Mother has 40 staples in her stomach after caesarean section

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A new mother who had to have 40 staples in her stomach after a Caesarean section has bravely shared photos of her large scar on social media in emotional posts to show others what women’s bodies go through during birth.

Erin Bahadur, 36, from North Carolina, gave birth to her second child, daughter Remy, in December 2020.

The proud mother suffered from a complete placenta previa – when the baby’s placenta covers the cervix – and a suspected accreta – where the placenta attaches to the uterine wall.

Mother and Child: Erin Bahadur, of North Carolina, had 40 staples in her stomach after giving birth to her second baby, daughter Remy, via emergency Caesarean section

Mother and Child: Erin Bahadur, of North Carolina, had 40 staples in her stomach after giving birth to her second baby, daughter Remy, via emergency Caesarean section

Marking: The 36-year-old left a large scar all over her stomach after the procedure and she is now boldly showing it on social media

Marking: The 36-year-old left a large scar all over her stomach after the procedure and she is now boldly showing it on social media

Marking: The 36-year-old left a large scar all over her stomach after the procedure and she is now boldly showing it on social media

Marking: The 36-year-old left a large scar all over her stomach after the procedure and she is now boldly showing it on social media

Marking: The 36-year-old left a large scar all over her stomach after the procedure and she is now boldly showing it on social media

Opening up: 'I'm a very visual person, so taking pictures of my scar helped me normalize what had happened to my body,' said Erin, in the photo with her daughter.

Opening up: 'I'm a very visual person, so taking pictures of my scar helped me normalize what had happened to my body,' said Erin, in the photo with her daughter.

Opening up: ‘I’m a very visual person, so taking pictures of my scar helped me normalize what had happened to my body,’ said Erin, in the photo with her daughter.

Demonstration: Erin also said she wanted to help other women realize that not every pregnancy and delivery is the same

Demonstration: Erin also said she wanted to help other women realize that not every pregnancy and delivery is the same

Demonstration: Erin also said she wanted to help other women realize that not every pregnancy and delivery is the same

Her condition meant that the safest way to give birth was by Caesarean section, with a vertical incision extending from the bottom of Erin’s stomach to above her navy, bypassing her belly button.

Although the caesarean section went well, Remy arrived five weeks early and had to spend 15 days in the newborn intensive care unit (NICU), while Erin was left with 40 staples holding her belly together and a large scar.

The brave mom decided to be outspoken with her followers on social media, where she has 28,400 followers, and share the reality of her condition.

She is now on the road to self-acceptance and says she is ‘proud’ of her body and what it has accomplished.

“I’m a very visual person, so taking pictures of my scar helped me normalize what had happened to my body,” Erin, who works as a blogger, told Jam Press.

‘Sometimes, given all the hormones and sleepless nights, we tend to forget what things were like in those early days, so this has been really helpful to me.

‘I also wanted to show other women that not every birth is easy and that atypical ones should also be celebrated.

‘The scar is strength to me.

‘I am amazed that we are medically in a place where I could be opened up and a different life could be taken that way.

Proud: the mum of two shared photos of her soaked scar and her postpartum body on Instagram to normalize it for other women

Proud: the mum of two shared photos of her soaked scar and her postpartum body on Instagram to normalize it for other women

Proud: the mum of two shared photos of her soaked scar and her postpartum body on Instagram to normalize it for other women

Proud: the mum of two shared photos of her soaked scar and her postpartum body on Instagram to normalize it for other women

Proud: the mum of two shared photos of her soaked scar and her postpartum body on Instagram to normalize it for other women

Strong: 'Postpartum isn't always flowers, balloons and fresh faces - it's messy, bloody, soft and scary,' said Erin

Strong: 'Postpartum isn't always flowers, balloons and fresh faces - it's messy, bloody, soft and scary,' said Erin

Strong: ‘Postpartum isn’t always flowers, balloons and fresh faces – it’s messy, bloody, soft and scary,’ said Erin

'Amazing': Erin wants to celebrate just how strong her body is and the incredible things it went through while carrying and giving birth to two children

'Amazing': Erin wants to celebrate just how strong her body is and the incredible things it went through while carrying and giving birth to two children

'Amazing': Erin wants to celebrate just how strong her body is and the incredible things it went through while carrying and giving birth to two children

'Amazing': Erin wants to celebrate just how strong her body is and the incredible things it went through while carrying and giving birth to two children

‘Amazing’: Erin wants to celebrate just how strong her body is and the incredible things it went through while carrying and giving birth to two children

Emotional: Her powerful social media posts have reduced some users to tears

Emotional: Her powerful social media posts have reduced some users to tears

Emotional: Her powerful social media posts have reduced some users to tears

“It’s my daughter’s doorway to the world and I’m very proud of it.”

Erin is also the mother of two-year-old son Miles, whose birth was also by Caesarean section, although she had the most common horizontal incision that time.

She has shared images of her soaked scar on Instagram to normalize it for other women.

Erin captioned the post: ‘Today I removed 40 staples.

40 staples that held me together after an uncertain delivery. 40 staples that allowed me to welcome a little new life into this world.

40 staples that will eventually reveal a scar, I can show my daughter as her entry into this world.

‘Before I have them removed, I want to document them.

Postpartum isn’t always flowers, balloons, and fresh faces – it’s messy, bloody, soft, and scary.

‘They are bruises from IVs and emotions that are sometimes more complex than anything that we carry with us physically.

‘It’s relearning your own body and realizing how great it is for what it can do.

“Today I say goodbye to these 40 staples, but hello to an eternal memory of an experience I wouldn’t change for the world.”

Fighter: Erin's daughter Remy was born five weeks prematurely and had to spend 15 days in the NICU

Fighter: Erin's daughter Remy was born five weeks prematurely and had to spend 15 days in the NICU

Fighter: Erin’s daughter Remy was born five weeks prematurely and had to spend 15 days in the NICU

Continue: The Brave Mom Is Now Documenting Her Journey As A Mother Of Two, Making Sure To Showcase Both The Good And The Bad

Continue: The Brave Mom Is Now Documenting Her Journey As A Mother Of Two, Making Sure To Showcase Both The Good And The Bad

Continue: The Brave Mom Is Now Documenting Her Journey As A Mother Of Two, Making Sure To Showcase Both The Good And The Bad

Continue: The Brave Mom Is Now Documenting Her Journey As A Mother Of Two, Making Sure To Showcase Both The Good And The Bad

Continue: The Brave Mom Is Now Documenting Her Journey As A Mother Of Two, Making Sure To Showcase Both The Good And The Bad

Honesty: 'If we only see smiling mothers and babies, it can be difficult for women to reconcile if they've had a particularly difficult or traumatic birth experience,' she said

Honesty: 'If we only see smiling mothers and babies, it can be difficult for women to reconcile if they've had a particularly difficult or traumatic birth experience,' she said

Honesty: ‘If we only see smiling mothers and babies, it can be difficult for women to reconcile if they’ve had a particularly difficult or traumatic birth experience,’ she said

Family: Erin, pictured with son Miles and partner Neil, said she 'wants to talk about the things people don't talk about'

Family: Erin, pictured with son Miles and partner Neil, said she 'wants to talk about the things people don't talk about'

Family: Erin, pictured with son Miles and partner Neil, said she ‘wants to talk about the things people don’t talk about’

Social media users were very touched by the mother’s story and flocked to the comments section, calling the post “ so beautiful ” and applauding Erin’s vulnerability in sharing it.

One person was particularly emotional after reading the post and said, ‘I just came here to say that your post made me cry. So proud of your girl – keep on shining. ‘

Erin regularly shares insights about motherhood on social media, where she blogs about her journey.

She added: ‘We often get a warm, rosy picture of what motherhood and birth are like, and both times I’ve found that that’s not necessarily the case.

When we only see smiling mothers and babies, it can be difficult for women to reconcile when they’ve had a particularly difficult or traumatic birth experience.

‘I like to talk about the things that people don’t talk about.

One of the worst things in motherhood is navigating a new space while also feeling like you’re ‘not doing it right’ or that you don’t have the same experience as someone else.

“I want all mothers to feel seen and heard – it’s really important to me.”

You can take Erin’s maternity journey Instagram