Man whose pedophile father sexually abused his daughter reveals the moment he confronted him

In 1996 Ian Johnston (photo left) discovered that his father had abused his daughter Kayleen (photo right)

In 1996 Ian Johnston (photo left) discovered that his father had abused his daughter Kayleen (photo right)

A broken-hearted man has relived the unthinkable moment when he was forced to confront his father with the sexual abuse of his child – and revealed the answer of seven words that turned his life upside down.

In 1996, Ian Jones, then seven-year-old daughter Kayleen, made the frightening claim that her & # 39; poppy & # 39; – Ian's father – had harassed her.

Perplexed, frightened and furious, Johnston breathed deeply in one go before asking a question that no father should ask.

When he confronted his father three days after Kayleen's shocking revelation, he could only come up with a pathogenic excuse that Johnston confirmed that his father was a pedophile.

& # 39; It was just a little bit, son, & # 39; said the incapable father.

In a candid interview with Daily Mail Australia, Mr. Johnston spoke about the terrible ordeal that his daughter, now 30, and the struggle they both experienced after the assault.

Mr. Johnston said he was willing to spend years in prison because he cut & # 39; down the throat & # 39; of the man who abused his daughter – if it had not been his father.

& # 39; You always say & # 39; if anyone ever touches my daughter, I will kill them & # 39; but if it's your own father, it's a different kind of ballgame, & # 39; Johnston explained.

Johnston admits that he struggled for 10 years with the fact that he had never taken revenge on his father.

& # 39; I have spent so much time with so much anger. But if I had killed him, I would have gone to prison. He would win, I would lose. But when you're in that zone, you don't see it that way, & he said.

But instead of harming his father, Johnston brought charges against him.

& # 39; I called him and said: & # 39; Father, you are scared, I press charges & # 39; and he said & # 39; this will kill me & # 39; … I said "well you've already killed me", & # 39; Mr. Johnston explained.

Alec Johnston pleaded guilty to 22 graves of indecent assault and was sentenced to four years behind bars.

Kayleen (photo) told her father the nauseating truth about her grandfather when she was only seven

Kayleen (photo) told her father the nauseating truth about her grandfather when she was only seven

Kayleen (photo) told her father the nauseating truth about her grandfather when she was only seven

& # 39; The last time I saw him was outside the courthouse in 1996 & # 39 ;, Johnston said.

& # 39; He died in 2012 and I never went to his funeral. You have to make a choice. Your daughter or your father. I chose my daughter, & he said.

Johnston revealed the devastating series of events that led to the discovery of his father's shocking crime.

He and Kayleen stayed in his parents' house in New Zealand, while his wife Hetty stayed home to work.

Kayleen suddenly seemed unhappy and often burst into tears.

& # 39; I just thought it was because she missed her mother, & # 39; Johnston said.

But when Kayleen showed no signs, Johnston said he was starting to think that something was seriously wrong.

And then he started noticing the strange behavior of his father.

& # 39; I started thinking that this was not good. Kayleen was not right with Father. He would always usher her in: "go and see Poppy & # 39; s caravan," and something just didn't feel right, "Johnston said.

Mr. Johnston said after finding out that he had not left Kayleen (photo) out of sight and eventually built up the courage to call and tell his wife

Mr. Johnston said after finding out that he had not left Kayleen (photo) out of sight and eventually built up the courage to call and tell his wife

Mr. Johnston said after finding out that he had not left Kayleen (photo) out of sight and eventually built up the courage to call and tell his wife

& # 39; It went to bedtime and my dad said he had made Kayleen her own bedroom, but I said, "do you want to sleep with Dad in the big bed?"

Kayleen said & # 39; yes & # 39; and then Johnston asked his daughter if anyone had touched her wrongly.

& # 39; She just said & # 39; Poppy & # 39; and started crying, & # 39; he said.

Johnston then said that he had not let Kayleen out of sight and eventually built up the courage to call his wife.

& # 39; I just put it on the phone & # 39; dad has sexually abused Kayleen & # 39;, & # 39; he said.

After the disturbing revelation, Johnston tried to put Mr. Johnston in contact with a counselor.

& # 39; We tried to find a counselor, but there was no adviser for that in 1996. But in the end we found one & # 39 ;, Johnston said.

The counselor told Mr. Johnson to confront his father.

& # 39; I was a mess, I didn't know how to handle it. I called Hetty and said you can call and pretend your father is really sick, so we have to leave. I just wanted to get out of there, & he said.

Kayleen (photo on the right) now works as a corporate partnerships manager at Bravehearts, the organization that her mother Hetty Johnston (photo center) founded with the help of Ian Johnston (photo left)

Kayleen (photo on the right) now works as a corporate partnerships manager at Bravehearts, the organization that her mother Hetty Johnston (photo center) founded with the help of Ian Johnston (photo left)

Kayleen (photo on the right) now works as a corporate partnerships manager at Bravehearts, the organization that her mother Hetty Johnston (photo center) founded with the help of Ian Johnston (photo left)

But after he had his father alone in the garage, he confronted him.

& # 39; He immediately admitted, he said, "It was just a little", & # 39; Johnston said.

& # 39; I said stay away from me, don't touch me. & # 39;

Mr. Johnston then finally turned his back on his father.

Before discovering the shocking truth, Johnston said he had a & # 39; brilliant & # 39; had a relationship with his father.

& # 39; It was great, we were like Steptoe and Son. I also had a great upbringing, & he said.

Shortly after the family left Australia, Mrs. Johnston decided to take matters into her own hands.

She wrote a ten-page letter and sent it to the whole family in New Zealand to explain what Mr. Johnston's father had done.

Johnston and Kayleen (photo) are planning to participate in the Bravehearts 777 marathon event

Johnston and Kayleen (photo) are planning to participate in the Bravehearts 777 marathon event

Johnston and Kayleen (photo) are planning to participate in the Bravehearts 777 marathon event

& # 39; She sent it to everyone. I didn't have a good response back then, but now I know it was good to do, & he said.

& # 39; It was hard for our marriage and we have a good marriage. It almost broke us, & he said.

But although Hetty had explained exactly what had happened, the whole family could not see the truth.

And Johnston notes that his stepmother still doesn't believe the truth to this day.

He also says that his stepmother is negative and the family did not do the right thing by going to the police.

Kayleen (photo) was only six years old when she told her father the shocking truth

Kayleen (photo) was only six years old when she told her father the shocking truth

Kayleen (photo) was only six years old when she told her father the shocking truth

But when Mr. Johnston made the difficult decision to file charges against his father, he said it was one of the hardest things he ever had to do.

& # 39; To sit there and listen to your seven-year-old daughter, you say in detail that all the terrible things that Dad had done were terrible. It's not good for your health, & he said.

Once his father was behind bars, Mr. Johnston said that Kayleen, who still sees counsel today, helped to deal with what had happened.

& # 39; Kayleen has received support from her parents. We believed she supported her and went to the police, & he said.

& # 39; Pedophiles blame the children. My father told Kayleen that he had brought her on a plane to Australia and that she would have no one if she told someone what he was doing, & Johnston said.

& # 39; But when Kayleen saw that he was going to jail for what he had done, she began to realize that it was not my fault, but that it was his.

& # 39; She is still struggling with anger and fell to tears a few weeks ago. & # 39;

Mr. Johnston said that this is what Kayleen helped.

& # 39; It helps to get it out of your system because it is so common, & # 39; he said.

He also remembered that Kayleen had come face-to-face with his stepmother at a friend's funeral.

And despite all that her husband had done to Kayleen and her refusal to believe what had happened, Kayleen & # 39; went beyond & # 39; to be polite and have a chat with her.

& # 39; She did the impossible … I gave her a big kiss and a hug and said I am so proud of you, & # 39; he said.

For anyone struggling with similar problems, Johnston said the most important thing was to & # 39; believe your child & # 39 ;.

& # 39; Support your children. Believe your children and that's the problem, adults don't believe the children, & he said.

& # 39; Educate your children. Believe your children and act as hard as it is. Sometimes you have to cross a very hard sand. & # 39;

His wife has since devoted her life to helping other children.

Johnston and Kayleen are planning to take part in the Bravehearts 777 marathon event in just a few weeks

Johnston and Kayleen are planning to take part in the Bravehearts 777 marathon event in just a few weeks

Johnston and Kayleen are planning to take part in the Bravehearts 777 marathon event in just a few weeks

& # 39; Politicians still don't listen. They don't take care of the children, & Johnston said.

& # 39; There was nothing in that budget about the children. My wife was in tears when it was read.

& # 39; That is why Hetty is running as an independent party in the upcoming federal elections in Queensland. & # 39;

Since the horrific experience, the family has created Bravehearts, the leading organization for the protection of children in Australia.

It was founded by Mrs. Johnston, with the help of Mr. Johnson, shortly after Kayleen's abuse was discovered in 1997.

It helps in giving advice and support to people affected by child abuse.

Kayleen now works as a corporate partnerships manager for companies and says she regards herself as & # 39; happy & # 39; because of the support she received from her parents.

& # 39; If I were still a child in another family, Bravehearts would not exist today, but having a happy childhood or a supportive environment should not be at the expense of happiness & # 39 ;, Kayleen said.

And now Mr. Johnston and Kayleen are planning to participate in the 777 Bravehearts marathon event.

Kayleen and Ian have never run a marathon before and are joining 21 other runners who compete in seven states in seven marathons in seven states to raise money for charity.

& # 39;[I am] so determined to share my story and make people aware of the incredible work we do by entering this crazy event, & said Kayleen.

The 777 of Bravehearts, which starts in Perth on July 1, will make its way through Adelaide, Melbourne, Launceston, Sydney and Canberra before reaching its peak on Sunday, July 7 in the Gold Coast Marathon.

& # 39; It's a huge boost for national runners when the locals take the trouble to join them, even for a round or two, & # 39; Kayleen said.

& # 39; It's like a mini festival when we roll into the city. The atmosphere is great. & # 39;