Is that why you are ghosted? Women reveal the reasons why they broke their ties – from friends who & # 39; obsessively & # 39; be too embarrassed to say they don't want to meet for coffee
- The woman who posted on Mumsnet was flooded with interesting answers
- Some people abandoned the ghosting and called it a & # 39; nasty attitude & # 39;
- But most responses were from women who said they & # 39; not a choice & # 39; had
Ghosting is one of the dangers of modern times in friendships and relationships, and those who do it are usually downright criticized for not seeing the feelings of the other person.
But now women who have ghosted former friends have shared their side of the story, revealing why they had to break all ties.
Take to Mumsnet, a British mother asked if anyone had ever ghosted a friend, saying that it had happened to her a few times and that she had never really understood why.
& # 39; Did you cut them off, stop contacting them or answer them? & # 39; she said. & # 39; Why did you do it? What went through you? Do you regret it?
Comments revealed that the ghosting was prompted by & # 39; stalker & # 39; behavior, verbal abuse, and constant put-downs by their former friends.
The woman, who posted on Mumsnet, was flooded with comments about why people & # 39; ghosted & # 39; were – or stood up – their friends – who collected some interesting responses. Stock image
While some people bombarded the ghosting and the & # 39; nasty attitude & # 39; many women said they thought they had no other choice to break ties with certain friends.
A woman said: “I tried the pretty nice approach, and just apologized for social events, said I wasn't available, but then she reached stalker territory.
& # 39; So I stopped texting & # 39; and off her back and actively avoided places where she could be located. & # 39;
Another woman took a similar attitude when the relationship became too intense.
While people shared their stories, a commentator said that it is not acceptable to ghost people because it is & # 39; common & # 39; is to do
& # 39; She was far too obsessive and constantly busy. I had tried to set boundaries that she didn't like, and I wasn't looking for that level of friendship, & she said.
& # 39; So I decided I didn't want to pursue that friendship anymore. & # 39;
What is & # 39; ghosting & # 39 ;?
Ghosts have someone you believe you care about, whether it's a friend or someone you're dating, disappearing from contact without any explanation.
People who are minds are mainly focused on avoiding their own emotional discomfort and do not think about how it feels to the other, experts say.
Another woman shared an even worse story and told how she had moved in with her one-time friend before the relationship became sour and the woman verbally abused her.
She said the friend came to live with her while she was looking for a place in a new country, but her friend seemed jealous that she spoke the language and had her life in order.
& # 39; She started joking at me all the time. Digs about my appearance (she's a blast, it's not me), my hobbies, my friends, my clothes, my work and all the time.
& # 39; I knew what she was going through was difficult and we were friends, so let it go first. & # 39;
She said the abuse got worse and she couldn't handle it.
& # 39; I couldn't handle anything else evil about me, was told that it was a joke, was told that I was unfair to her and that I had to cry her (loudly). So I ghosted her, & she wrote on the forum.
& # 39; I felt terrible about it – really terrible – and embarrassed, because I don't treat people like that. I didn't know what else to do and it was instinctive at the time. I knew it wasn't fun, but I still couldn't get myself into the situation where I would be humiliated again, & she reasoned.
Another woman told a story about her friend calling her and throwing abuse at her, because she canceled plans 24 hours in advance to be with her uncle who had just undergone surgery.
An Elle survey found that 26 percent of women and 33 percent of men have been both ghosted and ghosted, while 24 percent of women and 17 percent of men admit to ghosting (but are not ghosted).
Relationship research shows that ghosting (or avoidance) is the worst way to end a relationship, according to the recipient, and can actually lead to bigger confrontations.
Most people on the line said they felt guilty but many felt they had no choice but & # 39; ghosts & # 39;
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