A mother whose husband became her wife when he transitioned to wife has said she is “happier than ever” but admits there were signs, including dressing up in her clothes.
Tea-Lynn Van Dyk, 36, of Ontario, Canada, first came out as trans for her wife, Gabrielle Van Dyk, 35, in December 2019, and their two daughters shortly after, after what she called a “three-day panic.” mentioned. attack’.
Their youngest daughter, Adelaide, 6, was immediately receptive to another mother and often corrected other members of their extended family for mis-sexing her.
Arya, 7, took about two weeks to accept the change because she was afraid Tea-Lynn was leaving and not with her.
Gabrielle Van Dyk’s husband, who became her wife when he transitioned to wife, has said she is “happier than ever” but admits there were signs – including dressing up in her clothes. Pictured: Tea-Lynn (pre-transition) and wife Gabrielle Van Dyke
Tea-Lynn Van Dyk, 36, first came out as trans to her wife, Gabrielle Van Dyk, 35, in December 2019, and their two daughters shortly after, after what she called a “three-day panic attack.” Pictured: Gabrielle, Arya, Tea-Lynn (post transition) and Adelaide Van Dyk
Pictured: Tea Lynn and wife Gabrielle Van Dyk now
“They know it’s a touchy subject, but we haven’t talked much about it since we first told them that life goes on,” Tea-Lynn said. “Now I’m mommy and Gabrielle is mommy.”
“Adelaide has been a super supporter from day one. She’s the kind of person where, if someone on the street was transphobic to me, she’d be in their face.
“And with Adelaide, I just had to reassure her that I wasn’t going anywhere and that I would always love her, and she’s been amazing ever since.”
Gabrielle was very calm when Tea-Lynn first came out and suggested that she see a therapist to help her with her transition. Gabrielle says her attitude is one of the reasons they’re still together.
Tea-Lynn began her hormonal transition in April 2020, after consulting her doctor and talking to a therapist about her feelings and experiences. Pictured: Tea-Lynn Van Dyk at pride pre-transition
Tea said when she first told Gabrielle that she assumed she would be gone. Pictured: Tea Van Dyk after the menopause
“When I first told her I assumed she would be gone, I assumed we were going to get a divorce because it’s a lot for some people,” Tea-Lynn explained. “I couldn’t imagine my life without her.
“Now I feel like I can love her as much as I do, and that’s fierce and wild. I have the feeling that there is finally no barrier between us anymore.’
But Gabrielle claims there were some telling signs that Tea-Lynn wanted to express herself differently, including when Tea-Lynn admitted to dressing up in Gabrielle’s clothes.
“She had hinted that she was wearing some of my clothes, so it didn’t come out of the blue, I had that in mind,” Gabrielle said. “When she first told me I was okay, let’s talk about it and see how this is going to work for us.
“She still likes the same things, she laughs at the same kind of humor, so in my mind she’s still the same person and it doesn’t matter if she dresses feminine or changes her name.
Tea-Lynn has also come out to her family and friends, who are largely supportive of her. Pictured: Tea-Lynn pre-menopause
The couple’s youngest daughter, Adelaide, 6, was immediately receptive to another mother and often corrected other members of their extended family for mis-sexing her. Pictured: Tea-Lynn, Gabrielle, Arya (CL) and Adelaide (CR)
Gabrielle was very calm when Tea-Lynn first came out and suggested that she see a therapist to help her with her transition. Pictured: Gabrielle and Tea Lynn Van Dyk
“I think because I look at it that way, that made this a success.”
Tea-Lynn began her hormonal transition in April 2020, after consulting her doctor and talking to a therapist about her feelings and experiences.
She has also come out to her family and friends, who are largely supportive.
“I am so blessed and fortunate to have people in my life who recognize that this transition is about realizing my own happiness, and they are happy for me,” explains Tea-Lynn.
“I’ve had to cut off a family that didn’t support me, and I’ve lost a few friends, but overall my transition has been overwhelmingly full of love and support and I’m immensely grateful.
‘I feel so much happier. The physical changes have been amazing, but there’s also a kind of mental clarity.
Arya, 7, took about two weeks to accept the change because she was afraid Tea-Lynn was leaving and not with her. Pictured, Arya, Tea-Lynn (pre-menopause), Adelaide and Gabrielle Van Dyke
“Before I switched, there was a mental fog of just confusion, sadness and depression, and taking these hormones lifted that.
“I’ve laughed to tears more in the past 16 months than in the 35 years I was on Earth before I started. It’s great to finally feel real.’
“I know everyone is curious about surgery, but to me it’s like walking up to a man on the street and asking if he’s been circumcised, it’s none of my business.
“Unless you’re a doctor or a sexual partner, I don’t see why you should know what surgeries I’ve had or not. An operation makes a trans woman no longer valid, she is already a woman.’