An etiquette expert has revealed the 7 dating mistakes you should never make if you see someone rich.
In a sexy YouTube video, Micah Meyerwho founded Beaumont etiquetteshares your reasons for not scoring a second date with that potential partner.
Mika, who is based in New York, compiled the list based on pet peeves expressed by her successful clients.
She warns people to admit they’ve Googled their rich love interests, to take pictures of their homes and properties on social media, and to ask them what they do for a living.
If you’ve ever wondered what you’re doing wrong, Myka breaks down dating mistakes you could have made that were red flags below.
Etiquette expert Myka Meier reveals the 7 mistakes people make when dating a rich in love
Don’t Admit to Googling Your Partner: ‘It Feels Invasive’
“Here are seven common mistakes I hear frequently and see that rich people don’t like the person they’re dating” Etiquette expert It starts in the video.
“Now a lot of them are very easy to fix and a lot of them you would think are so innocent, ‘I had no idea they could be offensive to someone,’ which they are.”
Myka says the first thing people should avoid is telling their Google history.
I know everyone is Googling everyone these days, right? But actually there is something here about privacy,” she tells viewers.
On dating apps or when you first meet someone, they may introduce themselves (by first name) only or you only see their first name.
If you had admitted that you did all the digging and got additional information they didn’t tell you about them, that would be overwhelming.
Many successful people are ordinary people. They often don’t have social media accounts or even anything other than LinkedIn, and sometimes they don’t have any at all.
“I’m talking about very successful people with high net worth.”
It’s tempting, but don’t admit to googling your date. Myka says it can be considered ‘invasive’ (Stock photo)
Make it affordable: Don’t order the most expensive item on the list
The second mistake Myka warns people against is ordering the most expensive item on the menu.
“That’s a big no,” she said, adding that it might give the impression that you’re “taking advantage of a situation.”
No matter how much lobster you want on that menu or that steak, whatever it is, don’t order it.
This is the same for wine or champagne or anything like that. Now if your host…says “Would you like a glass of champagne?” Or if they order one… Of course, enjoy it, but you don’t have to be the one who picks the most expensive bottle, picks the most expensive item of the meal.
These are the rich and successful people who don’t want to be taken advantage of, and if they are rich and successful, they’re probably smart, and they’ll figure out if that’s the only reason why. there.’
Don’t ask about their job: instead ask them about their weekend or holiday
Another mistake when it comes to dating a rich person is asking them what they do for a living.
Myka advises people to avoid this topic when they strike up a conversation with a potential love interest at a bar, party, or networking event.
You might think, “Of course, this is something I always ask, this is something people ask me about.” But the reason it’s not a good idea to ask someone a question, especially someone in a position of success and wealth, and especially if you already know that about them, is that again it comes off as pushy, she explains.
“It’s almost like, ‘How much can you give me?'” What can you do for me? What can I get from you? “
So if you spot a “well-dressed person,” don’t ask that question because it’s an “instant turn-off,” Mika adds.
Instead, she suggests asking people about their plans over the weekend or last weekend, over the summer or the best place they went for their winter vacation.
“It doesn’t matter what time of year it is, there’s always something else to talk about and eventually it will show what they do for a living,” says Mika.
The only exception is if they ask you and you re-enquire.
Another mistake when it comes to dating a rich person is asking them what they do for a living. Myka says it gives the impression that you’re looking forward to getting something from them
Dropping hints about buying you a gift can be massively counterproductive
Never ask your wealthy romantic interest to buy you a gift, warns Mika.
If you’re out shopping, walking down Fifth Avenue, or in Harrods, wherever you are, I want you to own that you want to buy something yourself, even if it’s something just down the road that you’d like to be gifted to you.
You don’t want to say that to the person. Keep it in your head, once they get to know you, once they’ve been dating for a long time, it’s your birthday, it’s a holiday, maybe they’ll give you a gift, maybe they’ll give you something.
“But you never want to be the one asking for something… because again it’s like if you use them, you tell them how much they spend on you, when they spend on you, what they spend on you. And that should be up to them, not you.”
STAY OFF YOUR PHONE: Keep your date’s home and belongings away from social media
“This is a big mistake,” Mika comments, before sharing the fifth dating mistake.
She warns people not to take social media photos of their rich date’s home or property.
“It could be anything they own,” says the etiquette expert.
So they may invite you to their home and imagine they are walking into their living room and you are photographing their artwork or you are photographing their home.
Again, this is one of the biggest mistakes because… it really is an invasion of privacy, especially if there are expensive items in that house.
The last thing they want is to be on your next TikTok, your next Instagram profile…that’s what you want to avoid.
Let’s say you’re driving with them and you take out your phone. It’s so flashy, it’s almost like, “Look at me, look at where I am, look at who I’m dating, look at how much money they have, look at how much money I might have.” You really don’t want to go there.
“The same (goes for) taking pictures of their watch, taking pictures of their beautiful shoes and posting them… keep your phones away.”
“This is a big mistake,” Mika comments, before sharing the fifth dating mistake. She warns people not to take social media photos of their rich date’s home (Stock Photo)
Keep the “embarrassing” comments about their expensive items to yourself
Mistake six is that rich people don’t like their dates to “over-comment” on their expensive items, according to the etiquette expert.
You could say, “I love that piece of art, it’s so beautiful.” What you shouldn’t say is, “Is that Picasso?” You don’t want to pretend, you’re so impressed with their wealth, Mika explains.
You don’t want to also make them feel embarrassed about their wealth. You also never want to ask, “How much was that?” (It’s) the last thing you want to do.
Other examples given by Myka include “How much is that car? That’s so cute” and “That watch! What does that set you back?”
I cringe when I hear myself say them. They are very bad. Don’t make the same mistakes.”
Don’t forget to express your gratitude: go the extra mile by handwriting a “thank you” message
Myka list latest dating error does not show gratitude.
“People who share their life experiences, who come from a place of great privilege really appreciate gratitude,” she says.
They appreciate when someone says, “Thank you.” That handwritten note, that extra email, that extra text saying how much you enjoyed the experience, the history they took the time and thought to take you somewhere, that’s what’s most important, so be grateful.
Don’t expect, ever, don’t think they will always pay you every time. This is not often the case in modern literatures.
It’s a “cool and cute” gesture, Myka adds, to always offer to pay your way and treat your rich love interest, too.
“Your success as an entrepreneur, as a business or professional person, as a social person is also attractive, so don’t forget those things,” she says.