Breakup Recovery Coach Reveals Simple ‘Self-Calming’ Technique That Will Help Anyone Get Over Heartbreak After a Breakup

A breakup recovery counselor has revealed the various “self-soothing” techniques she says can help anyone overcome romantic relationship heartbreak.

Darlene Kollett is an expert at helping people recover from a case of the blues after a relationship ends.

She frequently shares advice on how to move on after getting your heart broken on her TikTok account, where she has more than 249,000 followers.

Most recently, Darlene took to the video-sharing platform to detail why regulating your nervous system while processing a breakup is crucial when it comes to healing, while uncovering practices that can help you increase your happiness while grieving the loss of your relationship. .

She captioned the viral video, which has so far racked up nearly 11,000 views: “Learning to regulate emotions after a breakup.”

‘If you’re going to get over a breakup, you need to become a master at self-soothing.

‘You have to know how to regulate your emotions every day. “You’ll want them to regulate your emotions for you, that’s why we search for exes so much after a breakup, we can’t do it ourselves, we don’t know how to calm ourselves,” he said at the beginning of the video.

The coach noted that although during a breakup it is difficult to find a “time to calm down,” it is crucial to moving forward.

Darlene explained that there are many techniques you can use, but you have to figure out what works for you.

He added: “It’s good to have a good cry, go out and do a little exercise; physical activity is essential for that, deep breathing is essential for that.”

“So start figuring out what works for you, what will calm you down, what will calm you down for just a second, that’s all we need sometimes.”

The heartbreak expert said you should take your breakup ‘one minute at a time.’

He then listed several self-soothing techniques you could try.

“Call a friend, read a book, watch TV, go for a walk, meditate, pray, do what you can and see how it works for you,” he said.

Then, the expert said that after you find the various things that work for you, make sure to “follow” them and practice them when you feel upset or angry.

People flooded the comments section and praised the breakup coach for her advice.

One person said: ‘These videos are just in time for me… I’m riding the struggle bus.’

Someone else wrote: ‘I’m very dependent and this helps a lot, thank you.’

“Temporary people teach permanent lessons,” someone else said.

Another person said: ‘You’re so cool! I try to find you every day.’