Attractive people, don’t you hate them? I’m kidding, I’m kidding. But it’s safe to say that when God handed out attractive genes, He certainly favored some over others.
And I’ve always thought that these genetically blessed guys were given, frankly, an unfair advantage in life. They are often brought to the front of lines at nightclubs, exempt from driving tickets, and given favorable treatment almost everywhere they go.
But then last year, I was walking with a ridiculously attractive friend to join the long queue at a packed pub when something happened that was so shocking that it challenged every belief I had about the so-called “pretty privilege.”.
There was a group of older men, slightly drunk, propping up the bar. We’re talking about people in their 40s and 50s, who wear Bonds shirts and skinny jeans in an attempt to look young and fun. (Spoiler alert: They didn’t. It was bringing ‘divorced parents back into the picture.’)
It was clear that these guys wanted to have a good time and when they called my girlfriend, who is gorgeous, did I mention it? – they turned into mad dogs.
Annoyed, we had to walk past them to get to the bar when the shortest of the ‘gentlemen’ approached and groped her while creepily telling her to “come sit at our table, love.” I don’t mean a slimy rub of your hand, I mean both hands rubbing up and down his sides, from under his shoulders to his thighs, before stopping at his chest.
We both froze. She tried to laugh and walk past him, but I saw red. He couldn’t believe what he had just witnessed. The year was 2024 and here was a scoundrel who treated his body as if it were a piece of meat.
I raised my voice as loud as I could and said, ‘GET YOUR FUCKING HANDS OFF OF HER, MOBILE!’ His eyes looked like they were about to pop out of his head. Then he turned to his companions and they all laughed. I could have screamed.
I have a theory that beautiful people have a harder time in the dating world. Now, listen to me… many singles have shared their dating problems with me, and it makes for fascinating reading.
We went to the bar and my friend seemed devastated. I complained that it wasn’t okay and that I hadn’t witnessed blatant behavior like that since the ’90s. I then asked, ‘Do men really think it’s okay to treat women like that?’
She sighed. It happens all the time, he said. Often in public, and especially when alcohol is involved. I was speechless.
That was months ago, but I still think about that night. Being beautiful may get you attention, but does it really help you find a good guy?
The crazy thing is that I’ve seen this woman struggle in the love department, and it turns out it’s either because her good looks scare people off, or it’s just the creepy drunks with overinflated egos who are bold enough to have a chance. .
It really made me think… sure, attractive people get a lot of little benefits in life, but when it comes to dating, is beauty a disadvantage?
Another of my friends is a 6-foot-tall former model with a wicked sense of humor. But over the years, I’ve seen her reduced to nothing more than a gift for men who love to show her off like a toy, but never truly appreciate her personality.
Not long ago, she finally settled for a normal-looking farmer who simply adored her, and guess what… he broke up with her because he was jealous of the attention she received from other men when they dated.
So, I asked other attractive people to share their dating horror stories with me, and my inbox provided me with some very interesting tales…
Sure, attractive people get a lot of small benefits in life, Jana writes, but when it comes to dating, is beauty a liability? (file photo posed by the model)
Lucas: Too hot to be taken seriously
Lucas, a 32-year-old personal trainer, is ridiculously attractive. Seriously, when it came into my DMs, my first thought was ‘jackpot!’ He’s got one of those chiseled jaws, piercing green eyes, and a gym-sculpted physique. He says women often compliment him, but rarely stay with him long enough to really get to know him.
Lucas tells me that on a second date with someone he really liked, she admitted after a few drinks, “You’re so attractive I can’t help but wonder if you’re a player.” Guys like you probably have a lot of options. A frustrated Lucas says he wants a real connection, but finds that his appearance often causes women to question his intentions or doubt his sincerity.
And I have to say that I have been guilty of this many times.
Liza: Too ‘fancy’ to date
Liza, a widow in her 50s with a well-paying job, tells me that she rarely gets asked out because she is beautiful.
‘I’m attractive, I make a lot of money, I have a nice car, and I’ve paid off my house. And yet I rarely get asked out. What if I do? The trial!’
She says that in addition to being pretty, men have scorned her for being ‘posh’ and ‘rich’ (as if that’s a bad thing!) and once an ‘ugly bastard’ dared to criticize her for a stray lip. hair.
Despite her looks and success, Liza says her love life has been a complete failure. “At this point, I’ve resigned myself to being single forever.”
Jana spoke to several ridiculously handsome men who have no luck with the ladies because they are automatically judged as “players” or not ready to settle down (file photo)
Sofia: I thought I had class, but men think I’m vain
Sofía, a 35-year-old lawyer, is the epitome of sophistication. Even I was a little intimidated by their Instagram page.
Her striking features and impeccable style make her look like someone who has been gifted not only with good looks, but also with great taste, something that does not come naturally to many of us.
Still, Sofia has noticed a pattern in the men she dates: They often treat her as if she’s superficial or self-absorbed, which couldn’t be further from the truth.
A man she was dating once told her, “I thought you’d be more interested in fashion and selfies than deep conversations.” You are surprisingly sensible. Sofia couldn’t believe it. Why would his appearance make people assume he lacks depth or substance? It was only then, when she was in her thirties, that she realized that her appearance, something she had always considered a blessing, was making it more difficult for her to make meaningful connections.
Emma: Men don’t even bother.
Emma, a 28-year-old marketing executive, is often told she looks like a supermodel (and I can confirm that she is, in fact, attractive). Her statuesque figure, super-straight white teeth, and flawless olive skin earn her compliments wherever she goes.
But Emma couldn’t understand why her love life was nonexistent, until one day after a work event, a colleague drunkenly confessed, “Honestly, you’re so beautiful it’s intimidating.” Guys think they don’t have a chance with you.
‘This explains why I only seem to attract narcissists. Those with a superiority complex who believe they are a gift from God to women,” he says. Gosh, we all know one (or two) of those types of guys.
Emma realized that her beauty was creating a barrier she never thought about. Potential suitors assume she is unapproachable or out of reach, so don’t even bother trying. One solution is to dress casually or appear simple, but Emma feels that she is Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
A lawyer in her 30s told Jana that she was surprised to discover what men really think of her (file photo posed by a model)
Alex: Mr. Right is always overlooked.
Alex, a 30-year-old architect, has a face and smile straight out of an American daytime soap opera. But despite his perfectly proportioned features, the boy can’t get a date!
A close friend once told her, “You’re so handsome that everyone assumes you’re already busy or you’d never settle down.” Yes, they’ve marked him as a ‘Peter Pan’ in training… just because of his looks!
Alex tells me that he often thinks about missed opportunities and frequently notices that women look at him but rarely approach him. Being handsome has made him seem so unavailable that he’s almost on the verge of walking around with an “available” sign hanging around his neck..
Sam*: A famous actor who struggles with apps.
Sam is a celebrity. I changed his name for this article but trust me, you’ve heard of him. He tells me that because of his fame, he often gets a barrage of questions from skeptical women about dating apps, which is understandable the first few times, but quickly becomes frustrating.
‘Is that really you?’ ‘Why would you need to be on the apps?’ ‘How come someone like you doesn’t date a model?’ ‘Why are you on Hinge?’
These are just some of the direct messages you receive, and that’s if you’re lucky. If you have a bad day, they will simply delete you or worse, report you as a fake profile. He assures me that being a successful actor doesn’t mean dating a list of lingerie models.
‘I would love to go out with a real estate agent or a dentist. I’d love to go for a cup of tea and a walk. He adds that the only apps where celebrities aren’t reported are kinky ones like Feeld, but says, “I don’t like whips.”
Now listen, I’m hardly going to get a violin for these awfully attractive people, but hearing their stories puts things into perspective.
Is beauty really a blessing? And complaining about being too beautiful is the ultimate taboo of modern romance? I’ll let you decide, but I certainly won’t cancel any Botox appointments.