A mother-of-wife asked for advice about divorcing her husband after discovering that he had 47 children – all because of sperm donation when he was younger.
The fedupwife1234 user, presumably British, revealed how her and her husband had been together for eight years, and she assumed that his donations may have led to a few children.
But she was surprised to find that he had 47 and was worried if problems could arise if the children contacted him at the age of 18.
She visited one of the Reddit forums to say that the admission had changed the way she had changed her husband and whether it was right to ask for a divorce.
But most of the respondents thought they were overreacting, with someone saying: & # 39; I don't understand how this will affect your relationship at all. & # 39;
The mother-of-one took Reddit to admit that she was sad about her husband's recognition of how many children he had had from donating sperm (stock photo)
Thousands of other users were stunned by her recognition, with some saying they didn't understand how she might be influenced by the thought of the children.
& # 39; You asked him, and he told you. If numbers were important to you, you should have asked earlier, & someone wrote.
Another comment was sarcastic: & # 39; My husband helped people raise a family. WIBTA because he left him to help? & # 39;
Fedupwife1234 originally explained that the couple had been married for eight years and had a three-year-old daughter together.
She admitted that he had been frank about donating sperm, but she had never asked how often.
She wrote: & # 39; When we started dating, he was very clear that he had donated sperm in the past. I never asked him how many but assumed it was just a few children.
& # 39; Actually ask him last week and he tells me that when the fertility center last updated him, he had conceived 47 children. & # 39;
She was stunned by the admission and wrote: & I was … I wasn't expecting much. It is clearly my fault that I do not ask how much. & # 39;
& # 39; At the time, I literally said it was me & # 39; didn't care & & # 39; about his sperm donation and & # 39; I didn't want to know & # 39; so I can't blame him for not telling me how much. I literally told him not to. & # 39;
She took the AmitheA ****** forum to question her decision, and admitted that she was considering divorcing her husband from his admission
She continued with: & # 39; …. But 47?! Christ!!!! I can't stop thinking about all the problems that this causes when we get older.
& # 39; WIBTA to divorce him for something he was very frank about?!?! & # 39;
She further said that she was concerned that the children had the legal right to contact information when they turned 18 and that they were concerned about the impact they could have on their lives.
Recognizing that it was selfish, she wrote: & # 39; I wouldn't mind doing a few things (that's why I thought it was good at first), but dozens of kids … It just seems strange to me? I know this feeling is wrong of me. & # 39;
Many other posters were critical of the original poster, with some wondering why they hadn't asked about the number before
& # 39; I think I just needed people to tell me that I am a selfish idiot so I can get over it. & # 39;
She later admitted: & to be honest, I'm just an overly emotional person who has trouble dealing with problems. & # 39;
Thousands of users responded to her post, with many saying she was exaggerating and exaggerating the possible consequences of having 47 children.
Many began to declare their messages through YTA – an abbreviation for You & # 39; re The A ******.
Other Reddit users had a better understanding of the situation and could understand the problems that could arise with 47 children who might come into contact
Another commented: & # 39; All the problems that this causes? It seems that the only problem that is guaranteed is that you leave him and suppress your daughter's life.
However, many others could see the situation from her point of view and showed sympathy for the disturbing situation.
& # 39; I could see that this was a problem when the children want to meet him. If someone does anything at all, & # 39; someone wrote, & # 39; that is perhaps what concerns her when she mentioned that all children got his contact details at 18. & # 39;
They acknowledged that she was exaggerating, but went further: & # 39;And if the children want to be a part of his life? It can become a problem. It is SURE it appears on its own, but that is the only problem I can see from this. & # 39;
Another noted that they could understand the problems that could occur, especially since the couple was married: & Idk, most sperm donation centers ensure that the child can get contact information from the father when they reach legal adulthood.
& # 39; In a few years' time, they may be harassed by up to 47 people who want family history, medical information, and possibly an emotional bond with him and his daughter.
& # 39; And if the husband of OP ever dies, they should all do that for him. & # 39;
The British law – Sperm donation
When a person is 16, they have access to certain information about their donor, including their physical description (height, weight, eye, hair and skin color), the ethnicity of the donor and their parents, as well as the year and country of their birth, regardless of whether they are married or have other children.
They have access to other relevant personal or family medical history, as well as all other information provided by the donor, including work, religion, skills, interests, reasons for donating, a message of goodwill and a personal description.
This changes at 6 pm and anyone who was conceived with the help of a donor after 2005 can ask for the name of the donor, the date of birth and the last known address.
Anyone conceived by a donation in a clinic licensed by the HFEA public authority between 1 August 1991 and 31 March 2005, has a legal right to request information about their genetic origin, but cannot receive information that would identify the donor , such as the name of the donor or address.
For donations made before August 1, 1991, anyone conceived with the donation will not be able to retrieve information through official channels.