A Mormon woman has told how her offending ex-boyfriend has stolen her virginity by pecking and raping her drink while ignoring her pleas to stop.
Mayci Jones Neeley, a 24-year-old social media manager from Coto de Caza, California, met her ex-boyfriend at a New Year's Eve party when she was just 17 years old. They started it and decided to try a long-distance relationship while he was in college.
& # 39; We decided to do the long-distance thing and give our relationship a chance. He would send me huge bouquets of flowers for no reason, it all seemed too good to be true and it was, & she said.
Trauma: Mayci Jones Neeley, 24, has revealed that her violent college friend (photo) has enriched her drink and raped her after repeatedly refusing to lose her virginity
Looking back: the social media manager from Coto de Caza, California, met her ex-boyfriend at a New Year's Eve party when she was just 17 years old
After four months together, Mayci began to notice signs of jealousy when he returned home before the summer. He would try to view her mobile to view her Snapchat and text messages.
& # 39; He also started to press me to do sexual things with him, which I had never done before because I come from a religious background, & # 39; she remembered. & # 39; I said no time and time again until he finally forced me to touch me physically. & # 39;
It got worse when she started studying. Mayci said he was going to put pressure on her to drink alcohol, even though this was contrary to the school's code of honor and her religious beliefs as a Mormon.
& # 39; After saying no words time and time again, I finally gave in to prevent me from being shouted and verbally abused, & # 39; she explained. & # 39; That was the moment when our relationship became the worst. When he drank, he became a very mean person.
& # 39; He would start screaming me out of nowhere, pushing me against walls and choking me. & # 39;
Mayci said he constantly abused her verbally, mentally and physically. He tried to prevent her from seeing her family and friends because he wanted her all to himself. When he saw her standing next to another man at a party, he could panic and call her a whore, slut and whore.
She remembered how he pushed her into a front door one evening, opening her heel that was bleeding heavily.
Hidden horror: Mayci said her ex verbally, mentally and physically abused her in the course of their one-year relationship. He pressured her to drink alcohol and perform sexual acts
Pain: She remembered how he pushed her into a front door one evening, opening her heel, which was bleeding profusely
& # 39; After seeing that he had hurt me, he started slapping himself in the face time and again to show that he & # 39; sorry & # 39; was, & # 39; she said.
& # 39; There were many times that I had called 911 because I feared for my life, but I never called because I was afraid of getting into alcohol abuse by minors. & # 39;
Another night he tried to cut his wrists for her, not because he was suicidal but because he wanted to punish her.
& # 39; He did not cut deep, but just enough for a small dot of blood. He did it because he knows I hate blood and needles and he actually wanted my attention, & she said.
In the end, her ex-boyfriend teased her about & # 39; everything that is sexual, except for sexual intercourse & # 39; to do.
& # 39; I told him I kept my virginity for marriage, because that's what I wanted, & # 39; she said. & # 39; He would always put pressure on me to have sex with him and I would say no that made him crazy.
& # 39; Then he took matters into his own hands by nailing my drink. I drank one drink and that is all I can really remember. & # 39;
Manipulation: After her ex enriched her drink and raped her, he got angry with her the next day for not remembering that she had taken her virginity
Furthermore: their relationship ended in March 2014 when he had to return to his home town due to health problems and she has not seen him since
Mayci noted that she knew he had enriched her drink because she was & # 39; in no way a lightweight & # 39; and could drink at least three drinks before they even & remotely buzzed & # 39 ;.
& # 39; After drinking some of the drink, the last thing I remember is that he was sitting on top of me and I said, "No, I don't want it, I don't want it," again and again. I was so listless that I could barely keep my eyes open, & she said.
& # 39; Most of my memory this night is just flashing. Trying to talk felt like I was in a bad dream when you try to scream but you have no voice. That was how I got out. & # 39;
Mayci said her ex-boyfriend was really mad at her because she didn't remember what had happened.
& # 39; The next morning he says: & # 39; I can't believe that happened last night. & # 39; I said, "What happened?" He said: & # 39; We had sex. & # 39; To which I said: & # 39; No, we did not do that & & # 39; Then he got super angry because I didn't remember our first time. & # 39;
Mayci hid all the abuse from her family and friends because she didn't want them to think that she & # 39; stupid & # 39; used to be.
Family: Mayci suffered years of PTSD and nightmares before meeting her husband, Jacob Neeley (photo) in 2016. Together they bring her son Hudson from a different relationship
Difficult: before she met Jacob, she hid all the abuse she had endured from her family and friends because her ex made her feel that she & # 39; deserved it all & # 39;
& # 39; I was embarrassed and he made me feel like I deserved it all. I felt that I no longer had any value, and that nobody would want me now, because that's what he made me believe, & she said.
& # 39; Over the course of time it has completely changed my happiness and overall personality. My friends noticed that I had a lot of anger in me and that I was always on the point of snarling.
& # 39; I became much more aggressive and upset about things that would not normally upset me, but the constant abuse and manipulation made me so. & # 39;
After a year of abuse, their relationship ended in March 2014 when he had to return to his hometown due to health problems.
Mayci said she broke up with him the day he left and has not seen him since, but because of his abuse she struggled with uncertainty. Although she knew she had to get out of their abuse relationship, she missed someone and feared she would never find love again.
Painful memories: the abuse of her ex made her feel insecure and paranoid about men. She said she used alcohol as a crutch to release when she was gone
Getting help: four years after she broke up with her ex, she decided she needed a therapist to help her with her life
Using her platform: Mayci uses her story to help others and speaks openly about her journey on her blog and Instagram account
& # 39; Although I got out, I was mentally confused by the abuse and rape that I used alcohol to drown my worries and make me forget that it all happened & she said.
& # 39; I used alcohol as a stool and used it to release myself when I was hanging out with other men, & # 39; she explained.
& # 39; But I have become very careful and paranoid around men. I never let anyone get me a drink. If they did, I would see them physically poured and handed it to me. I never got too drunk for fear of being sexually abused again. & # 39;
Four years later, she decided that she should go to a therapist because she was still suffering from it PTSD and & # 39; terrible nightmares & # 39; who prevent her from continuing with her life
& # 39; The most difficult part was forgiving myself. I blamed myself for what happened and I was generally very angry with myself, & she said. & # 39; So accepting what happened to me and realizing that I was a victim helped me recover better. & # 39;
For the past three years, Mayci has had a loving relationship with her husband, Jacob Neeley, 23, whom she met in April 2016 through a friend.
& # 39; My partner has always supported me during my healing journey & # 39 ;, she said. & # 39; He is my shoulder to cry on, and generally my comforter when I experience some form of PTSD. He understands my triggers and is very patient with me. & # 39;
Vicious circle: Mayci emphasized that threats, physical violence and manipulation make it difficult for people to enter into abusive relationships
Better place: & # 39; I feel that almost a weight has been taken off my shoulders and frankly made me feel free & # 39 ;, she said about sharing her story
Together they raise her four-year-old son Hudson, her child from an earlier relationship. Mayci said the abuse she suffered changed her approach to motherhood.
& # 39; I'm going to make sure Hudson knows what's good and what's not in his future relationships, & # 39; she said, noting that she is also teaching him to treat people with respect regardless of their gender.
& # 39; I feel that almost a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and it really gave me a feeling of freedom. I not only wanted to inform others about signs of abuse, but I also wanted to use my story to help other women who have been abused or raped, & she said.
& # 39; After my first blog post was published, I received more than 100 messages from women who said my story helped them. Many of them have also been abused or abused.
Mayci emphasized that threats, physical violence and manipulation make it difficult for people to abuse.
& # 39; Abuse in relationships is much more common than you think, & # 39; she explained. & # 39; It usually starts with small things such as jealousy or the way the person talks about others. If you notice those things, go away. It is a lot harder to walk away for months. & # 39;
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