A distraught woman has revealed how torn she is between returning with her husband after their split or starting a new relationship with her best friend.
Anna moved from India to Sydney to start a new life after tying her childhood sweetheart at age 15.
But last year, the now 38-year-old noted that their love “drifted” after realizing they never shared an “emotional bond” during the course of their relationship.
The businesswoman then made a romance with her boyfriend, whose marriage was also part, before her husband begged her to breathe new life into their love.
The “miserable” woman – from a traditional Indian background – said she doesn’t know what to do because her culture says it would bring her “shame” if she left her marriage for another man.
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A distraught woman – who comes from a traditional Indian background – has explained in detail how she fell in love with her married best friend after splitting with her husband (stock image)
“I’ve been married for a long time. I only kissed one man. Married at 3 pm. Last year I felt our love wandering, ‘Anna told radio duo Kyle and Jackie O on KIISFM in a tear segment called Group Therapy.
She said the couple had a “rough journey” when they moved to Australia to “make ends meet” after getting married at such a young age.
“We got married because we wanted to be together and we made it work for a long time. We’ve worked really hard to make ends meet… We’re doing well now, we have a few properties in Sydney, we’re doing really well, ”she said.
But Anna said their relationship started to crumble last year after she realized she was missing that “ special bond ” with her husband.
“He’s such a nice guy, he’s a very nice guy. But the emotional connection was never there, but you never know anything like that because I’ve only been with one man, ”she said.
Only when she spoke to her friend, whose marriage was also on the rocks.
“I always had a friend when I came to Australia, he’s just a friend and he has kids and a good family. They are our family friend, “she said.
“His marriage broke up at the same time and he told me and I told him. I just felt we had that emotional connection that I missed.
“Marriage doesn’t come with a book … you just keep going and take what you get. I am a person who just makes it work every time. But I didn’t know I missed that [connection] until now.’
The “miserable” woman turned to Kyle and Jackie O for help after her husband wanted her back
Anna said she and her husband broke up last year before starting a romantic relationship with her boyfriend, but things got complicated because of her cultural beliefs.
“I’m a one-man woman, it’s my values, it’s my core to make it work … He’s a really nice guy, but I just never knew these connections should be in a marriage,” she said.
“I just feel different now, maybe I grew from 15 to 38 now.”
She encouraged her friend to “ go back to marriage ” after their relationship ended after a year together, because she couldn’t bear the thought of destroying two families.
“I thought I had destroyed the family – two families – and my values just didn’t let me in because I felt I had to fix everything I could fix. Children are involved, they are very young, so they would not understand. I just hate that, “she said.
“I just don’t want to despise anyone … I just want to be happy and I don’t want anyone to get hurt – that’s all I care about.
“We both have similar personalities. He’s had a lot of compassion for me, he’s nice and ready for me 24/7 even when we broke up. ‘
Anna was brought to tears when she revealed how her cruel ‘friends’ called her dirty names, such as ‘w ****’ and ‘s ***’ for dating another man.
“I have so many problems, I can’t trust anyone,” she said.
And to make things even more difficult for her, Anna said her husband wants her back now, while her new flame said to her, “I can’t see my life without you.”
Kyle and Jackie O called on listeners to share their advice and their own experiences in an effort to help Anna decide whether to follow her heart or stay miserable with her husband
Kyle and Jackie O called on listeners to share their advice and personal experiences to help Anna decide whether to follow her heart or stay miserable with her husband for the rest of her life.
A caller, an Indian-Australian woman, told Anna not to waste her time with her husband if she is really in love with her best friend.
“I understand where you are from. If you’re not in love with your husband, there’s no point in going back, ”she said.
‘Cause if you go out for five or ten years, you kick yourself and think’ what am I doing here? “You should be with the person you love.
“I’m an Indian too, it’s not that easy. You know what? Time has changed, you have to be strong and do what your heart says and not try to make everyone happy all the time. ‘
A second caller, Danielle, said she made the best decision of her life after leaving her marriage to be with her best friend.
“Go with your heart Anna, because your situation is exactly the same as mine. I left my husband all those years ago. And my now husband left his wife, he was my best friend and I married my best friend, “she said.
“Everything worked out, everyone was fine, good and happy. Now we have a daughter together and it is great.
“People said things to you, people said annoying things about what we did, they don’t know the truth. You know the truth yourself. You and your heart know what is good. Do what is right for you and you will feel good about it. ‘