A transgender husband and wife who just welcomed a baby with his biological girlfriend revealed the tensions in their “very modern family” while sharing a narrow bed in a small Brooklyn apartment.
A couple consisting of a woman, a transgender man and a transgender woman welcomed a son on April 3, named Rochbert Joseph Ozymandias, or Rocco.
Grace Lavery, who was born a man but now identifies as a woman, and her ex-husband, her agony aunt Daniel Lavery, who was born a woman but now identifies as a man, began dating in 2018, when they were both in the midst of a transition.
They married a year later, but in 2021, the couple, who live in Brooklyn, New York, decided to add a third person to their romance: a woman named Lily Woodruff.
Their living conditions and close work proximity have created some tension: Danny and Lily had their first real fight over recycling in December.
In a candid conversation with The cut, Danny admitted to being a ‘damn’ sometimes, and he and Lily were a little on tiptoe around each other..
Grace Lavery, Daniel Lavery and Lily Woodruff live in Brooklyn, New York
The couple recently announced the birth of their son Rochbert Joseph Ozymandias.
Grace was born a man but now identifies as a woman and Daniel was born a woman but now identifies as a man. His living conditions and his close work proximity have caused tensions. Their first fight over recycling (They are seen at their wedding in 2018)
Grace and Lily had first become intimate after meeting online a year after Grace and Danny’s wedding, The Cut reported.
“There were ways I still felt like you and I sometimes had our ‘company ways’ with each other,” Danny as he explained his relationship with Lily.
“I think the outcome has been really positive,” Lily said.
“I’m so sorry we had to go through being an idiot,” Danny added.
Their nightly routines vary: one partner retires early to brush their teeth, while the others enjoy a late meal before going to bed together.
Danny told The Cut that he brushes his teeth at 8:30 p.m., while Lily and Grace usually eat around 10 p.m. Then Danny will get into bed around midnight.
Danny described the household as “lesbian dominant,” but explained that it is not about asserting dominance but rather acknowledging their shared background and experiences within lesbianism.
“I don’t mean that in the sense that we’re dominant lesbians,” she told The Cut. ‘I just want to say that we all have enough experience in lesbianism and in the processing of lesbian school, something that not all lesbians do, or have to do, or should do, but that exists. I think we all like it.’
Their living conditions and close work proximity have caused tensions. His first proper fight was over recycling.
Grace previously revealed that Lily was pregnant in December, describing her impending arrival at the time as “the gayest baby in the tri-state area.”
Grace and Daniel began dating in 2018, when they were both in the midst of a transition, and they married a year later. They are seen on the left in 2018 and on the right recently.
The couple anticipates that their son will one day be able to notice the uniqueness of their family dynamic, particularly since they all live and work together in a one-bathroom apartment.
Danny said, “I’m sure there will come a day when our son says, ‘I went to someone else’s house and they don’t do this all day.'” He didn’t know that he could live so peacefully. Maybe that’s one of the ways heterosexuality will be reintroduced into our home.”
The group also discussed how they could afford to stay in New York with a baby, which involves writer Danny “getting a day job,” The Cut reported.
Grace shared the news about her newborn in early April via Instagram, writing: ‘Friends. Let me introduce you to Rochbert Joseph Ozymandias. Rocco for you.
They called the newborn the “gayest baby in the tri-state area” at the time.
‘His consciousness joined the flesh of the world at 7 a.m. this morning, April 3, at which time he weighed eight pounds and five ounces.
“She has blue eyes, sensitive fingers, a laissez faire attitude toward pronouns, the soft scent of late summer plums, a sleepy smile, and a sweet, gentle temperament befitting someone of her undoubted rank and stature.
‘He is the greatest human being I have ever met. His father, Daniel, and his Lala, Lily, share my exuberance. Greetings Rocco. We will try to remember for you and learn with you.’
Grace previously revealed that Lily was pregnant in December, describing her impending arrival at the time as “the gayest baby in the tri-state area.”
Danny, who admitted to being a ‘D***’, said: “There were ways in which I still felt like you and I sometimes had our ‘companionship manners’ with each other.”
“Friends, I have exciting news: We’re having a baby,” she gushed while sharing a photo of Lily cradling her baby bump.
‘Among the many exciting elements of this blessing has been the opportunity to see my partners, whom I love so deeply, become mom and dad: Lily visibly, and all of us with happy and inspired hearts.
“Keep our multilateral team of parents in your hearts and vibes until early April… We look forward to introducing you to the gayest baby in the tri-state area soon.”
The couple often documents their relationship online, where they have amassed a combined 28,000 followers.
Many of his followers flooded the publication with their happy reactions.
‘I’m so excited for all of you. Watching you all’s relationship blossom has been so beautiful,” one person wrote.
Daniel Lavery said he brushes his teeth at 8:30 p.m., while Lily and Grace Lavery usually eat around 10 p.m. Then Danny will get into bed around 12 a.m.
‘Sending you all the best energy as you transition into becoming parents and growing your family.’
‘Congratulations on joining your family. I hope all the parental units do well and that everyone enjoys some quality bonding time,” someone else said.
Another user added: ‘Thank you for creating a beautiful example of family in our modern times.
“May you all have an amazing transition into parenthood, with all the positive vibes for sleeping, eating, general baby stuff, etc. to come.”
Daniel, a writer, previously spoke about the transition at the same time as his partner Grace.