding that she even wanted to “strangle” him.
And although the couple now sleep separately, Alex revealed that their love life has improved, noting that they now have “more energy” to tangle in the sheets.
‘We have more energy to be intimate. Who would want to do that with someone who they just want to smother with a pillow because they haven’t gotten any sleep?’
“We can have intimate, romantic moments, hug each other and all that stuff, but that doesn’t necessarily mean I have to sleep next to you.
“There are times in the morning when he gets into bed and I drink my coffee and we talk, just like we would if we had slept together at night. The only difference is that we don’t sleep in the same room.”
Now, the couple is happier than ever and attributes the success of their marriage to their “sleep divorce.”
“At first it was out of frustration, I was so upset I couldn’t stand it anymore. Then I realized, ‘Oh my God, this is a solution,'” she said.
‘I think my husband was a little sad at first, but now it’s gotten to the point where he doesn’t want to sleep with me either.
‘He’s very relaxed (now) because he was feeling really bad and he wasn’t sleeping well either because of the worry of ‘Am I snoring? Am I waking her up? Is she sleeping?’
And while Brian initially felt slighted by the elimination, he’s now even okay with it because he can snore, fart, and roll around without it bothering her.
‘He was having to deal with the fact that I wasn’t being my best self, so he would get stressed if he woke me up.
“Once I became independent, we were both able to sleep and not worry about the other person. We are both much happier.”
She said the decision to sleep in separate rooms has helped them become happier every day.
“I’d say it’s a big factor in why we’re still married. Try going a decade without sleep. Add to that the kids and the responsibilities of life,” he said.
‘It gives both of us the opportunity to be as rested as possible – with two well-rested adults there is better communication and generally a happier disposition.
“I don’t hold any grudges against him, I can be a more loving wife. There’s no turning back.”
The separate sleeping arrangements continue even when they go on vacation, and Alexis notes that the extra cost is “worth it.”
“When we go on vacation, I most often book an Airbnb with two bedrooms, even if it’s just the two of us,” she said.
Alexis was so angry about her husband’s sleeping habits that she even took to TikTok to rant about them.
‘Even though the cost is a little higher, it’s worth it to enjoy my vacation and stay fresh during the day.
‘On family vacations, I share a room with the children and he has his own room.’
Following the couple’s successful dream divorce, the mother now encourages other couples to follow their example and not give in to “social pressure.”
“If you can fix something, don’t let social pressure stop you from doing it,” Alexis said.
‘As a woman and a mother, I am constantly making sacrifices. Everything I do is based on making other people happy and that doesn’t interest me anymore.
“So if anyone’s been wishing for that or thinking about it, maybe this is the push they need.”
At first he was sad about the arrangement, but now he fully supported it because it allowed him to do whatever he wanted without fear of upsetting Alexis.
“The sleep divorce is great. We both get the sleep we need and can be better partners when we rest. Alexis is very grumpy when she’s tired and so am I, so this has been really good for us,” she said.
“It was a little strange at first to have separate bedrooms permanently, but I quickly got used to it. I can snore, fart and roll around without waking her up or disturbing her.”
Following the couple’s successful divorce, the mother now encourages other couples to follow their example and not give in to “social pressure.”
People on the web flooded the comments section and praised the couple’s “sleepover divorce.”
People on the web flooded the comments section and praised the couple’s “sleepover divorce.”
One user wrote: “Great idea.”
Another user commented: ‘I have a few friends who do this and have been married for decades.’
A third wrote: ‘I’m divorced from sleep because (my husband’s) snoring makes me want to kill him.’
However, one criticised the couple’s decision to sleep in separate rooms.
One commented: “If I wanted to sleep alone, I’d stay single.”
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