Kirstie Allsopp has criticized the “tyranny” of people who left detailed burial instructions, as she called her mother’s home funeral “massacre.”
The Location, Location, Location presenter, 48, buried her mother, Lady Fiona Hindlip, in a plot of her Dorset garden after her death from breast cancer at the age of 66 in January 2014.
In an interview with Times Radio To be broadcast today, Kirstie recalls the challenges of following Lady Hindlip’s funeral plan and said, “I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. I think there is a reason why we transfer the bodies of people we love to people who are specialists in that field. ‘
Kirstie said she and her siblings struggled to follow her mom’s schedule, noticing that she couldn’t dress her body in her assigned outfit, adding, “It’s kind of a tyranny feeling that someone has given these very strong instructions to follow. ‘
Kirstie Allsopp, 48, has criticized the ‘tyranny’ of people leaving detailed funeral instructions for family members
The day after her death, Fiona was placed in a wicker chest, lifted to the back of a tractor, and driven into the yard where she was buried next to Benji, the family pony.
According to Kirstie, this was how Fiona wanted to be buried when she died – a simple, discreet ceremony surrounded by her close family.
But she has now revealed what a challenge it was for the family to meet Lady Hindlip’s last wishes.
Before her death, Lady Hindlip had left a detailed plan about her funeral in an effort to help the family.
Kirstie called her mother’s funeral ‘massacre’ when she revealed that the family was struggling to comply with Lady Hindlip’s detailed funeral plan
She organized a hole to dig in the garden, but after dying during a rainy winter season, the grave was filled with water.
The TV presenter explained that it was “like a plunge pool.”
Meanwhile, the family was forced to choose an alternative outfit for Lady Hindlip to be buried in after they couldn’t dress her body in the clothes she requested.
On the day of the funeral, the box was placed in a trailer on the back of a tractor and driven to the garden.
Kirstie went on to remember how everyone wore their ‘neat clothes’, but had to wade through ‘knee-deep mud’ in ‘boots’.
Lady Hindlip arranged her funeral before her death, including buying a wicker box and digging a plot in her garden in Devon (photo, with her husband Lord Hindlip in 2005)
The Venue, Venue, Venue star, who previously spoke of ‘drinking copiously’ after her mother’s death, said she can now watch the dark comedy of the day.
She explained, “I can describe it in a completely humorous way, but it was just fantastically dark and British.”
Kirstie, the oldest of four, was 17 when her mother discovered she had breast cancer.
Lady Hindlip, an interior decorator, then underwent a mastectomy, lumpectomy, a hysterectomy, had her liver removed, several rounds of radiotherapy and chemotherapy.
She died just a few months after Kirstie revealed that her younger sister Sofie, also a TV presenter, had a double mastectomy to reduce the risk of developing breast cancer, which has affected the family’s female relationships for generations.
The TV star saw her mom tackle stoic cancer for 25 years, but realized the 66-year-old was dying when they discovered she had bought a chest and hid it in the attic.
Home funerals in the UK
No permission is required for one or two funerals on private land.
Permission is required if a grand monument is erected (such as a mausoleum).
The landowner should check with his lawyer that there is no alliance with the deeds of the country that could prohibit the funeral, and that no ordinance is violated.
It is necessary to consider how long the chosen site remains the property of the family of the deceased, because unless restrictive agreements are made by a lawyer, prospective owners can dig up the body (with permission from the Ministry of the Interior) and bury it elsewhere , or refuse entry to the grave.
Home funerals are cheaper than a conventional one, but burying a body in the yard can reduce the value of the property.
The cemetery should be on land with a deep water table and at a sufficient distance from watercourses to avoid contamination.
Having a grave near a water source is a concern for the Environmental Agency from a possible angle of contamination.
Home Funeral Guidelines –
– The location must be more than 30 meters away from a source or running or standing water.
– It must also be more than 10 meters away from a ‘dry’ ditch or field drain.
– The site must be at least 50 meters from a well, borehole or well that provides water for each use.
– When preparing the grave, make sure that there is no standing water when it is first dug and that the grave is not dug in very sandy soil.
– There must be at least one meter of soil above and below the body after burial.
Electric and other services should be avoided.
There is a requirement to register the funeral on the deeds on the property, in accordance with the Registration of Burials Act 1864.
A location map must be attached to the deed to confirm the position of the grave and details of the deceased’s name, age, date and place of death must be recorded.
This will reduce the potential complication of calling the police if human remains are discovered during future garden maintenance or construction work.
Any potential buyer should have the right to know that someone is buried on the property’s premises.
A certificate (the so-called green order) issued by the coroner or registrar of birth and death must be obtained and all other procedural matters must be met by the registrar.
If there is serious concern about infectious diseases related to the deceased, you should also inform the local Environmental Health Department.
Source – FuneralInspirations.co.uk