A mother has announced her own death in a heartbreaking social media post written during her final days to assure friends she knew how “deeply” loved she was.
Casey McIntyre, 38, a mother of one, from New York, died of stage four ovarian cancer on November 12.
Casey’s death was announced on Instagram via a message she had written before her passing, which was later shared by her husband Andrew, alongside a carousel of images of his wife throughout her life – as a child, during their marriage and with their daughter.
“A note to my friends: if you are reading this, it means I have passed away. I’m so sorry, they are *** horses and we both know it,” the statement begins. “The cause was a recurrence of my previously diagnosed stage four ovarian cancer.”
To ‘celebrate’ her life, the mother-of-one planned a moving tribute to pay people’s medical bills. Pictured: Casey with her husband Andrew and their daughter Grace
Casey McIntyre (pictured) tragically died on November 12 from stage four ovarian cancer.
“I loved each of you with all my heart and I promise you, I knew how deeply loved I was.”
Before her death, Casey, who worked in publishing, spent five months in home hospice in Virginia, Rhode Island and New York, surrounded by family and friends – a period she called ” Magic “.
Tragically, Casey did not get a chance to finish her message before she died, with her husband Andrew adding an “editor’s note” in which he paid tribute to his wife and shared his “sorrow” at not having had the opportunity to finish it. Last goodbye.
“Casey wanted to end this post with a list of things that have been a comfort and joy to her throughout her life, and I am heartbroken that I will never see that list,” he wrote.
“As she got sicker and sicker, she couldn’t finish it.
“I imagine it would have included our daughter Grace, whales, ice cream, her beloved friends, being at the beach, her niece and nephews whom she incorrigibly adored, reading 10 books during a week’s vacation, her parents and his beloved sister and their amazing extended family, swimming, a perfect roast beef sandwich and me, his sweet, sweet honey.
He added: “Oh Casey! I don’t know how we’ll do it without you, but we will.
Casey described her final months as “magical” in a heartbreaking final message written before her death, shared by her husband.
Andrew then asked Casey’s loved ones to share “a note that was a comfort or joy that you shared” with her, before sharing details of her memorial service, before revealing that his wife had come up with a plan to ” celebrate” his life. by organizing a fundraiser to pay off other people’s medical debts.
“We will celebrate her life by anonymously purchasing medical debt, then anonymously forgiving her, hopefully with a bonfire if they let us,” he wrote.
“If you attend (his memorial service), please wear something that expresses your deep sadness at our loss, as well as something that expresses the joy you feel for having known Casey.”
Take from Xformerly called Twitter, Casey shared more details about the initiative, writing: “To celebrate my life, I arranged to buy out other people’s medical debt and then destroy it.
“I am so fortunate to have had access to the best medical care at the @MSKCancerCenter and I am acutely aware that so many people in our country do not have access to good care.”
Titled: “Casey McIntyre’s Memorial and Debt Jubilee,” each donation was made anonymously, at Casey’s request.
With a goal of $20,000, Casey’s fundraising goals were exceeded in less than a week, with the current total standing at $20,908.50, triggering a new goal of $30,000.
Casey’s sweet sentiment was well received on social media, and the tribute touched many.
Casey maintained a positive attitude while battling illness and even ran a cancer-inspired fashion account.
Social media users took to the comments section to share their thoughts on Casey’s heartwarming fundraiser.
WHY OVARIAN CANCER IS CALLED A “SILENT KILLER”
About 80 percent of ovarian cancer cases are diagnosed at an advanced stage of the disease.
By the time of diagnosis, 60 percent of ovarian cancers will have already spread to other parts of the body, reducing the five-year survival rate to 30 percent from 90 percent at the earliest stage.
It’s diagnosed so late because of its location in the pelvis, according to Dr. Ronny Drapkin, an associate professor at the University of Pennsylvania who has studied the disease for more than two decades.
‘The pelvis is like a bowl, so a tumor can grow quite large there before it becomes visible,’ Dr Drapkin told MailOnline.
The first symptoms of ovarian cancer are gastrointestinal, as tumors may begin to grow upward.
When a patient complains of gastrointestinal discomfort, doctors are more likely to focus on a change in diet and other causes rather than suggesting screening for ovarian cancer.
Dr. Drapkin said it’s usually only after a patient has persistent gastrointestinal symptoms that they receive a screening that reveals cancer.
“Ovarian cancer is often said to be a silent killer because it doesn’t have early symptoms, when in fact it does have symptoms, they are just very general and could be caused by other things “, did he declare.
“One of the things I tell women is that no one knows your body as well as you do. If you feel like something isn’t right, there’s probably something wrong.
One said: “What a lovely, strong final gift to give someone. Rest in peace Casey.
Another wrote: “I can’t breathe because of the lump in my throat. What a legacy. This will be a change in my will when I update it.
A third said: “I didn’t know you, Casey, but your very generous donation to pay off others’ medical debt as a memorial moved me.
“You won’t see the impact of your legacy, but your family will, and so will the families of everyone you help. I didn’t know you, but I wish I did! Fly high.’
A fourth added: “This is perfect, an amazing idea and a tribute to a beautiful, fierce warrior.”
Another said: “This is so beautiful. Sending so much love to the family. What an extraordinary woman she clearly was.