JANA HOCKING on the Vanderpump rules scandal: why your best friend is going to cheat on you with your boyfriend

Take a good look at your group of friends… is there a friend who laughs a little too hard at your partner’s jokes? Did he ever catch her staring at him too long? Has she ever recognized a shared inside joke they have or caught a hint of flirtation.

I’m telling you right now…it’s not the sexy secretary at work you need to keep an eye on, it’s your best friend!

Trust me, I speak from experience, and I’ve been both the victim and (embarrassingly) the villain in this scenario.

You see, I’m a big flirt. I can’t help it, seriously: I’d flirt with a chair if you let me. It’s just in my DNA. The problem with being a natural flirt is that it can get you into some sticky situations. So I recognize how some friendship groups can find themselves in a troubled place when a flirting couple meets a fellow couple. I’m not excusing him, but I can see how it happens.

Last week, Vanderpump Rules star Ariana Madix (right) discovered her boyfriend Tom Sandoval’s affair by finding an intimate FaceTime video on Tom’s phone between him and his friend Raquel Leviss, prompting the two They will separate on March 3.

And confession, most of us flirt in harmless ways throughout the day, like with the person who makes our coffee, or the guy at the bar, but we justify it by thinking well, it doesn’t really matter because I’m never the ones anymore. I will see again But what happens when that flirtation reaches your friend group? In my experience, it is very dangerous to flirt with someone you are going to see on a regular and intimate basis.

It starts out as a cheeky flirtation at a friends barbecue, but then it happens again at a birthday party, and before you know it, you’ve been out with your best friend and her partner for a boozy dinner and are exchanging confused glances. the bottle of chardonnay

We watch him play over and over again. A friend found out that her husband was cheating on her with her best friend when she forgot they had the baby monitor set up in her kitchen, and brought her best friend into the kids’ room for a session. intense kisses Yes, all those grunting, moaning, and heavy breathing carried directly into the kitchen where her two loved ones were sitting. idiots

A source close to Leviss (pictured) said: ‘Raquel left Los Angeles and went home to be with her family. She knows that she hurt Ariana, but she doesn’t know how to say that she’s sorry’

“Viewers treat it like the biggest scandal in the world, but take a good look at your own circle of friends and I think you’ll find that it has played out somewhat in your own life,” says Jana.

These friendship encounters are designed to create bonds. Lunches, family trips, birthday parties. Add a little booze to the situation and a little harmless, unintentional flirting can lead to a cheeky affair and major heartbreak before you can mutter “oopsy daisy!”

We’re looking at this very scenario in the Vanderpump Rules right now. In case you’re not an avid viewer like me, there is a couple called Tom and Ariana, who have been dating for 10 years, but a recent episode revealed that Ariana had found a raunchy video of Tom with his BEST FRIEND (!! ) Raquel getting up to all kinds of sensuality.

Viewers treat it like the biggest scandal in the world, but take a good look at your own circle of friends and I think you’ll find that it has played out in some way in your own life.

I once dated a very naughty guy who was in weekend detention (also known as prison). He was in college and campus was two hours away, which meant I couldn’t pick him up every Sunday when he went out. (I know, romantic right!).

The Vanderpump Rules cheating scandal: how it unfolded

It was revealed that co-stars Tom Sandoval and Raquel Leviss reportedly had an “all-out affair” for months, leading to their split from Ariana Madix, Raquel’s close friend.

The cheating scandal erupted when it was revealed that Sandoval and Ariana split after it emerged that he had been “dating” with Raquel, confirmed DailyMail.com.

Leviss and Sandoval “have been communicating inappropriately for months,” according to a source who spoke to Page Six, and now they “want to be together.”

Madix, who dated Sandoval for nine years, is said to have found out about the alleged cheating with Leviss on Wednesday, ending their nine-year romance shortly thereafter.

Split: Last week it was revealed that Sandoval and Leviss reportedly had an “all-out affair” for months, leading to his split from Madix; Sandoval and Madix photographed in February 2023

A source also told Page Six that Sandoval and Leviss had intended to brief Madix on the matter “for weeks.”

They waited so long, however, that Madix ended up finding out their secret herself Wednesday night when she saw Leviss’s text messages on Sandoval’s phone.

Madix unfollowed Sandoval and Leviss on Instagram after finding out about their months-long relationship. She also unfollowed Schwartz, who allegedly found out about his friend’s cheating “a month ago.”

Sandoval, who is also Schwartz’s business partner, wrote on his Instagram that his co-star only found out about his infidelity “very recently” and “did not condone” his actions.

Messy: Madix unfollowed Sandoval and Leviss on Instagram following news of the affair. She also unfollowed Schwartz, who reportedly found out “a month ago”; Leviss pictured 2022

Anyway, back then one of our mutual friends had a car and offered to drive it. Something deep inside me thought this was a little suss, I mean, surely she has better things to do with her time than pick him up every Sunday, but I ignored the red flag and let it play out. A couple of months later, after sharing intimate car rides with him, another friend called to say that she had seen them at McDonald’s making out in a booth.

Well, overturn me with a feather! He was heartbroken, but deep down not surprised. Because your instinct is never wrong! He had watched her attraction grow slowly. The inside jokes, the lecherous looks. These car rides had brought them closer and in a nudie rudie way, he wasn’t happy about it!

Now you may think that this is a one-time event that occurs very rarely, but according to research from the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at the University of Colorado Boulder, Americans who admit to extramarital sex are likely cheating on a close friend.

Yeah! Just over half (53.5 percent) of those who reported extramarital sex said they were unfaithful with someone they knew well, such as a close friend. The reasoning behind this high stat was because the two cheeky cheaters had already developed inherent qualities in each other, including emotional intimacy, closeness, friendship, and support.

there you go If you think your partner is getting too close to your best friend, stay alert. There’s a jungle out there! Side note: no one is loyal anymore?