A mother of twin girls has sparked heated debate after revealing that only one of her daughters was invited to a class birthday party, while the other was not.
He viral video was posted earlier this month by mom Kristen Fox, who goes by the username @thefoxsaystwins, and has since reached more than 709,000 views.
Fox is mother to five-year-old identical twins Jayna and Kinsley and often talks about her life as a mother on her social media accounts.
This time, however, he was dealing with a debacle he hadn’t yet faced with his twins.
“I knew this day would come, but I wasn’t prepared for it,” Fox admitted at the beginning of the video, explaining that the night before they had received an invitation to a birthday party just for one of her twins.
She explained that they were in the same class and she wasn’t sure what to do.
“I knew this was going to happen eventually, I just didn’t think it was going to happen at this age,” Fox shared.
“I feel like it’s an all or nothing situation, so either they both go to the party or neither of them goes to the party,” she continued.
A mother of twin girls sparked a heated debate after revealing that only one of her daughters was invited to a class birthday party, while the other was not (file image)
The mother of two said her “gut instinct” told her to message the mother, whom she doesn’t know, and ask if the invitation was for one or both girls.
“If the answer is one of them, then the answer will be an RSVP from us, because I literally can’t think about the pain that will cause the girl who wasn’t invited,” he admitted.
In the caption, Fox asked viewers what they would do if they were her, sparking a fierce debate in the comments section.
Some people thought it would be good if only one of the twins attended the party, while others agreed with mom.
‘Twin here… PLEASE don’t take away one child’s opportunity to attend because the other wasn’t invited. Such is life. “I love the idea of doing something fun one on one during the party,” one person wrote.
Another agreed: “The guest twin is going to the party.” They are not two halves of a whole, they are separate people with individual tastes and friendships.’
‘Twin mom here. This happens to my daughters all the time. They have two totally different groups of friends. Don’t take away one child’s independence to make you and the other child happy. It’s hard to see but it’s also life. They are two people, not one,” someone else wrote.
A second user urged: ‘It’s NOT an all or nothing situation. You should also let them be their own person.’
Some people thought it would be good if only one of the twins attended the party, while others agreed with mom (file image)
Others, however, sided with Fox.
‘I’m a twin and I remember not being invited to a birthday party in sixth grade, but my twin was; I still remember the pain I felt. I absolutely understand your response,’ one TikTok user admitted.
Another seconded: “My twins are 15 now, but there’s no way at five years old I would let one go without the other.” Obviously as they get older it’s different, but it’s DEFINITELY not five!’
‘My personal opinion: maybe in high school, of course, they can have different friends. But this young woman in class would be all or nothing for me as a mother,” one wrote.
Fox ended up texting the mom and in a follow-up videorevealed that the invitation problem ended up being a confusion.
The mother hosting the birthday party explained that she intended to invite both girls.
—Do you know what she answered? Fox said in the follow-up video. “Oh my gosh, of course both girls are invited, they’re in the same class and we know they’re really good friends with my daughter.”
in a later videoFox discovered that Evite doesn’t allow people to add the same email address for multiple recipients, which explains why only one of the girls’ name appeared.
Fox ended up texting the mother and, in a follow-up video, revealed that the invitation issue ended up being a mix-up (file image)
DailyMail.com has contacted Fox for comment.
In a recent interview with PeopleThe content creator admitted that she received “massive hate” for the initial video and that many people took issue with her reaching out to the mother for clarification.
‘People told me that I have the right. “They told me that my twins are individuals and that they are going to have their own friends,” Fox told the outlet.
“And look, I totally agree,” he continued. ‘There will be a time and a place when only one will be invited to things. There will be many occasions in my life when one will be invited and the other will not, but this is for a fifth birthday party. These children are very young, they are in the same class and they are of the same sex.
She shared that she didn’t think it was “bad” for her to approach the mom from the other class.
“I made it very clear when I messaged the mom that I was embarrassed to even send the message,” Fox said.
“Either response was totally fine and I mean it,” he told the outlet.
‘It’s just that at this point, I didn’t feel like I was in a place to pick up the pieces for her not being invited because I don’t think there was anything I could have done with her to make up for the absence. a birthday party with her friends in which her sister was included at this age.’
And at the end of the day, the mom shared that she created her channel to help other twin parents along the way.
“There has been a lot of support and helping others as well,” he said.
“If I can help another twin mom or dad feel seen and say, ‘Wow, I’m not alone in this,’ then that’s a win.”