A woman who lost her reproductive organs as a child asked her mother to act as a surrogate – and to give birth to her own grandchild.
Jasmine Bowley, 21, from Norwich, had her ovaries and fallopian tubes removed when she developed Ewing’s sarcoma, a form of cancer, in her pelvis at the age of 7 – which also affected her uterus.
After meeting her partner Daniel Bell, 27, the couple was desperately looking for a child of their own and initially hormone replacement therapy (HRT) in order to undergo IV, with the help of a donor egg.
But the treatment failed and Jasmin’s mother, Sabrina Bowley, 39, has now offered to carry the child – which will be conceived with Daniel’s sperm and a donor egg – and give birth to her own grandchild.
Jasmine Bowley, from Norwich, hopes to raise £ 20,000 so that her mother Sabrina (left behind with Jasmine) can act as a surrogate for her child
The family now hopes to raise £ 20,000 GoFundMe to complete Jasmine’s dream family.
Four-year-old Sabrina mother said: ‘I feel that this is the only and biggest thing I can do for my daughter and her partner. If I gave them the gift of life, all my dreams and her would come true.
“I am a proud mother and will become a proud grandmother. I am really proud of my daughter and how far she has come in life despite everything she has experienced.
“People told me that I am a wonderful and wonderful mother to agree to, but I am not.
Jasmine (at the age of seven with her brother Reece) had her ovaries and fallopian tubes removed when she developed the sarcoma of the Ewing pelvis as a child
After Jasmine met her partner Daniel Bell (pictured together), the couple were desperate for a child of their own and initially hormonal replacement therapy for IVF.
‘I just help my daughter like any other mother would. It just so happens that in this case I am going to help her become a mother.
“I’ve done it four times before, so I know what to do.”
Jasmine was diagnosed with the sarcoma of the Ewing pelvis when she was only seven and she bravely beat the disease.
Her fallopian tubes and ovaries were removed during surgery to remove her cancer, while radiotherapy damaged her uterus.
Dreaming of becoming a mother for most of her life, the only option available to Jasmine was hormone replacement therapy that would hopefully encourage her womb to grow and allow her to become a mother through IVF.
Pictured: Jasmine and her mother Sabrina are holding a photo of the couple when Jasmine was sick as a child
Sabrina (pictured when Jasmine was 18 months old) has offered to carry the child – which will be conceived with Daniel’s sperm and a donor egg – and to give birth to her own grandchild
But the treatment did not stimulate Jasmine’s growth, leaving her with no other option but to request private surrogacy for £ 20,000.
She said: “If hormonal replacement therapy had worked, I could have had artificial insemination.
“Becoming a mother would be a dream come true for me and something I always wanted to have.
“I had hormone replacement therapy as a teenager, and although it didn’t work, I still thought I had a small chance of becoming a mother naturally …”
In a heart-to-heart chat, Jasmine, Daniel and Sabrina decided that the only way Jasmine could become a mother would be through private surrogacy – and that Sabrina would be the surrogate mother.
Sabrina said she might even give birth naturally. She added, “We were told when she was younger that Jasmine was unlikely to have children, but over the years we have always held on to hope.”
Jasmine was diagnosed with the sarcoma of the Ewing pelvis when she was just seven years old and bravely beat the disease (photo: Jasmine at the age of six)
“When we realized that we had no option but to go private, people talked about who the surrogate would be and I offered to do it after a long conversation between the three of us.
“When we discussed the options, I noticed that it was easiest for me to be the surrogate. Daniel and Jasmine discussed it and we decided that the three of us would do that.
‘It just seemed good and the best thing to do and I have had other pregnancies that were all healthy and good.
“It’s the gift of life and I want to help anyway.”
Jasmine, Daniel and Sabrina hope to raise the £ 20,000 needed for the procedure before Sabrina undergoes IVF to become pregnant using Daniel’s sperm and a donor egg.
What is Ewing’s sarcoma?
Ewing Sarcoma is a rare form of cancer that affects bones or tissue around bones.
It mainly affects children and adolescents aged 10 to 20 years.
The most affected areas are:
- Vertebral column
Common symptoms are:
- Bone pain that increases in intensity over time and at night
- Soft lumps or swelling
- Persistent high temperatures
- Weight loss
The family has agreed that they will be open and honest with their child and grandchild about the birth.
So far, Jasmine, Daniel and Sabrina say that their decision has only received love and support from their loved ones.
Daniel said: ‘Jasmine is the love of my life. She told me a week in the relationship that she probably couldn’t have children. It was a shock, but of course I didn’t mind.
“We have looked at all the options in recent years and knew about two years ago that I should give sperm.”
Jasmine added: ‘The moment Mom said she would do it, she didn’t realize. We have had so many kickbacks. All our friends and family have been so helpful.
“Becoming a mother will be everything to me, it will complete my life.”
A Surrogacy UK spokesperson said: “Surrogacy is a wonderful way to start a family – full of confidence, friendship and love, and surrogacy teams consisting of friends or relatives are common in the UK.
‘Fortunately for those intended parents who do not have a friend or family member to help, more and more surrogate mothers come forward every day, whose dream is to bear surrogacy.
“Around 400 babies a year are created in the UK through surrogacy, and as it becomes a more acceptable way of having a baby, it will only increase.
‘In the UK, openness, honesty and lifelong friendships are encouraged, so the born children are lucky to have parents who love them, but also a loving relationship with their surrogate mother.
“The IVF zip code lottery means that anyone undergoing fertility treatment in the UK must self-finance, but surrogacy IVF is usually much more expensive than normal IVF. This means that the intended parents must save thousands of pounds before they can even start their journey.
‘Not only are these intended parents who are unable to bear their own child, they also have the extra pressure of financial infertility.
“SurrogacyUK wishes Jasmine, Daniel and Sabrina all the best for their upcoming surrogacy journey, and we hope to congratulate them very soon.”