A leading Australian matchmaker has shared the seven-day challenge that will make or break your relationship – and the 10 steps to a bond that will last forever.
Renee Brown, from the leading matchmaking agency Corporate Cupid in Perth, said that all relationships – new or decades old – can take advantage of such a challenge because it wants to break the negative cycle.
& # 39; The seven-day relationship challenge is based on shock therapy & # 39 ;, Renee told FEMAIL.
& # 39; It is designed to change a negative state of mind to immediately break and disrupt the negative cycle. & # 39;
A leading Australian matchmaker has shared the seven-day challenge that will change your relationship – and the 10 steps to a bond that will last forever (stock image)
She said that men and women often fall victim to certain negative behavioral patterns in a few.
Renee Brown (photo), from Perth, said that all relationships – new or decades old – can take advantage of such a challenge because they want to break the negative cycle
This means that they often have a cycle of arguments that they simply repeat ad infinitum.
& # 39; The first thing to do in a seven-day relationship challenge is to separate the couple & # 39 ;, Renee said.
& # 39; This is the & # 39; shock & # 39; factor and means no contact for seven days, not even a text message unless it's an emergency. & # 39;
During the week, couples must work individually on their own personality, before meeting each other on the last day to define their new relationship rules and reveal their relationship promise.
Days one and two:
On the first day of the challenge, Renee said before divorcing that it is important to outline the rules.
& # 39; Address the tiredness of your relationship – or the issues you are dealing with and for which you cannot find a solution, & # 39; she said.
& # 39; Provide an overview of & # 39; s rules and schedules for the next seven days – and make sure that you are both committed to a lack of contact and total separation. & # 39;
On the second day, the expert said it was time to think about the problems you encounter in your relationship – and what you might be able to do to help.
You do not need to do anything practical at this early stage; rather just know what might help.
Days three and four:
On the third and fourth day, it's time to identify your share in relationship fatigue and realize how this has affected your relationship.
& # 39; During this time, it is important to delve deep into the reasons and think about the many contributing factors that could have made you feel frustrated and helpless, & # 39 ;, Renee said.
If you do this in a quiet place and ideally outside the workplace, you can think things through clearly.
When the fifth day passes, it's time to not only look at yourself, but also how you can become your best self.
& # 39; Now you have five days apart from your other half, try to separate your existence as a couple and identify your personal development goals, & # 39; said Renee.
This can be work, mindset, health or fitness, but she said it's important to have your own things to work towards, as well as goals as a couple.
The sixth day of the challenge is crucial – because it's time to look ahead to how you can heal your relationship.
& # 39; Identify the new expectations you want of the relationship, as well as the areas that cannot be negotiated and those that you are willing to compromise, & # 39; said Renee.
On this day you must prepare a list of what you want to ask your partner for, as well as another list of where you want to compromise and what you will offer.
What are the 10 steps to a relationship that will last forever?
Renee Brown (photo) shared the 10 steps to make a relationship last forever, including telling your partner that you love them
1. Tell your partner that you love him: Every now and then take a moment to express your feelings for your partner. It shows commitment and ensures that your partner feels safe.
2. Show some affection: Minor acts of physical intimacy can cause a & # 39; big wrinkle & # 39; in your relationship. When you show affection, a partner feels noticed, respected and cherished.
3. Show rating: Appreciation is also important. It makes the other person feel good about what he is doing.
4. Share yourself: When people share their opinions and feelings, they develop a better understanding of each other's preferences and dislikes.
5. Be there for your partner: It is just as important to be there for both the small challenges and the big ones, whether it's a rough commute or a misplaced wallet.
6. Give gifts: Gifts have always been an important part in developing healthy, loving relationships. A well-chosen gift is particularly powerful.
7. Respond nicely to requirements: A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Learn to recognize the peculiarities of your partner and appreciate for what they are: an essential part of who they are as people.
8. Make & # 39; only & # 39; time a priority: Regardless of how busy your two lives are, make sure that you commit yourself at least two nights each week to be alone.
9. Do not take anything for granted: Develop a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of small blessings he or she has brought into your life.
10. Striving for equality: Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do the same to your partner as you would have done.
Source: Renee Brown at Corporate Cupid
On the last day of the challenge, Renee said you should meet your other half and promise your relationship to each other (stock image) – you should have spent the weekend separately
On the last day of the challenge, Renee said you should meet your other half and promise your relationship to each other.
& # 39; Agree to listen to each other, respond respectfully and ask questions, & # 39; she said.
& # 39; Then you must make a decision together about how you will connect heart and soul to the next chapter of your relationship. & # 39;
The reason the matchmaker said it works is because there is a & # 39; result-oriented result & # 39; is.
& # 39; The challenge is short and intensive and forces couples to make decisions that they have postponed for years & # 39 ;, she said.
Time apart, the expert added, can often reinforce how much a couple loves each other – and it can help you realize that you don't want to lose the other person and are willing to do the required work.
& # 39; Alternatively, in rare cases it will give a couple a clear indication that they are ready to leave the relationship and say goodbye amicably, & # 39; she said.
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