A man has revealed that his girlfriend demanded he hand over his social security number so she could run a background check, and when he refused, a massive fight ensued.
The anonymous 27-year-old detailed the shocking situation in a Reddit thread titled: Am I the idiot?
He explained that he had been dating his girlfriend, 31, for about a year.
And while things were going well at first, they recently turned ugly.
The man noted that his lover had asked to have a serious conversation, during which she begged him to give her her social security number.
The man immediately refused, leading to a heated argument between them.
The post was titled: ‘Am I a moron for not giving my girlfriend my social security number so she can check my background?’
He explained: ‘I (27M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (31F) for almost a year.
A man revealed that his girlfriend demanded that he give her his social security number so she could run a background check (file image)
‘Tonight she sat me down and told me she needed to have a serious conversation with me and asked for my social security number.
‘I said absolutely not, why would you need that?
‘And she told me about her ex-boyfriend who basically lived a double life.
“He had a ton of criminal charges in his past that he had never told her about and ultimately exposed her to suspicious and dangerous behavior before she broke up with him after he cheated on her.
‘I said, “Okay, thanks for telling me that, but what does that have to do with my social security number?”
“She said that she has since had her friend who works for the federal government run background checks on people to make sure they are safe, and as our relationship is progressing, she needs to know that I am a safe partner for her, so she wants my SSN to verify my criminal history.
‘Now, for the record, I don’t even have a parking ticket. I’m a nerd and a gym rat, all I do is work, go to school, play Dungeons and Dragons, come home, watch anime, rinse and repeat, so I don’t mind a background check, she He won’t care. find anything.
‘But I’m not going to give out my social security number. I don’t feel comfortable enough giving that to your friend.


The anonymous 27-year-old detailed the shocking situation in a Reddit thread titled Am I the Asshole?
The man’s refusal to reveal such private information sent his girlfriend into a rage.
He explained that his lover did not understand why he would not ease her worries and offer her social treatment.
“When I said that, she got angry and said I don’t understand what women go through and it’s about safety,” he continued.
And I admitted that she’s right, I have no idea what women go through, but that doesn’t mean I’m giving my social security number to a complete stranger.
‘She says he’s not a stranger, he’s one of her best friends and he’s married to a close friend of hers.
And I said, “Honey, that’s great, but I don’t know him, I don’t trust him because I don’t know him. That’s MY information you’re asking for, you can trust him with your personal information if you want, but no one I don’t know is getting my information.” social security number or critical details. It’s just not happening.”
The man revealed that his girlfriend told him their romance “could not progress” unless he agreed to give her his social security number.
“I got up and left at that point and told him I respect his concerns, but his past trauma does not give him the right to try to force me to give confidential information to someone I don’t know just because he works for the federal government and has access to a database,” he added.


People online flocked to the comments section to share their thoughts, with many rushing to the man’s defense while criticizing his girlfriend.
‘I used to work for the federal government, so I can say from experience that not everyone who works there is a wonderful person.
“I’m not assuming he’s a monster or anything, but just working for the feds doesn’t prove anything to me.”
‘He called me insensitive and hasn’t spoken to me since. Personally, I feel like he was tricking me into giving him what he wants, but I’m not sure.
People online flocked to the comments section to share their thoughts, with many rushing to the man’s defense while criticizing his girlfriend.
One person said: ‘(Not the jerk). I’m a federal employee who has access to some systems like that to locate people and it’s 100 percent illegal to use them for personal reasons.
‘In fact, we have to try all other reasonable ways of finding someone before using these systems. There is something incomplete there.
‘Plus, you don’t need an SSN to run a background check. A name and address or date of birth is enough.
Another user added: ‘I just said the same thing. She’s up to something. No one will risk their career for this girl.
Someone else commented: ‘NTA. You don’t even know if he’s telling you the truth. For all you know, he should be stealing your social security number.