I “ruined” a 9-year-old’s birthday party by trying to invite my daughter: here’s why I’m not sorry
- A nine-year-old girl was excluded from her friend’s pool birthday party
- His mother was accused of ‘causing drama’ by asking him about the lack of an invitation.
A mother has been accused of “ruining” a girl’s birthday by “accidentally” causing drama within her daughter’s friendship group, but she doesn’t think she’s wrong.
Julie was confused when her nine-year-old daughter was excluded from her friend Addy’s birthday party, despite attending a tight-knit school with only 11 girls in her grade.
The girl found out the news when her friend Sarah asked her if she was excited about the pool party, only to realize she had no idea Addy was celebrating her birthday.
Sarah’s mom suggested that Julie contact the other girl’s parents, because it had to be an honest mistake, but Julie was shocked when she found out that her daughter hadn’t been invited on purpose.
Julie’s simple message soon got out of hand and resulted in four other girls refusing to attend Addy’s party, with Addy’s mother being infuriated by the “drama” Julie caused.
A mother has been accused of ‘ruining’ a girl’s birthday by ‘accidentally’ causing drama within her daughter’s friendship group, but she doesn’t think she’s wrong.
“I was hesitant at first because I have strong feelings about inviting yourself to things,” Julie said. “But I couldn’t see a real reason why she wasn’t invited since it was a house party and all the other girls were, so I texted Addy’s mom.”
The problem arose when Addy’s mother revealed that she had hired a spa service for the party that only included 10 girls, so they decided not to invite Julie’s daughter.
Julie eventually tried to pass off the situation as a life lesson, telling her daughter that she couldn’t expect to be invited everywhere.
Julie then sent Sarah’s mom a screenshot of the conversation when she asked for an update.
He told me that he had decided that Sarah would not attend. She felt it was wrong not to include a single child, and she could see if the children didn’t get along or had drama, but that wasn’t the case. They hired someone knowing that a girl would be left out.
Julie received a message a week later from Addy’s mother, who told her that four girls were not coming to the party.
She felt that she had ruined her daughter’s party and was creating drama. I explained that she had no bad intentions and that she had only talked to another mother about it.
Julie wondered if she was wrong to talk about the party in the first place, and if she should have left it at that.
Julie was confused when her nine-year-old daughter was excluded from her friend Addy’s birthday party, despite attending a tight-knit school with only 11 girls in her grade.
However, many sided with Julie, with several commenting on how “cruel” it was to exclude even one girl from the group of friends.
“Addy’s mom knows there are 11 girls in the class and she decided to do an activity that was limited to 10. That’s where the drama started,” said one woman.
“Excluding a single child in a group is silly, and luckily four other parents can see it,” wrote another.
But some thought the mother was being presumptuous and shouldn’t have asked in the first place.
‘If they don’t tell me about a party, there’s no way I’m going to ask! I can take a hint,’ said one commenter.
“It’s in bad taste to ask why your son wasn’t invited,” wrote another. ‘Maybe the other girl’s mother just doesn’t like your son, that’s perfectly fair, they’re allowed to invite whoever they want to her events.’
