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After Kate Middleton bravely revealed her diagnosis to George, Charlotte and Louis before sharing it with the world… MOIRA PETTY delves into how to tell children that you’ve got cancer

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Moira Petty discovered she had cancer at age 28. In the photo of her with her daughter

I still remember the phone call that pierced my heart. It came from the mother of one of my three-year-old daughter’s friends, and she told me, ominously, that there was something she needed to hear.

Apparently, in the middle of the game, my daughter had announced: ‘Mummies die but nannies don’t.’

With such terrible childlike frankness, she had revealed an inner pain for which I felt overwhelmingly responsible.

A few weeks earlier, I had undergone major abdominal surgery, after which one of the doctors at the hospital called me to tell me that I had a form of ovarian cancer.

I was 28 years old and a mother of one. But I suspect my first panicked thought after that devastating news was no different than that of the Princess of Wales: how do you break the news to a child?

Moira Petty discovered she had cancer at age 28. In the photo of her with her daughter

Moira Petty discovered she had cancer at age 28. In the photo of her with her daughter

The Princess of Wales revealed on Friday how she had to reassure her young children following her cancer diagnosis.

The Princess of Wales revealed on Friday how she had to reassure her young children following her cancer diagnosis.

The Princess of Wales revealed on Friday how she had to reassure her young children following her cancer diagnosis.

Pictured: Princess Catherine with her children George, Charlotte and Louis in a photograph released for Mother's Day this month.

Pictured: Princess Catherine with her children George, Charlotte and Louis in a photograph released for Mother's Day this month.

Pictured: Princess Catherine with her children George, Charlotte and Louis in a photograph released for Mother’s Day this month.

Instinctively, we all know that protecting our children from a world of pain is any mother’s natural response.

In her video message, Kate emphasized that she had taken the time to explain everything “appropriately” to her children, “eager to reassure them that I’m going to be okay.”

Naively, I thought I had done the same, assuming that, although bright and inquisitive, at the age of three, my daughter was too young to understand the implications of what might happen.

I explained that the doctors were going to make me better, but that I would feel a little weak for a while, particularly after a grueling nine-hour surgery to remove the growth on my ovary, which had expanded rapidly and weighed 8 pounds when it was removed.

Because of my age, the doctors were able to leave the other ovary intact, preserving my fertility, while removing 80 percent of the affected one.

They would also monitor me with ultrasounds and blood tests, fearful that the cancer could return to the remaining ovary.

My daughter visited me in the hospital and held my hand, walking me around the ward while I carried my drip. He seemed to be taking things in stride.

The Princess of Wales pictured with her family at her last official royal engagement at the Christmas Day church service at Sandringham on December 25.

The Princess of Wales pictured with her family at her last official royal engagement at the Christmas Day church service at Sandringham on December 25.

The Princess of Wales pictured with her family at her last official royal engagement at the Christmas Day church service at Sandringham on December 25.

The Prince and Princess of Wales accompanied their children George, Louis and Charlotte on their first day at Lambrook School in Berkshire in September 2022.

The Prince and Princess of Wales accompanied their children George, Louis and Charlotte on their first day at Lambrook School in Berkshire in September 2022.

The Prince and Princess of Wales accompanied their children George, Louis and Charlotte on their first day at Lambrook School in Berkshire in September 2022.

Pictured: The Princess of Wales attends the Together At Christmas carol service at Westminster Abbey with her husband Prince William and their children George, Charlotte and Louis on December 8 last year.

Pictured: The Princess of Wales attends the Together At Christmas carol service at Westminster Abbey with her husband Prince William and children George, Charlotte and Louis on December 8 last year.

Pictured: The Princess of Wales attends the Together At Christmas carol service at Westminster Abbey with her husband Prince William and children George, Charlotte and Louis on December 8 last year.

In fact, although this was in a time before the Internet and social media supported our lives, it turned out that I had made the biggest mistake in thinking that a three-year-old was too young to understand death.

I assumed that the fact that kids can go from talking about life-and-death matters one moment to something prosaic the next means they’re dealing well with bad news.

I wish I hadn’t swept it under the rug, taken the time to unravel every facet of what she might be thinking, to piece together her fears.

Fortunately, over time, as my daughter watched me grow stronger and return from each hospital checkup in good health, her anxiety subsided.

It seems that Kate has proceeded with infinite care in telling her children about her illness, taking all the time necessary.

George, Charlotte and Louis will no doubt have had many questions and I’m sure they will continue. But it’s clear that her mother is addressing her concerns (and will continue to do so) like a textbook.

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