A bridesmaid has revealed she regrets agreeing to skip the wedding because the “bridezilla” requires them to pay $2,000 to attend her special day.
An anonymous woman visited Reddit to reveal that she wishes she had declined her ‘close friend’s’ invitation to be bridesmaid at her wedding because her boyfriend turned into a ‘cheap bridezilla’.
The anonymous user revealed that although her friend was a ‘good person’, the marriage brought out the worst in her as she took to the social media platform to complain about the ‘expensive’ costs of to be in the wedding.
She took to the thread titled “Wedding Shaming” to wonder if she had the right to be frustrated with her friend.
A bridesmaid has revealed she regrets agreeing to be out of the wedding because the ‘bridezilla’ requires them to pay $2,000 to be on her special day (stock image)
The anonymous user took to Reddit to complain about the ‘expensive’ costs of being in the wedding
“Here to share the story of a wedding I will be attending,” she said.
She added: ‘I’m a bridesmaid for a close friend. She’s definitely a good person, but now I see another side of her.
“She definitely put pressure on her fiancé to propose when he was still single. He came close to ultimatum level, but he did it once he graduated.
“The bride is religious, does somewhat traditional things and expects to live together until they are married. His parents are also rich, that’s also what motivates me for this marriage.
The friend went on to note that if she had known she was ‘expected to pay’ for everything, she would have ‘refused to be a bridesmaid’.
“However, the bride was not transparent about the cost,” she said.
The girlfriend revealed that she had to pay $1,000 for the bachelorette party, but agreed to it.
However, she later found out that she also had to pay for the bride’s bridal shower and buy her a gift.
People on the social media platform rushed to her defense and criticized the bride-to-be for her behavior
“For the wedding day itself, she dropped the bombshell today that she wanted a professional makeup artist and hairstylist to do her makeup that day,” she said, adding that it would be $300 .
“I’m at my spending limit and she said if I do my own makeup I have to practice and send a pic for approval.
‘The haircut she wants is having everything won’t work on my hair, it’s too short. I sent her a picture of how my hair isn’t long enough with my face framed – and asked if I could do a low bun with pieces in the front.
‘ She replied ‘I’ll see if anyone else is ok with that because it’s going to ruin the look of the uniform’. And we’re not even wearing the same dress.
She also revealed that she wasn’t allowed to bring a plus one and it was “BYOB”.
“If I had known she was going to be a sweet bride, I would have politely declined and would have been happy to attend as a guest,” she said before adding that if she had to pay for everything, it would cost her $2,000 and said she was considering dropping it outside.
People on the social media platform rushed to her defense and criticized the bride-to-be for her behavior.
One person wrote: ‘Step back. If you paid for the dress, see if you can return it. Be honest and tell the bride why. Keep in mind that they will probably want the wedding party to organize, serve and clean up. Don’t do it. You will hate yourself later.
Another user commented, “Unless you’re desperate for friendship, I think you need to delete this woman’s number and forget she exists.”
“Come back from the wedding, tell the bride you just can’t afford it, but you’ll be happy to come as a guest. She’ll probably tell you no and then you’ll have the day free to do whatever you want,” someone else commented.
Many people said she should give up marriage and stop being his friend
Someone else said: ‘I can tell you care about preserving this friendship and don’t want to make a scene. I think you should just be nice and apologize and tell your friend you’re sorry, but with the extra expense you can’t afford it anymore and you’d like to come and support her as a regular guest.
‘Tell her as soon as possible so she has time to adjust her plans accordingly. If she gets angry right now, you’ve done your best to be nice and maybe it’s not a friendship worth nurturing.
“I don’t call this sweet bridezilla – I call her full. I would never agree to a $1,000 bachelorette party, nor would I pay catering for a bridal shower, or pay so much for makeup and hair, and no more for the wedding – daring!, commented one user.
“You don’t have to pay for anything outside of basic wedding day business, you don’t have to pay for her shower restoration. Brides like this are absolutely ridiculous, I would never ask my party for that, ever.
“Anything a couple chooses to have (bachelor party, showers etc.) outside of the wedding and reception should be on them as they are extras unless someone offers it. Your bridal party isn’t meant to be a financial buffer, so you can be a princess for six months,’ someone else added.
Another user wrote: $2000! To be a bridesmaid? I’d rather spend that money on vacations for me. ‘