Men, if you bring up any of these ‘clueless’ topics on a first date, your chances of scoring a second are slim to none, we just don’t care.
- Matchmaker Louanne Ward Reveals The Seven Things To Avoid On A First Date
- The list includes their hobbies, body counts, and relationships.
A professional matchmaker has listed the seven ‘clueless’ conversation topics that single people should avoid on first dates.
Louanne neighborhooda Perth relationship expert who has worked with couples for over 25 years, shared that single men are drawn to certain topics that make it difficult for women to connect with them.
“There are some stupid, clueless things that guys talk about in the early stages of dating that women don’t care about,” Louanne said.
She cautioned that self-absorbed conversations that focus too much on a man’s dating history or his prowess in bed can be a big turn-off.
“Talking about you too much won’t make her want to see you again,” said the dating expert.
What topics of conversation should men avoid on a first date?
- How many people have you been with?
- your gym habits
- Your tattoos and their meanings
- Health problems and what is wrong with your life.
- ‘Masculine’ hobbies like fishing
- Your ex girlfriend
- your sex life
1. How many people have you been with?
Men often brag about their ‘body count’ to appear more experienced and desirable, but this has the opposite effect.
“No woman cares how many other women you’ve slept with or how hot they are,” Louanne said.
2. Your gym habits
Another thing that men seem to obsess over is their exercise program and how many pounds of protein powder they consume.
Talking too much about health and fitness deviates from other topics of conversation where both people on the date can share their thoughts and opinions.
“How much you exercise and how much you can lift is not important,” said the dating guru.
3. Your various body modifications.
Louanne revealed that she has noticed that many men focus too much on their tattoos during first dates, a subject that their dates are not interested in.
“The complete summary of all your tattoos and what they mean is just not interesting,” he said.
A Professional Matchmaker Has Revealed The Seven ‘Clueless’ Topics Of Conversation Single People Should Avoid On First Dates
4. Everything is going wrong in your life
First dates are meant to be exciting, with both parties doing their best.
“Don’t talk about all your problems and health problems,” Louanne warned.
‘A woman is not there to be your mother or your therapist.’
5. Toys for children
Louanne said that while it was good for everyone to have hobbies, there are certain ‘male’ interests that women don’t care about.
“Don’t take out your fishing rods, RVs, guns or jet skis,” he said.
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* Cryptocurrency chat and any type of investment or stock portfolio
* What do you do ‘with the boys’ on a weekend and how much do you like ‘having a beer with the boys’?
* Their children
* What kind of car they drive
* Video games
* Hinting they peaked in high school (sports, academics) or anything related to school days
* Anything that makes your job seem like a personality trait
* Accuse celebrities or other women of being ‘plastic’ or ‘fake’
* Any complaints about women as a group (even worse if they refer to women as ‘women’)
* Anything related to Joe Rogan, Andrew Tate or Jordan Peterson
* Using psychological terms such as boundaries, post-traumatic healing, feminine and masculine energy, or triangulation to try to manipulate
* Saying any insulting statement followed by ‘just kidding’ when it doesn’t go down as expected
* Ask ‘what can you bring to the table’ or ‘why are you single?’
* The phrase ‘man or woman of high value’
* Saying ‘you’re not like other women’
Louanne Ward, a Perth relationship expert who has worked with couples for over 25 years, shared that single men are drawn to certain topics that make it difficult for women to connect with them.
6. Your ex
Sometimes guys think that mentioning what a bitch their ex was will give them brownie points to move on, but this isn’t always true.
On the other hand, women also don’t want to hear about how your ex was ‘awesome’.
“It’s not negative to speak well of your ex, but no woman wants to hear that she already has competition with her ex before she gets into something with you.”
Louanne revealed that it was safe to avoid the topic of exes altogether to avoid stepping on any eggshells.
7. Your sex life
“Women don’t want to hear how good you think you are in bed, how long you can last or how many adult movies you watch,” said the Perth dating coach.
“It’s not a topic that should be brought up in the early stages of dating; she’d rather find out for herself if things go well.”
Many thanked Louanne for her advice and agreed with the dating expert’s views.
‘I love this, it’s so true!’ said a woman. It’s so boring when men talk about these things.
“100 percent accurate,” added another.
“You’d think this is common sense,” said a third.