A ‘masculine woman’ and her ‘feminine’ boyfriend have opened up about their ‘unusual heterosexual relationship’, revealing how they deal with cruel comments and stares from strangers who criticize the unique pairing.
Maren Butler (21), who describes herself as a masculine female, and James Carrington (23), who considers themselves a feminine male, have been together for one year-and-a half.
James, from Durham, North Carolina, loves ‘girly’ things, including stilettos, lash extensions, acrylic nails and crop tops – all accompanied by his self confessed ‘feminine mannerisms’.
Maren, from Central Valley, California, embraces a muscly physique, shops in the men’s section and chooses not to wear makeup.
James and Maren are in their first heterosexual relationship. James also revealed that they have previously been together.
A’masculine girl’ and her a ‘feminine boyfriend spoke out about their heterosexual relationship.
Maren Butler (21), who describes herself as a masculine female, and James Carrington (23), who considers themselves a feminine man, have been married for one year and a half.
James is a Durham native who loves all things ‘girly’, such as stilettos and lash extensions, acrylic nails, crop tops, and even cut-offs. All of this is accompanied by his self-confessed ‘feminine mannerisms.
The couple is not a stereotypically gendered couple. They choose to mix roles however they feel comfortable. Maren enjoys opening doors for James and will keep her arm around him when they go out in public.
James, an events manager said that they don’t want to conform to any type of norms. This is not because they are trying to be different. We just do what feels right to us.
“Maren does most the cooking, which is stereotypically a feminine quality. But it’s because she’s a better chef.
“Even though I was gay before Maren met me, I didn’t want a relationship with men.
“Long time ago, before Maren came into my life, I had one boyfriend. However, it wasn’t right for me.
“When Maren got to know me, there was a click. That’s when I knew that this was something special.”
Maren, a Tulane University student in Philosophy and Public Health, Louisiana, reached James via TikTok on February 2021 after seeing videos of him online. He found his confidence to be’mesmerizing.
She first saw the videos on TikTok. In them, James spoke about his experience as a fem-man’.
After After chatting for several weeks, they realized a deep connection. They were strongly sexually attracted to each other.
Soon after, the pair exchanged numbers and began texting and calling every day, discovering that they had lots in common, including their love for R&B music and a similar sense of humor.
After only one month of speaking, Maren realized that James was the man she needed to meet in person.
She traveled 800 miles to meet him in March 2021.
Meanwhile Maren, from Central Valley, California, embraces a muscly physique, shops in the men’s section and chooses not to wear makeup
Maren, who has only ever dated women, met James on TikTok after he posted a video discussing life as a “fem man” and she was instantly captivated.
Maren and James have been together for 18 months. They say their relationship is strong, despite having to face serious doubts from their families.
She She said, “We had discussed meeting up and I had a few days off school so I decided that it would be the perfect time to meet.”
“It took me over ten hours but it was worth it.”
“I arrived at the hotel quite late in the night, but it was so amazing to meet each other for the first time.”
“James was funny, intelligent, confident and just like he was on the phone.
Even though they only had 48 hours together the couple made the most of it. They went out for their first meal, and James introduced Maren and some of his friends to them.
The couple, who have been together for one year and a quarter, are now enjoying their unique love story and breaking all gender and relationship stereotypes.
Maren shared the following: “I can remember watching James’ video, and thinking that he was so cool.”
“It was his confidence, his charming androgynous appearance that attracted me to him.
“I left a comment on his YouTube video, thinking he would not respond. But in less than an hour, he responded and we began chatting.
‘Before James, I had only dated women but I have always loved fem-men. I love the combination between confidence and femininity.
‘He What’s not to like about a beautiful smile and a pretty face? This is a strange pairing but it makes us so happy.
Although they appear to be an unusual match, they both acknowledge that they are one another’s normal types.
While Maren is finishing her college studies, the couple live long-distance. However, they plan to move together to California after she graduates.
James uploaded a TikTok collage featuring Maren and his favorite moments. The pair became viral overnight, receiving more than 13 million views
James stated that James was trying to present himself as a gay man at the time they met because it seemed more convenient than explaining who I really am.
“When Maren started talking to me, I thought it would only be a short chat that would last a few days. But, I didn’t think we would have such an intimate connection.”
After After just three months of being together, the couple became legally married in April 2021.
James uploaded a TikTok collage that featured Maren and him from their favorite moments. It went viral in less than 24 hours, receiving over 13,000,000 views.
Maren recalls the moment: “I woke to a text from James telling me that we’d become viral.
“We received many lovely comments of support. Some not so great ones, but that’s just how life is. We are happy together and that’s what matters most.
“It’s always nice when we get comments of support below our posts, and not that they necessarily need them but it’s just refreshing.
“When we are in public, we get stares mostly from older people and small children.
“We don’t take any personal offense at people who don’t know what to do and that’s okay.
Friends knew the couple’s preferences in dating and the news of their happy marriage was not shocking. However, their families had to take some time to adjust.
James stated that his dad was shocked when he saw Maren being introduced to him as my girlfriend. He’s from a different generation, and a similar paring is not something he has ever seen.
‘Ofcourse, he loves her. He says that she’s my best friend. But he doesn’t get the point.
Although the couple received lots of positive feedback, they admitted that they still get harsh comments from trolls about their “unique” pairing.
Maren explained, “When you get to know people as individual as ourselves, it’s difficult for some to understand because we present ourselves in how we look and act.”
“Society is so used at putting people in a box.
“So, when you meet people so unique as ourselves, it can be difficult for some to understand because of the way we present ourselves in appearance and mannerisms.
Maren shared that Maren was confused at first by James’ presentation.
“While it can be annoying to have to explain our relationship to others, some people don’t know what to do because they are confused or curious. We don’t mind.
Maren is finishing her Louisiana college degree and James is working as an event manager in another state. The couple rely on FaceTime for their communication.
Maren stated, “We FaceTime for 2 hours every night, regardless of how tired or sleepy we are.
“It’s a way for us to catch up on all the happenings throughout the day, and just talk. It can be hard to communicate across distance, but it is so worth it when you have a strong connection like ours.
“We meet when we can. Usually when I have some time to train and school, I can drive James’. James often visits us for the weekend.
“It can be hard at times, but it works.”
The couple plans to move to California next year together, where they can continue their blossoming relationship.
Maren wants to get a masters in event planning and then enter medical school. James is interested in starting his own company and pursuing a career as a doctor.
James said, “We cannot wait for the everyday couple things such as waking up together, enjoying new experiences, and not trying to fit it all into one weekend.”
“Most importantly, we are excited about the future together, and to get married and have children.”
Maren stated, “It is important to live your lives in a way you are happy with and that is true for you.”
“That’s exactly what we’re doing, and we couldn’t be happier.”