Single men have revealed the relationship “dealers” they refuse to compromise on.
Whether or not a couple wants to have children was a hot topic, while others insisted they couldn’t date a smoker and many saw open relationships as a big no-no.
Some had more trivial responses saying they could never be with someone who didn’t eat peanut butter or didn’t get along with their cat.
One man said he would need to get along with a woman’s family for the relationship to last, and another said his partner would have to be comfortable with him having female friends.
‘What is one compromise you are NOT willing to make in a relationship?’ asked a curious woman on Reddit, generating hundreds of responses.
Men share their relationship deal-breakers, from poor communication to non-monogamy to women who have previously cheated on their partners.
“A person who loves to cook but doesn’t clean up after themselves,” one man responded.
“Yeah she’s really allergic to peanut butter because I’m physically like 99 percent peanut butter right now,” another joked.
“I’m not getting rid of my cat for you,” wrote a third.
‘I have a cat, my parents have four at home. “If you’re going to be in my life, being able to not have some quirks towards cats is a very important thing in the long run,” another agreed.
Many guys drew the line at open relationships or non-monogamy. Even the mention would cause some to separate from their partner.
‘I wouldn’t even consider an open relationship. I would be out at that time,’ said one user.
“If I’m not enough for you, I don’t want it,” another agreed.
One man said he was tired of “irregular text messages” as they indicate a lack of communication and commitment.
Some had some trivial responses saying they could never be with someone who can’t eat peanut butter or doesn’t get along with their cat.
‘I’m dating someone now and her texts are getting unstable to the point where I text her at 7pm and she responds in the morning. I just don’t understand how someone can say she likes me but she’ll see my text, she won’t respond and she’ll go to bed. Call me if I’m thinking too much,” she said.
Someone said they would see a “breakup” as a “breakup,” while another needs to get along with their other half’s family and friends for it to work.
‘Taking a break. I feel like if you can’t talk about your problems like adults or just give each other space when needed, then you’re not ready to be in a relationship at all and might as well break up,” one guy explained.
‘In-laws and family/friends in general. When you get married, those people become part of your life, whether you like it or not. You have to find some kind of healthy balance and tolerance so you don’t go crazy,” he wrote a second.
“If you don’t put the same effort into the relationship as I do then it won’t last,” a third responded.
‘Lack of responsibility. “Someone who can’t say the words ‘I’m sorry’ when they make a mistake,” a fourth added.
Whether a woman wanted children or not divided many men who had different positions on starting a family.
One man said he was tired of “irregular text messages” as they indicate a lack of communication: “I don’t understand how someone can say they like me but they’ll see my text and not respond.”
‘I don’t want to have children at all, and that includes being a stepfather. And smokers. I won’t hang out with smokers,” one user responded.
‘I want to be pope. If you don’t want to be a mother, then we’re not going to work,” replied another.
One man said he was fine with a date who already had children, but said it was the only exception for chatting with an ex-boyfriend or husband.
“If there are no children involved, you shouldn’t talk to your ex while you’re with me,” they said.
‘As a guy in a female-dominated field, leaving any of my girlfriends strictly platonic. No it will never happen, sorry not sorry,” wrote another.
While some admitted that “it goes without saying,” they would never tolerate any type of cheating in a relationship, past or present.
‘Difficult to pass cheaters. Even if it was before me,’ someone said.
‘This is 100 percent. Plus, emotional cheating is real. It’s not right, they’re not just friends. The amount of partners I’ve had trying to justify it was crazy. If you wouldn’t cheat sexually, don’t cheat emotionally. It’s painful,’ responded a second.