A woman revealed she was asked to transfer half the price of the meal to her date and is now considering never seeing him again.
On the British parenting platform Mumsnet, he explained that they originally agreed to split the bill, but when his card was declined, his date said he wanted to pay for it, although the next day he asked her to transfer the funds.
She added that she transferred the money to him but is now “disheartened” to see him again, saying he seems “petty.”
Many agreed that “meanness is not an attractive quality” and others stated that it would immediately give them “puck.”
The charge It said, ‘I had a date.’ I went to eat sushi. I got some dishes and seemed to be counting his arrivals. I bought some strawberry cheesecake mochi and he said “that looks good.” I’ll try it maybe once. Spend enough today hahaha
A woman revealed on the British parenting platform Mumsnet that she was asked to transfer half the price of the meal to her date and that she is now considering never seeing him again (file image)
‘We went to touch the card because we agreed to split the bill. I made my half and my card was declined. I told the waiter, quick as lightning, I’ll have to insert my pin because I’ve probably knocked too many times already.
“The guy I was on the date said, ‘Let me get this, please,’ and tapped. Now he’s sending a message tonight saying, ‘can you transfer your half?’ As we did agree to go halfway. It’s Santander xxx yyy lll’
“Then I immediately followed up with a link and saying, ‘Do you fancy this next week?’ So I did. And I haven’t responded to say it’s done. Won’t AIBU be interested now? It seems a bit petty. I “I personally would have left it if the shoe was on the other foot.”
Many were quick to comment with their own thoughts on the date and some said I shouldn’t watch it again.
One person said: “I wouldn’t watch it again, it’s too embarrassing.” No! He was generous in front of the waiter and then did it again.
‘I don’t like stingy men. You said you were going to enter your PIN to pay half, so why did you bother saying you would pay when that wasn’t your intention?
Another said: “I wonder if he felt like ‘you were making a scene’ even though you weren’t and you paid to finish it.” I also think it sounds skinny or extremely tight, which I wouldn’t find attractive.’
Someone else said: ‘This would totally put me off. If I were him in this situation, I would have simply paid half and said something like “next time you settle the bill.”
On the British parenting platform, he explained that they originally agreed to split the bill, but when his card was declined, his date said he wanted to pay for it, although the next day he asked her to transfer the funds.
Many rushed to the comments with their own thoughts on the date and some said she shouldn’t see him again.
‘I should also have given you the opportunity to put your card in the machine. I wouldn’t see him again.
While a fourth agreed saying: ‘Bin. He sounds like one of those men who likes other people to see them doing something good, but it’s different behind closed doors.
Meanwhile, others thought she should give him a second chance, saying maybe he’s just broke right now.
One person said: “I don’t know. You agreed to separate and I think on a first date it’s fair that you both pay for yourself.” If you liked it, I’d give it another chance.
Another wrote: ‘I wonder if maybe he thought I was being chivalrous, like intervening to spare him any embarrassment if he couldn’t pay.
Meanwhile, others thought she should give him a second chance, saying maybe he’s just broke right now.
“I’d give it a second chance under the benefit of the doubt, but keep an eye out for anything similar, as there’s nothing worse than someone stingy.”
Someone else said: ‘I understand why this seems strange. He stopped you from doing something simple like inserting the card because he wanted to “get this,” but now he regrets it and wants you to reverse the decision he made.
‘If I really liked it, I would watch it again, but I would just make a mental note of what happened (and if something else started to seem strange, then it all added up…)’
While a fourth wrote: “If I liked him, this wouldn’t be enough to put off a second date.” I think there’s a chance this is a misunderstanding or a nice guy with no money. Another date should clarify whether it was those things or whether he is a miser.’