A therapist revealed the 5 red flags you may be ignoring during the honeymoon phase of your relationship that could herald a messy breakup.
Jeff Ginterfrom Portland, Oregon, has become a TikTok sensation for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance sections.
Recently, he shared a video with his 2.5 million followers detailing the things you might overlook when you’re madly in love with your partner.
According to a love specialist, a partner who always wants to “keep the peace” or is “overly dependent” on you can lead to more trouble down the road.
Geoff Gunther, from Portland, Oregon, revealed the 5 red flags you might be ignoring during the honeymoon phase of your relationship that could herald a messy breakup.
He has become a sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments
According to a love specialist, a partner who is “overly controlling” or “just jealous” can lead to more trouble.
In a caption to the clip, “Five Red Flags to Ignore on the Honeymoon Phase,” the therapist revealed what you should look out for.
Jeff revealed that the first warning sign is someone who is “overly controlling.”
He explained that while it may seem like a “good sign,” you have to be careful if you notice it.
He revealed, “Don’t mistake this for a good sign because they seem to be able to ask for whatever they want but really they are trying to control who you spend time with or what you do.”
For the next tip, the therapist revealed that although we all want someone obsessed with us, it’s not always a good sign.
He explained that jealousy and possessiveness are huge red flags in a relationship.
How amazing does it feel when someone is obsessed with you? I think it feels great but their insecurities may be spinning out of control, so stay tuned,” the therapist advised.
Being close to your partner is giving, but not setting any boundaries or spending time apart can cause things to turn south.
“Number three, no boundaries,” he said.
He continued, “Being suffocated can feel super in love, but also a partner who doesn’t respect your boundaries or constantly pressures you to do things you’re not comfortable with isn’t good.”
Being close to your partner is giving, but not setting any boundaries or spending time apart can cause things to turn south.
Finally, the final warning signs to watch out for during the early stages of your relationship is someone who is conflict avoidant and codependent.
Having an argument with your partner is fun but it can be necessary, according to a therapist who claimed the fourth red flag to look for is someone who avoids conflict.
“While it’s natural to want to keep the peace during the honeymoon phase, avoiding conflict altogether can lead to unresolved issues and resentment down the road,” Geoff explained.
Finally, the last warning sign to watch for during the early stages of your relationship is someone who is overly dependent.
“Feeling loved is needed, but a partner who is overly dependent on you for emotional or financial support may struggle with independence and personal growth,” explained the love expert.
Viewers flocked to the comments section to thank the therapist, with many even revealing that they ignored red flags in past relationships.
Viewers flocked to the comments section to thank the therapist, with many even revealing that they ignored red flags in past relationships
I ignored all of this. One person has now commented on their eight and a half year relationship and filed for divorce.
One user said, “I just summed up my recent relationships – I’m working through my issues.” Thank you.’
The five I and I married. I wish I had never had this,” someone else shared.
Another person added, “Oh, in a nutshell, my ex.”
“I’m so glad you did these videos,” one user wrote.
