A man who had lived for a year revealed that he intends to keep his prognosis secret from his wife.
write down reddit, the 31-year-old man, presumably from the US, explained that he had a life-limiting condition a long time ago and expected that he would live in his fifties or sixties.
At a recent appointment, doctors explained that his health was deteriorating rapidly and he now has between 12 and 16 months to live.
The man who handle & # 39; u / 500daystolive & # 39; used, shocked users when he revealed that he wanted to keep the devastating news secret from his four-year-old wife.
He explained that he wanted to postpone her to tell her so that they could enjoy the vacation of their dreams to Australia without the news being addicted to it.
The man stated that he had a life-limiting condition a long time ago and expected that he would live in the 50s or 60s. At a recent appointment, doctors explained that his health was deteriorating rapidly and he now has between 12 and 16 months to live. Stock image
The man explained to Reddit that he still has a year to live, but wants to tell his wife to postpone making a trip to Australia together
While fellow users sympathized with his situation, a series of answers urged the man to tell his wife that he would die sooner than later.
Looking for advice, the man asked: & # 39; … AITA (am I the boss to postpone that I'm dying? I have a life insurance policy that will take care of her, so I'm not worried about spending of this money now on this trip.
& # 39; I intend to talk to her about a sperm bank, in case she decides she wants my children in the future, and also premium cards and other things she can have. & # 39;
In response to the post a person wrote: & # 39; YATA (you are the a *******) and I am sorry and sad to read your story. Either way, those we love deserve our best and that depends on the situation. In your situation you know what is coming and your partner no longer deserves this knowledge.
& # 39; Protecting them from destruction while you are still able and telling late in the game is heartbreaking and devastating. The journey is sweet, but only offers a conclusion for you. & # 39;
Another said: & # 39; YWBTA, not only for her but also for yourself. You deserve her love and support. She deserves to know, so she doesn't wonder why you didn't tell her before or what she could have done differently. & # 39;
A stream of responses to the post urged the man to tell his wife earlier than later and argued that she needed time to prepare for his death.
A small number of contributors told the man that he has the right not to tell his wife about his expected death.
One person wrote: & # 39; … Sometimes people have to put themselves first and this can be one of those times. They would not deceive her. It would save itself some pain and worry.
& # 39; Death is a very personal experience, and if he can make it easier for himself, it doesn't make him ********. He will tell her when it is time. Then they can mourn together for the time they have left, but at least he was able to make an incredible memory for both of them before they were overwhelmed by grief. & # 39;
Another said: & # 39; … Nothing to add except NAH. You have the right to disclose or keep this secret. No one has a & # 39; right & # 39; on your life and your experiences, except you. Marriage is not an agreement whereby your spouse has unrestricted access to every thought in your head. If this is how you prefer to live the last year of your life, then I support you. & # 39;
A third added: & # 39; You are not ******** because your heart is in the right place, but you really have to tell her. You can't protect her for long and the longer you leave it to tell her the worse it will be for her. & # 39;
Others told the man that he does not have to tell his wife about his short life expectancy until he feels ready
Other responses to the discussion attempted to give the man practical advice on how to prepare his wife for his death.
A user who writes under the & # 39; Certified Proctologist & # 39; advises the man to have his paperwork changed to his wife's name.
& # 39; Ensure that all your paperwork is resolved as quickly as possible. Insurance, wills, deeds, bank accounts, what makes it easier for her not to have to deal with after you've passed. For example, my husband puts our new house, car, and bank accounts in my name so that I don't have to worry about deleting him or opening our accounts when he dies.
Also make sure she knows what your end-of-life instructions are if she has to make medical decisions for you and what you want her to do in terms of burial / funeral / cremation etc. What you have always wanted to do is do it now. & # 39;
Another added: & # 39; Leave her recorded messages behind. One to comfort her the night you die. One to tell her it's good to love again. & # 39;
A number of people advised the man to prepare his paperwork and to share passwords with his wife after his death
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