A man who waited until he was married to have sex came off the Internet “in tears” after revealing that he and his wife of more than a year have yet to be intimate due to a brutal condition that makes sex extremely painful. for her.
The man, named CJ, opened up about his situation during a recent episode of acclaimed author and relationship expert John Delony’s YouTube show.
the bprompted the presenter to ask him for advice on how he should combat his “desires and desires” while still being a “good husband”, and his admission provoked a fierce reaction from viewers.
Many people online felt terrible for CJ and his partner, and some even revealed that their story had touched them.
A man who waited until he was married to have sex revealed that he and his wife of more than a year have still not been intimate due to a brutal condition that makes sex painful (file image)
The man, named CJ, opened up about his situation during a recent episode of acclaimed author and relationship expert John Delony’s YouTube show (seen).
During the show, CJ, who did not share his last name, explained to John over the phone that both he and his wife grew up devout Christians, which meant they were both ‘virgins’ when they married in November 2022.
“But what happened was, once we were married, we quickly discovered that she suffered from a condition known as vaginismus,” he shared.
According Cleveland ClinicVaginismus is an “involuntary tightening of the vagina” that people experience “at the beginning of sexual intercourse, while inserting a tampon, or while performing a pelvic exam.”
While the exact cause is unknown, factors that may contribute to the condition include anxiety disorders, injuries, or “fear of sex or negative feelings about sex, perhaps due to past sexual abuse, rape, or trauma.”
You can deal with ‘Kegel exercisesvaginal dilators and cognitive-behavioral therapy.’
While chatting with John, CJ explained that his wife was working with a ‘sexual psychologist, a physiotherapist and a gynecologist’ but had not yet had sexual relations due to their serious discomfort.
As for what may have contributed to it, CJ theorized that his strict religious beliefs likely played a role.
“In Christian culture, sex goes from being something pretty bad to something great and amazing as soon as you get married and I think that’s a really difficult turn to make. “It’s literally overnight,” he told John.
He asked the host for advice on how he should combat his “wants and desires” while still being a “good husband,” and his admission left some viewers emotional.
Meanwhile, CJ explained that they “try to be creative” since “sex is so much more than that simple act.”
“But sometimes what’s hard for me is that there are moments when I feel a little incomplete,” he confessed. ‘I feel like there’s supposed to be something more here.
‘We both had an idea of how we thought we wanted things to be in terms of sex and all that, especially as Christians and virgins, and it just wasn’t that.
‘It’s been hard. and in youAt first I thought it was me, you know? “I felt like she was rejecting me.”
‘How can I be the best husband possible right now while she’s working on everything?’ CJ asked John.
‘Because obviously I have my own desires which I think are perfectly natural.
“I want to have a full sexual relationship with my wife, but that is not possible right now.
‘So my question is: how can I learn to be a good husband and support and encourage her while managing my own expectations?’
In response to her question, John said CJ should avoid “keeping his disappointment and frustration” inside and encouraged him to talk to his wife about what he’s feeling.
‘[If you don’t], you will start to feel anxious, you will start to feel unable to sleep, you will start to become short and limber. TOAnd that will start this strange dance between you and your wife,” he warned.
“You should be able to talk about that struggle together because secrets will destroy a marriage.”
He added that CJ’s feelings are completely understandable given the circumstances and reminded him that the condition is “super treatable.”
‘You’re not crazy and you’re not a bad guy for this. AND“You can feel disappointed about not having sex because it sucks,” John told the caller.
But don’t think this will last forever. I’m proud of you, he keeps walking with her, keeps holding her hand. ANDOur spirit is awesome and you really seem to love this woman.
‘Try to create a world where you can express your disappointments out loud, your frustrations and the things that make you sad out loud.
“And remember, there will be challenges that affect you from the beginning, that’s the nature of all relationships.”
John (seen) said that CJ should avoid “keeping his disappointment and frustration” inside and encouraged him to talk to his wife about what he feels.
John concluded by sharing a message for any of his viewers who may be struggling with something similar.
‘YO“If you have any kind of sexual pain or discomfort, if intimacy hurts, talk to a licensed professional,” he said.
‘Even if it’s embarrassing. It may be difficult, it may be uncomfortable, but you are worth it.
The comments section of the video was flooded with messages of support for CJ and his wife.
“The way this man talks about his wife made me cry,” one person wrote.
‘Honestly, the caller is the sweetest guy ever. “I hope her wife knows and appreciates it and I hope the doctors can work with her to help her with her condition,” someone else said.
‘I wish you both the best. He deserves all the happiness. What a sweet soul!
Another added: ‘I have faith in this couple. They look so healthy. Best of luck in your efforts.
“This guy is definitely a keeper,” read a third comment, while a fourth said: “God bless this young man.” What a brilliant example of sacrificial love! This is what true love is.’
‘Really good man. Strength comes in many forms. I greet you,’ another user gushed. t“This is the kind of love I want,” another viewer admitted.