This morning, relationship expert Michelle Elman shared an image showing off a diamond ring as she announced her engagement to her fiancé – just hours before dumping him for cheating on her, MailOnline can reveal.
Michelle took to Instagram to finally reveal the identity of her partner of almost three years, known only as Ben. She captioned the happy image: “I told you I’d never post my boyfriend…MEET MY FIANCE.”
It was the first image that the influencer shared of her partner after doing everything possible for years to hide Ben’s identity from the public eye.
She had never revealed her face before, nor had she tagged or named him in any online photos and later explained that her boyfriend did not have his own social media accounts. She would post pictures of the back of her head or just her hand to hide her identity.
But an hour after posting the image celebrating her proposal on April 14 and revealing the identity of her mystery man, she received a message from one of her followers, informing the influencer that ‘the love of her life’ had been cheating on her. hers.
Michelle Elman took to Instagram to finally reveal the identity of her partner of almost three years, known only as Ben.
The image was quickly removed from social media, and Michelle retreated from the online world until this week, when she tearfully announced to her fans that her engagement was over.
The TV star declared her partner had “screwed up” and “ruined something really good” but insisted she was going to be fine.
Ben is said to have met another woman on a dating site before spending a night in a hotel with her during a business trip.
Speaking further about her ex’s infidelity, she told This Morning: “We met on a dating app, he was my first date after the pandemic.” The love of my life, the healthiest relationship I have ever had.
“I was engaged and then a woman came up to me and asked if he was my fiance. I ended up talking to her for an hour on the phone. I was on a dating app, I was on a business trip, and yeah.
Michelle had been with Ben when she received the woman’s first message informing her that her cheating boyfriend had been on a dating site. The woman sent screenshots of her dating profile and her number.
Ben admitted that he had been seeing the woman and other people.
“He was with me when I got the first message. I thought he was a colleague. It took me a while to realise. My first reaction was shock and I kept saying please tell me first, I don’t want to find out about her,” she told the ITV programme.
‘Then it was screenshots of the dating profile and his number, I believed him from the beginning but I needed proof. She told me the hotel and I told him to put it in her email, she showed up and then admitted it.
“He admitted it and to everyone else, but I think my reaction was just, ‘You’ve ruined a good thing, this is supposed to be the happiest day of my life.’
The relationship guru had returned from a solo holiday ‘on the other side of the world’ to the UK yesterday to appear on This Morning and open up about her heartbreak.
Ben is said to have met another woman on a dating site before spending a night in a hotel with her during a business trip.
“I was feeling pretty helpless on the other side of the world with a rubbish signal that couldn’t address all of this, so now I’m home and I’m choosing to speak to This Morning because they’ve been my biggest supporter since day one,” she said. he told the fans of him.
The TV star said she wasn’t going to let her ex “take away the joy” her career brings her.
Michelle had been single for eight years when she started dating Ben, the first man she saw after the Covid pandemic after four others abandoned their date at the last minute.
Until recently, it seemed that the couple had an extremely happy relationship.
In her latest book, The Selfish Romantic, published in January, she wrote a effusive tribute to her boyfriend, telling her fans that “his love story will always be (her) favorite.”
On the thank you page, where she also thanked her “inner circle,” she wrote: “And thanks to Ben. It’s not easy dating an author, let alone one who writes a book about dating.
‘Thank you for never getting tired of hearing about the latest dating research I found and for holding my hand through the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with being an author.
He cried as he revealed the sad news about his love life.
It means a lot that you trusted me to write whatever I wanted about us. Our love story will always be my favorite. Thank you for always giving me a safe space to land. I love you so much and this is just the beginning for us.’
In another gushing post about her new love, she said: “He’s been the man behind these photos before you knew he existed.” He is the boy without social networks who fell in love with an influencer hehe.
The lifestyle influencer added that Ben had “ruined (her) plan to write a dating book from a single woman’s perspective by asking me to be his girlfriend two weeks before getting a book deal for The Selfish Romantic.”
In August, celebrating their second anniversary, Michelle declared to Ben, “I love you more than I ever thought I could love a human being.”
Alongside the post, where she talked about how the second year of their relationship was harder than the first, she shared a montage of her smiling and laughing, with a clip at the end showing Ben hugging her.
In their emotional breakup video, Michelle said Ben had “fucked up” and “ruined something really good” but insisted to her worried fans that she would be fine.
The TV personality downplayed the fact that he has taken up giving people advice about their love life, admitting that he now finds it “deeply ironic.”
Alongside an old video of herself talking about how to have a safe mindset to end jealousy, she said: “And yes, I know a lot of my posts now are deeply ironic.”
‘It’s dangerous to post online, but at least you can’t say I don’t practice what I preach. Goodbye, exactly.
The life coach and author, 30, who has frequently appeared on the ITV show to give relationship advice, tearfully took to her Instagram to explain that she had ended her engagement after just 24 hours.
In the previous video, she had said, “I’ve never understood jealousy, I always find it a compliment because if someone flirts with someone I’m with, I mean, cute, you can try, it won’t happen.”
—And you know what, even if it happens? Have a good trip. Thanks for getting it off my back.
The author also posted a conversation with a friend in which her friend joked “at least he won’t cheat on you,” and told the influencer that she had made a “safe choice” in her partner.
Michelle became a motivational coach after her own childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long hospital stays, and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically.
He had a brain tumor, a perforated intestine, a blocked intestine, a brain cyst and a condition called hydrocephalus, in which fluid builds up in the brain, causing dangerous pressure that can be fatal if left untreated.
Explaining her absence from social media, Michelle began, “I don’t know how to make this video, so I’m going to get into it.” Last you heard from me I was engaged and I’m not anymore.
‘The day I posted that engagement photo is the day I found out he had been cheating on me and that one of the women he was cheating on me with actually followed me and that’s how I found out.
She is a lovely woman and I didn’t know it, and you must love her taste in women. You have to laugh. Here we laugh and cry a lot.”
She continued: ‘The main thing people always say about cheating is ‘Did you know that?’ And obviously not because I said yes to marrying him.
‘But does it also matter? I think what I’ve realized through all of this is that if someone actively wants to cheat on you, they will.
‘When it comes to life coaches, there is an illusion that we are perfect, that we all know it or that we have our lives together and that is simply not true.
‘I’ve always said that I’m only five steps ahead and that’s how I can teach other people.
“The only difference is that I have all the tools and resources to make sure I’m okay now and I know I’m going to learn from this.”
Breaking down into tears, he added: “My own personal advisor says we never let a good crisis go to waste, and this is a crisis.” I think I’m a good life coach because I screw up more than you and I learn from it.’
Then he corrected himself and said, “Actually, let me rephrase that because I didn’t screw up, he did.” And she ruined a really good thing. And it was a good thing; When it was good, it was really good.”
Despite her heartbreak, Michelle told a fan that she had already forgiven Ben for his cheating.
She said: ‘I already forgive him. It was practically instantaneous for me because he is the person who has loved me the most in the world and this has really taught me that unconditional love exists because I still love him.
‘Love is unconditional, the relationship is not and I won’t stay but I forgive him. I’ve been comparing it to a bank account.
“All the love he’s showered on me over the last three years has put coins in the bank, his cheating has drained the bank account, but I’m not leaving the relationship in debt.”
Michelle later took to her Instagram Stories to thank her followers for their outpouring of support with a selfie and explained that she was on a solo vacation.
The writer also revealed that the couple had been trying to have a baby for several months before they split, and said that she had started dating while they were away.
She wrote: ‘I am so overwhelmed by all the love. Thanks for all the kindness. Remember when I said I was booking a solo trip?
‘The part I didn’t tell you is because we had been trying to get a bay for three months, so I wanted to do it before I got pregnant.
‘So now I’m on the solo journey. Coming back tomorrow. I’m grateful not to be pregnant and to have dated while I was here.’
Michelle became a motivational coach after her own childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long hospital stays, and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically.
He had a brain tumor, a perforated intestine, a blocked intestine, a brain cyst and a condition called hydrocephalus, in which fluid builds up in the brain, causing dangerous pressure that can be fatal if left untreated.
