It takes only six months to decide whether someone is wedding material (38 days LESS than singles think)
- Experts say that the results show that we are quicker to make a judgment than we think
- On average, married people took only 172 days in their relationship to decide
- Single people estimate that it would take 210 days – 22 percent longer
It is often said that a hasty marriage repents at your convenience.
Now scientific research has shown that when it comes to choosing a spouse, we make our mind faster than you might think.
On average, married people spent only 172 days in their relationship – just under six months – before they were sure they wanted to button the knot, found a scientific study.
Single people estimate that it would take 210 days – 22 percent longer.
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It is often said that a hasty marriage repents at your convenience. Now, scientific research has shown that when it comes to choosing a spouse, we can raise our minds faster than you might think (stock image).
We are often worried that some choices are very complicated – and that will take a lot of time.
But scientists at the University of Chicago say their results show that we are quicker to judge than we think we are – and a lot less picky – in many other areas, including whether we like a neighbor or not, or that we like a certain style of art.
The researchers say that time estimates for decisions are based on how much information we think we need to collect.
But like everyone who has the TV program & # 39; Mr & Mrs & # 39; has seen, will often know husbands and wives little about the main interests of their partners, indicating that we collect very little.
The findings did not only apply to finding a beloved companion during a lifetime of bliss.
An unfortunate consequence of the investigation is that we can turn against someone more quickly. The survey said we expect to wait until we see the & # 39; bad & # 39; side of someone five times have seen, but in reality we make up after three bad impressions.
This also applied to the academic skills of a student, based on exam scores, good or bad experiences from neighbors, the sporting ability of an athlete and / or a gambler & happiness; or not.
The authors add: "People consume much less information than expected before they think things are right or wrong"
On average, married people spent only 172 days in their relationship – just under six months – before they were sure they wanted to button the knot, found a scientific study. Single people estimate that it would take 210 days – 22 percent longer (stock image)
Another experiment investigated how long it takes for someone to decide whether they like or dislike a style of art.
Participants predicted that they had to see 16 paintings before they could form an opinion – on average they only had to look at three.
Determining whether a type of juice is to your liking or not was even faster: people expected to be able to taste it three times – but only one taste was enough.
The authors conclude: & # 39; People have been invented before they think. Instead of carefully weighing all possible evidence, good things stand out because good and bad things affect us much faster than we expect to draw these conclusions. & # 39;
What are the ten steps to intimacy?
1. Learn to communicate without anger, guilt or defense. Learn to see the situation from the perspective of your partner.
2. Learn to accept and love each other for who you are now, not who you have been or want the other person to be.
3. Do not put your head in the sand if you know there are problems. Faced with the truth – faltering or lying or any other deception must be confronted in reality. Things do not get better on their own; time does not solve anything. It only makes the burden of lying heavier. You have to do the work to reap the benefits.
4. Do not treat your partner with contempt; you have spent too many years together to end up in a cold war.
5. Re-define your values and what the relationship means to you.
6. Do not pretend everything is perfect just to save face.
7. Laugh together and stop criticizing.
8. Do not be submissive. It only serves to arouse resentment.
9. Spend time together and enjoy each other. See how quickly you start to become happier and how quickly your partner notices you and treats you well.
10. Focus honestly on how you behave in marriage, without ifs, buts or maybes.