An American teenager says that her mother invoiced her 13 years of dance lessons after she decided that her “heart just isn’t in it anymore” and she wants to quit.
The 18-year-old woman complained about her parents Reddit, which explains that she has danced competitively for most of her life – but is tired of turning her entire life around the activity, which does not make her happy.
When she told her parents that she was hanging her strikers, they were “deeply sad and angry” – and her mother later gave her a bill to cover all the money she had spent on dancing over the years.
What do you say? An 18-year-old said her mother gave her a bill for 13 years of ballet and jazz lessons after the teenager decided she no longer wanted to dance (stock image)
‘I have been dancing since I was 5 and have done it competitively since I was 8. I have been in tap, ballet, jazz and modern for years and have participated in all competitions, ‘wrote the teenager and noted that it certainly cost her parents a lot of money.
However, it seems that they wanted to pay for it and that her mother was in fact the driving force behind her dancing.
“My mother was a ballerina in her youth until she injured her foot,” the teenager said. “Her dreams were interrupted to ever make a career out of it or go to Julliard.
‘I have the feeling that she lived through me in many ways. I am good, but I am not and will never be one of the big ones. “
She had danced more than 30 hours a week for 13 years when she recently decided she was ready.
“My heart just isn’t there anymore,” she wrote. ‘I no longer feel the same spark as before. I feel no joy, because all I do is school, practice, study, compete, drive through the country for competitions and my mother’s obsessive diet.
‘I eat, sleep, breathe dance and I don’t have time for a life out there. So I told my parents that I’m done with it, I don’t want to dance anymore. “
When they got the news, they were “saddened and angry”
“They want to see me succeed and have literally tens of thousands of dollars in it over the years,” said the teenager, admitting she understood their disappointment.
But this weekend her mother did the unthinkable: she demanded reimbursement for everything she had spent the past year and a half.
“My mother gave me an invoice and said that if I don’t dance anymore, I have to find a job and pay back all the money they have invested in me and my dances,” the teenager wrote.
“I told her no, I’m not going to pay them back that it’s ridiculous to expect from me,” she continued. “We really had a big fight and painful things were said on both sides.”
In response to the comments, the teenager added that her father is not help, and only instructs her to talk about the problem with her mother.
“I think my mother (parents) are unfair and outrageous with all this.”
I feel no joy, because all I do is school, practice, study, compete, drive through the country for competitions and my mother’s obsessive diet.
Editors fully agreed, slamming the teen’s mother and arguing that a child is not an “investment” – parents are responsible for taking care of them and cannot be expected to get their money back.
“They did not invest” in your dances. You are their child, they have paid for your dances, “wrote one.
“Every parent decides how we educate our children,” another wrote. “Some of us put our children into language immersion programs, music programs, sports programs, private schools, scouts, boarding schools – whatever we feel best about. Some cost more than others, but the budget is not the problem or decision of the children.
“They can’t invoice you for the way they chose to educate you,” the person continued. ‘All parents make mistakes. We cannot invoice our children for them. “
Another added: “No one suddenly gets the decision that a gift is a loan that sounds exactly like what they think it is.”
Others think that the teenager has had bad luck in the parenting department.
“Your mother is a narcissist and uses you as a trophy,” one wrote, to which another responded: “I think this goes beyond narcissism. This mother is actually a psychopath. ”