A woman has revealed she is in a bitter dispute with her ex-husband over her surname, as he urges her to return to her maiden name because his new fiancée is jealous.
leading to redditThe unnamed woman, 39, who appears to be from the United Kingdom, explained that she and her husband, 38, divorced after they “drifted apart” as people, and the decision was mutual.
They are currently parents to their three teenage children and had a great relationship despite their separation, until he started dating his new 24-year-old partner.
Since she became engaged to her new partner, her ex-husband of 12 years has demanded that she change her last name because his future wife does not want another woman to share the name. However, the anonymous mother of three children is reluctant to accept because she wants to keep the same last name as her children.
After she posted her dilemma on the forum, others shared their thoughts on her situation, and many people took her side and criticized her ex for being unreasonable.
A woman revealed on Reddit that her ex-husband demands that she change her last name to her maiden name because his new fiancée is jealous that she has kept hers (file image)
The post read: ‘My ex-husband has been dating this woman for three years. For context, she is 24 years old. My ex and I were married for 12 years and have been divorced for five years, we have three children together who are now teenagers.
‘My ex and I divorced because we were young when we met, got married and grew apart as people.
‘It was a mutual decision and we agreed that our children came first and that they have always been very good parents. This had been the case until last year, when his girlfriend moved in with him.
‘Before we celebrated holidays and children’s birthdays together, now, when she is present, they don’t even sit near me at our children’s sporting events. I have always been nice to this woman, even though my children express that they don’t like her and feel that her father acts differently when she is around her.’
The mother added that her ex told her early in the relationship that her new partner didn’t like her and felt “intimidated” by her.
When her ex-husband popped the question to his new partner last Christmas, she claims her three children were “less than enthusiastic” about the engagement because he hadn’t consulted them before proposing.
The man’s girlfriend then demanded that his ex-wife change her last name before they get married next year, because she does not want to share a last name with her.
On Reddit, the woman, 39, who appears to be from the United Kingdom, explained that she and her husband, 38, divorced after they “drifted apart” as people, and that the decision was mutual.
The woman explained: ‘My ex called me yesterday and told me that he let me know that I have a year to change my last name to my maiden name, as his fiancee is expressing her displeasure and concern that she and I have the same thing. last name when they get married.
‘I told him that we agreed in our divorce that he could keep his last name until he felt the need to change it, and that’s what’s on our paperwork. I also told him that I don’t want to have a different last name than our children.
‘He said I’m being unreasonable and refuse to see how this could inconvenience his finances. I told her that I can’t see it from her side because I am an adult and not an immature child like her. She told me that she could ask anyone about this situation and that they would all agree with her.’
He then asked other people if it was unreasonable not to want to comply with the name change.
Commenters on the post were mostly on the woman’s side, with many saying the man’s new fiancée was out of line for demanding that he change his name, especially since he shares it with his children.
One person said: ‘He needs to accept the fact that this is not HIS name, it is now YOURS too. I’m sure there are other people in the world with the same last name. He needs to get over it.’
Another said: ‘The solution is quite simple. He can change her last name to that of his fiancée. Problem solved.’
Someone else said: ‘Just turn it around and tell her you’ll feel awkward if her fiancée has the same name as your kids and she can’t change her last name to theirs.’
“If he says you sound unreasonable, then tell him how he sounds by coming to you with that request because the moment you said your ‘I do’ to him years ago, his last name became yours and you will keep it and use it as you see.” . fit.’
A fourth wrote: ‘NTA. It is no longer his name; is your name. If your fiancé doesn’t want to have the same last name as you, that’s okay.
‘She doesn’t have to take his name. Or you can change both your names to Mr. and Mrs. Big Crybaby. But no, he has no right to force you to change your name. Your feelings don’t matter any less than hers just because she’s the new Mrs. Crybaby.