The 12 warning signs of an abuse relationship: expert reveals why you are & # 39; humiliated & # 39; and loses control of your finances, can be red flags
- Employee of law firm Hannah Bridgwood in Bristol gave us her 12 abusive red flags
- She explained that people often had a wrong relationship without noticing
- She gave advice on how to safely escape from a violent partner for the family
- Also advised on helping friends you suspected with abusive partners
An expert has revealed the 12 red flags that may indicate that you have an abuse relationship.
Hannah Bridgwood, a family law expert at Clarke Willmott, a law firm in Bristol, who has handled hundreds of cases involving abuse, has shed light on what can be described as coercive and abusive.
In a conversation with Femail, she also gave advice on how to leave an abuse relationship and how to help your friends if you suspect their partner is abusing.
A distraught woman on a black background, stock photo. Hannah Bridgwood, an expert in family law, gave her ten violent relationships red flags
12 questions that can reveal signs of an abuse relationship
1. Has your partner physically hurt you, your children or a pet?
2. Has your partner threatened to kill you or yourself if you say you want to end the relationship?
3. Did your partner say that you will never see your children when you end the relationship?
4. Are you made to do something of a sexual nature that you don't want?
5. Are you nervous or afraid of your partner?
6. Are you told or given the feeling that everything you do is not good enough and that you are always wrong?
7. Do you feel that your partner is too jealous and do they constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
8. Are you discouraged from seeing family, friends or your doctor, either by your partner or because you are worried about how your partner will respond if they find out?
9. Are you regularly ashamed of your partner about your looks, ideas and opinions towards people?
10. Do you have control over your finances?
11. Are you prevented from doing the things you want to do because you are worried about your partner's reaction?
12. Do you feel your situation and does your partner's behavior deteriorate in relation to you?
She shares her insight and said: “Believe it or not many people can be victims of compulsive and controlling relationships for years – and not even know it.
& # 39; But then a flash point comes through which you realize that, no, this is not good. Often this happens when the partner's behavior switches to their children. & # 39;
Hannah explained that there was a series of red flags that indicated that someone was potentially abusing and that they could be very subtle.
& # 39; If your partner does not share everything for whatever reason, for example if he does not give you access to a joint bank account, that is a red flag, & # 39; she said.
Hannah Bridgwood is an expert in family law at Clarke Willmott
& # 39; Similarly, if they cannot let you go out alone, or constantly abandon you and undermine your self-confidence, you have a problem, & # 39; she added.
Hannah indicated how she can help friends that you suspect is in a wrong relationship, and said she should first deal with the person personally.
& # 39; If you really believe that your friend might have an abuse relationship, don't look blind.
& # 39; Just talk to them and see if they are open to what happens even if it makes things uncomfortable.
& # 39; I want to encourage people to go and see the wealth of resources they have to help you feel the power to understand the nettle and have those difficult conversations. & # 39;
She quoted websites as Women & # 39; s Aid and said: & # 39; Another good resource is an app called Bright Sky. This allows people to write down their experiences and collect evidence of the abuse.
& # 39; It also indicates local support services and has a questionnaire that you can take to assess the level of abuse.
& # 39; Also keep in mind that compulsive and controlling behavior is classified as domestic violence, so all support and resources for those crimes are open to you too, & she added.
& # 39; Local authorities, GP practices and other community health organizations are all trained to deal with these situations, so use those resources & # 39 ;, she said.
Where to seek help
- Women & # 39; s Aid website (womensaid.org.uk)
- Bright Sky app
- Hestia (hestia.org)
- Mankind Initiative (mankind.org.uk)
- General practitioners and local charities
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